Anonymous wrote:I got Henkels knives that he wanted.

Exchange them for something you want.

Anonymous wrote:Op here - just to clarify I didn’t receive anything for Hanukkah. DH is Jewish so I got him things and the kids presents. I celebrated with them but I didn’t expect anything then.

Sounds like you married an insensitive idiot.

Op here - just to clarify I didn’t receive anything for Hanukkah. DH is Jewish so I got him things and the kids presents. I celebrated with them but I didn’t expect anything then.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is the same way. I get him all the stuff he wants and I get nothing for either holiday. That's ok... time to hit the after holiday clearances.

How is this in any way acceptable? I don’t get this at all. What is going through his mind?

Laziness

Anonymous wrote:I'm a dumb husband and I know enough to at least try to give something

But I might have made the mistake of assuming Hanukkah was enough

I'm a dumb husband and I know enough to at least try to give something

OP here - not a drama queen, I’m not making a big deal of it or ruining Christmas I’m just saying I’m bummed DH didn’t reciprocate since I got him some small things a few weeks ago for his holiday. I thought it was normal that he would do some small things for my holiday.

Anonymous wrote:Op here - I wouldn’t be offended for something small, not that kind of person. I actually like that kind of thing and prefer it over something expensive. I didn’t specifically say - get me x - but is that necessary? Genuine question, I feel like I do 99% when it comes to holidays. Do I also have to handle my own gift?

Based on results, it is necessary for your DH.

Tell him flat out what you want. I’d you wait for him to be a mind reader, you could be waiting for a long time.

Anonymous wrote:https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Love_Languages

YES!
This is so important to remember this time of year. If your DH doesn't give gifts, then it definitely is not his love language (for giving OR receiving). But if it's yours, you need to be sure that he knows that you receive love through gifts given to you. Or you give love through gifts you give to others. So when you give a gift, you may intend it to be an outward expression of your love for people you care about, but he may regard it as just "a waste of money on some crap people don't need" so he doesn't want to waste money on crap YOU don't need. But maybe his language is touch...and he likes to hold hands or rub your back or give you a hug. Or maybe it's words of affirmation...and he tells you he appreciates you a lot, which is his way of showing love.
Most people are a combination of one or two of the five love languages. It's worth a read as helpful insight in order to understand and connect better to the people you care about.

This thread makes women seem so petty. You can't do things for yourself?

People saying gift-giving may not be his love language? That's bullshit. It's a major holiday and if your family celebrates it he should have enough common sense to get you a gift.

You need to tell him. "Hey Steve. Next Christmas, you need to give me a present. On my birthday, on our anniversary, at Christmas, you need to give me a f*cking present so I don't quietly seethe at you. Got it?"

Op, your dh is an ass. Clearly is missing a sensitivity chip. Sorry.

He sucks. He must realize it would mean something to you. Next Dec give him a wish list and tell him it would mean a lot to you if he surprised you with gift(s) on Xmas.

My husband and I stopped giving gifts years ago. The great joy of being an adult is buying what you want when you want it