OP, how often do you rely on your sister for free babysitting?

Anonymous wrote:If she barely dates, be happy for her. I'd voluntarily give up my anniversary date night for a sister who has a hard time finding dates and finally gets one. There's a high probability it won't work out, but let her have the opportunity. Having her try to reschedule the date would not be nice.

This. It's annoying that she cancelled, but think of the comparison: her having a hard time with her love life and hoping to meet someone (while age 30 isn't old, she's not in her 20s anymore) vs. you celebrating your wedding anniversary with your life partner whom you love. Consider it as being a good sister to her.

I would totally be so happy for her. Not cool to be annoyed. Just find a different sitter or go out another night.

It's your right to be annoyed and you're allowed to. Can't help the way we feel. Especially with her offering? Yup. Now, should it ruin your Christmas or Anniversary? Nah.

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Anonymous wrote:I am very happy for her! A little disappointed as I was looking forward to going out. No tickets so it’s not pressing and our actual anniversary was a few weeks ago so waiting a little longer is no big deal.

ffs it wasn't even your actual anniversary? Why is this even a question?

Agree. OP, wtf

Anonymous wrote:Not really mad just annoyed that we’ll have to cancel or scramble to find a sitter . She offered to watch the kids so DH and I could go out for our anniversary. However she forgot about it and accepted a date. No she’s not a teen or twenty something, She’s 30 with very little experience with men and this guy she’s had a crush on asked her out. Normally I would be very happy for her, but right now I’m mostly annoyed. I can’t tell her that though right?

And everyone knows there is a HUGE difference between 29-year-olds & 30-year-olds....

You definitely have a right to be annoyed but it is also understandable that she was so excited when this guy she likes asked her out that her sister’s anniversary wasn’t really on her radar.

You don’t have to celebrate your anniversary on the actual date (thinking there is something magical about the specific date —even years later— is actually something a teen would do...); you can just as easily celebrate a day or a week later!

You gain nothing from being mad. And your anniversary is only special to you. I'd let it go and either find a sitter or order in.

Anonymous wrote:I am very happy for her! A little disappointed as I was looking forward to going out. No tickets so it’s not pressing and our actual anniversary was a few weeks ago so waiting a little longer is no big deal.

ffs it wasn't even your actual anniversary? Why is this even a question?

Anonymous wrote:If she barely dates, be happy for her. I'd voluntarily give up my anniversary date night for a sister who has a hard time finding dates and finally gets one. There's a high probability it won't work out, but let her have the opportunity. Having her try to reschedule the date would not be nice.

Absolutely this.

You should be happy for your sister.

I’d just like to encourage you to be EXTREMELY nice about it. Your sister probably feels bad and is already nervous about this date. Be excited for her (vocally) and tell her to call you tomorrow with the details.

I am very happy for her! A little disappointed as I was looking forward to going out. No tickets so it’s not pressing and our actual anniversary was a few weeks ago so waiting a little longer is no big deal.

Anonymous wrote:I’d understand and be happy my sister had a date!

This!

I wouldn’t be annoyed at all; I’d call my backup sitter list.

Anonymous wrote:I’d understand and be happy my sister had a date!

Same.