1. Document everything.
2. Consult with a lawyer.
3. Change the locks on the house.
4. Revoke her access to your credit card and bank accounts.
5. When she come home, meet her at the door and tell her to go stay with her boyfriend.

She could get a court order to force you to let her back home, but it'll be fun watching her squirm until then...

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she went to spend time with old girl friends but didn’t think you’d be ok with that? Could it possibly be anything other than an affair? I’m not excusing her lying and that is a big issue—but she didn’t really cover her tracks well at all for someone having an affair.

LMAOOOOOO

AS IF anyone would say this if it was a man.

I’m assuming the sex is fine as you’re not cheating.


How’s your laundry game, OP? Earning potential up to scrub?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK so she is telling her parents that she did arrive earlier but wanted to surprise them this morning so she didn't go to their house right away. I called BS and asked where she was staying and said its a airbnb. She will not give me a receipt. Her parents are telling me to cool down and that maybe she just wanted some alone time. I knew they would side with her.

She flew out there Friday and waited to "surprise" her parents on Tuesday morning?

This. Makes no sense. Who did she Kiss at midnight last night?

Do not have kids with and move on. It’s time talk to a lawyer about divorce. Do not let her blindside you.

Anonymous wrote:What a let down. Back in the day, trolls were logical, great writers with rich imagination

It is sad. Perhaps you can take comfort in 11:58’s humor and creativity. It’s helping me through this painful thread.

I just realized that she got a manicure and pedicure last week. She has this one yellow toenail that I've been telling here to go to the podiatrist and get fixed and she hasn't done it. But last week she got her toenails painted. I teased her about it but I'm thinking now that she didn't was this new guy to see her toenail.

What a let down. Back in the day, trolls were logical, great writers with rich imagination

You are lucky there are no kids and she is still working. No kids, no alimony, clean divorce.

Anonymous wrote:OK so she is telling her parents that she did arrive earlier but wanted to surprise them this morning so she didn't go to their house right away. I called BS and asked where she was staying and said its a airbnb. She will not give me a receipt. Her parents are telling me to cool down and that maybe she just wanted some alone time. I knew they would side with her.

She flew out there Friday and waited to "surprise" her parents on Tuesday morning?

Don't let her stay home.

Anonymous wrote:You're not crazy about the in-laws, are you? How has your marriage been? Kids?

Recently there has been some tension building with regard to the in-laws. Her mom more specifically. Her parents have been telling her that they are not happy about here working and that would prefer if she quits and stays home. The situation is nuanced but I feel like they are undermining our relationship is subtle ways. She was happy working and contributing but now that her mom is pushing on her to quit working she has started to be more and more grumpy about her job and at me. No kids yet and there is some pressure about from her parents also. I think everything was going fine until her parents started putting pressure on us. I've been nervous about getting trapped into being the bread winner while she stays home and I don't think my position on that is going to change.

Anonymous wrote:OK so she is telling her parents that she did arrive earlier but wanted to surprise them this morning so she didn't go to their house right away. I called BS and asked where she was staying and said its a airbnb. She will not give me a receipt. Her parents are telling me to cool down and that maybe she just wanted some alone time. I knew they would side with her.

She's their daughter. Of course they'll side with her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she went to spend time with old girl friends but didn’t think you’d be ok with that? Could it possibly be anything other than an affair? I’m not excusing her lying and that is a big issue—but she didn’t really cover her tracks well at all for someone having an affair.

I don't know what she is doing but either way she lied about her plans. I've got mixed feelings about this. On the one hand I'm upset and on the other I think its great that her parents caught her but then I'm sure they will believe whatever she tells them. I've never bought into them calling me their son.

Don't say a word to her yet. Keep getting info. Even talk to her parents again. Then you can confront her with direct evidence, but seriously, take a deep breath and think about what you want to do. And consult with an attorney.