Anonymous wrote:Time for private school.

Only happening in aftercare, so that seems an overreaction.

Anonymous wrote:Time for private school.

FWIW, both my sister’s kid & a friend’s kid had simiar experiences in private schools.

Time for private school.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a child at my DS school that is consistently hurting my child and others on an almost daily basis in extended day He has punched my son(age 5) in the face, breaking his glasses, stratched his back, pushed him against a wall causing a knot on his his head and bitten his arm. There have many many complaints and the extended day staff have reassured us the child has a 1:1 aid, but the incidents keeps happening. I confirmed with staff that my child is not provoking this child(he isn’t aggressive at all but wanted to make sure.) I don’t know what else to do?

I have such a difficult time processing how people do this to their children. Is the extra money so important that you are both willing to make the trade over your child being abused?

Hire a babysitter until you find other arrangements. Take time off work. Do something ffs!

+1 I don't understand the focus on trying to get rid of the other kid. I'd be focusing on the immediate need to get my kid out of there.

Anonymous wrote:There is a child at my DS school that is consistently hurting my child and others on an almost daily basis in extended day He has punched my son(age 5) in the face, breaking his glasses, stratched his back, pushed him against a wall causing a knot on his his head and bitten his arm. There have many many complaints and the extended day staff have reassured us the child has a 1:1 aid, but the incidents keeps happening. I confirmed with staff that my child is not provoking this child(he isn’t aggressive at all but wanted to make sure.) I don’t know what else to do?

I have such a difficult time processing how people do this to their children. Is the extra money so important that you are both willing to make the trade over your child being abused?

Hire a babysitter until you find other arrangements. Take time off work. Do something ffs!

Anonymous wrote:OMG that is horrible! Tell the school principal that you are going to file charges. Enough is enough. Special needs or not, this is the fault of the school running the aftercare. Your poor child!

This.

Anonymous wrote:I know it is not common but I would let my child hit back in this case, and would back him up. But, my kid is a fighter, thrill seeker etc. His friend however is a very cautious child afraid of the slightest physical pain, so this wouldn’t work for him.
Interestingly, my son was hardly ever a target, yet his friend is often one.

I think ALL children understand not to mess with the kid that will fight them back and likely kick their a**.

Tell the principal and the director of the aftercare that you are contacting the police. That’s assault, not to mention repeated assault.

I know it is not common but I would let my child hit back in this case, and would back him up. But, my kid is a fighter, thrill seeker etc. His friend however is a very cautious child afraid of the slightest physical pain, so this wouldn’t work for him.
Interestingly, my son was hardly ever a target, yet his friend is often one.

Name who runs the afterschool program. Is it one that needs to be licensed? Hopefully it is and you can call and make a complaint. Have other parents call too.

Document, document, document, and report every single episode to the relevant management. Classmates should do the same.

What county are you in? In Fairfax, after school care is run through the county, not the school system. I'd go straight to the top of the program, letting the school center director know AFTER you've made a connection to the top. This is unacceptable, and I'm sorry you are having to deal with it.

Anonymous wrote:There is a child at my DS school that is consistently hurting my child and others on an almost daily basis in extended day He has punched my son(age 5) in the face, breaking his glasses, stratched his back, pushed him against a wall causing a knot on his his head and bitten his arm. There have many many complaints and the extended day staff have reassured us the child has a 1:1 aid, but the incidents keeps happening. I confirmed with staff that my child is not provoking this child(he isn’t aggressive at all but wanted to make sure.) I don’t know what else to do?

This sounds like my 7 year old nephew who is special needs. He treats my child exactly this way and I know he acts out in his school as well. His parents and school staff don’t seem to properly discipline him or correct his behavior because he’s special needs and they don’t think he has the cognitive ability to grasp the punishment. I call BS. He’s manipulative and is acting out of frustration because he’s at an age where he’s really no longer to keep up with this peers. It was less obvious when every kid was not speaking clearly or lacked some coordination.

Please do something about this now before it gets worse. I unfortunately let it go for too long and no longer bring my child around my nephew.

Anonymous wrote:I have a SN child and there was a first grade typical child doing all of the types of things in OP's note -- even shoved leaves down his shirt after dragging DS on the ground outside during lunch recess. Nothing happened to other child. YMMV.

If nothing happened, the kid most likely had special needs that you were not privy too.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG that is horrible! Tell the school principal that you are going to file charges. Enough is enough. Special needs or not, this is the fault of the school running the aftercare. Your poor child!

This. Schools are scared to exclude SN kids or treat them differently because they don’t want to be sued themselves. You need to give them an “excuse” so they feel justified in doing it.

File charges against the child to get the police involved, and then complain to the administrators in your area who are higher up than the principal.

+1. Make the school and the district accountable.

If this is happening in aftercare you need to deal with aftercare, not the school.
Aftercare just rents space from the school, they are not part of the school system and the principal is not involved in the business.

I agree with other PPs who think you should consider different care - not because of the child in question, but because of the way the aftercare is handling the situation.

This is not definitively true about aftercare. At a number of DC schools it is handled by the school itself.