He is divorced with a small child. Run!

Op here,

The baby conversation was kind of an offhanded, casual response, he asked if I wanted kids and I said 'yes but in the far future.' and he responded with 'Eventually I would want Larla to have a sibling.' He said it casually, but a big part of me felt like it was a red flag. I was automatically thinking, OMG I must be crazy for doing this.

Thank you guys all for your responses! I think I'm just going to keep things fun and light with him, I don't see this relationship getting serious. Med school should really be my focus and I don't want to let some guy ruin that for me.

You guys are amazing!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:he has a child so he is damaged goods. There is a reason his ex didn't want him so you should be warned.

I can imagine if the genders were reversed and posters would be crying misogyny instead because of the 'damaged goods' label lol. Just saying.

stop with the MRA stuff. He isn't a good father because he is divorced and obviously did not put the needs of the family above his own. He needs to be focused 100% on his kid. He made is choice to have a kid and he needs to live up to his responsibility. I'm tired of divorced men starting over with a second family and leaving their ex to raise their child all alone.

Single moms who didn't take any responsibility in the first place and expect future husband to care for them and their kid are way worse. Maybe this guy's ex is crazy who knows? You do sound like a misandrist.

As others have said, age gap is NBD. 1 year-old and ex-wife = significant.

Run, girl, run.

Age gap is not a problem. It's way too much baggage to take on when just 22 with a lot of options.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:he has a child so he is damaged goods. There is a reason his ex didn't want him so you should be warned.

I can imagine if the genders were reversed and posters would be crying misogyny instead because of the 'damaged goods' label lol. Just saying.

stop with the MRA stuff. He isn't a good father because he is divorced and obviously did not put the needs of the family above his own. He needs to be focused 100% on his kid. He made is choice to have a kid and he needs to live up to his responsibility. I'm tired of divorced men starting over with a second family and leaving their ex to raise their child all alone.

Anonymous wrote:he has a child so he is damaged goods. There is a reason his ex didn't want him so you should be warned.

I can imagine if the genders were reversed and posters would be crying misogyny instead because of the 'damaged goods' label lol. Just saying.

he has a child so he is damaged goods. There is a reason his ex didn't want him so you should be warned.

You can do better than a guy with an ex-wife and kid. Don't rush into anything. As an MD, you'll be a catch. Don't settle.

PS - you might be his rebound. He might go back to his family at some point.

Pass, you’re going to be a doctor and he procreated with someone he shouldn’t have. You are on a path towards success and can do better.

damn girl! you don't need a man and especially not at age 22! he sounds like a creep trying to get a younger woman. You got a good career and that is all you need. He just wants to replace the ex wife cause he don't know how to take care of his kid. He is using you. finish medical school and your residency. You can start looking for a partner that is your equal and can carry his 50% if that is what your really want after you've established your practice. I sure wish I didn't get distracted by my husband and have kids so early! I could have done so much more with my life.

divorced 28 year old with a one year old is red flag central.