Anonymous wrote:Who are all you weird people who give up your bedrooms for guests? The master bedroom is for DH and me only!

OP, I would do exactly as you are doing!

+1. I also think this is weird, but I wouldn’t even have to speak up because my husband would be like, F no.

In our family we show our respect to our elders by giving them the best we have to offer. Sure the MIL and aunt/uncle are welcome to stay at a hotel if they want but I think my husband and I would be offended if our best wasn't good enough for them. There is no way on God's green earth that my husband or I would sleep in a bed and let a guest sleep on a crappy futon in the baby's room no less let alone move a guest twice. Manners, people, manners.

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I would put MIL in the guest room for the duration, and move myself and DH to the room with the futon while aunt and uncle are visiting, and give aunt and uncle your room, but I think your plan is also fine.

This is what we would do in my family. No way would I have anyone on a futon if it wasn't me/DH. Yowza.

This is making things too complicated. Give MIL the futon room right away. Who wants to change rooms for a few nights? When uncle and aunt leave, ask her then if she would rather move to the room they used.

Anonymous wrote:Okay, thanks all. We can definitely give her the option, although the futon room for the whole stretch isn't going to work b/c I don't want the baby in with us that long. In other words, unfortunately she'll have to move at least once.

She is also only 66 and very spry. For what that's worth!

Your way of doing things, including MIL's temporary move to the futon, is fine.

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Anonymous wrote:You should give the usual futon room to MIL and have the baby room with you rather than making her move TWICE. I would be miffed too if I had to play musical chairs when I just want to settle in one room for the visit.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I would put MIL in the guest room for the duration, and move myself and DH to the room with the futon while aunt and uncle are visiting, and give aunt and uncle your room, but I think your plan is also fine.

And I’d be “miffed” that you feel entitled to my hospitality each and every year, especially with a baby on the scene.

It’s called a hotel.

You would be upset that I chose to sleep in the baby's room? I always put my parents in my room when they visit. I don't have to, they would never complain, but it feels like a nice thing to do and I love them.

I have a separate guest room, so this isn’t an issue for me.

But if anyone was “miffed” about the quarters I had to offer, perhaps they should grow up and head to the Doubletree.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I would put MIL in the guest room for the duration, and move myself and DH to the room with the futon while aunt and uncle are visiting, and give aunt and uncle your room, but I think your plan is also fine.

And I’d be “miffed” that you feel entitled to my hospitality each and every year, especially with a baby on the scene.

It’s called a hotel.

You would be upset that I chose to sleep in the baby's room? I always put my parents in my room when they visit. I don't have to, they would never complain, but it feels like a nice thing to do and I love them.

I'm 49 and won"t sleep on a futon. Hotel perhaps

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I would put MIL in the guest room for the duration, and move myself and DH to the room with the futon while aunt and uncle are visiting, and give aunt and uncle your room, but I think your plan is also fine.

And I’d be “miffed” that you feel entitled to my hospitality each and every year, especially with a baby on the scene.

It’s called a hotel.

Who are all you weird people who give up your bedrooms for guests? The master bedroom is for DH and me only!

OP, I would do exactly as you are doing!

Too late for this year, but I think it's reasonable for everyone to understand that now that there is a new tiny human in the mix, the system that worked in the past involved 3 adults all staying at your place will not be feasible. Probably a good idea to start planting that seed in everyone's mind way before next December.

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I would put MIL in the guest room for the duration, and move myself and DH to the room with the futon while aunt and uncle are visiting, and give aunt and uncle your room, but I think your plan is also fine.

I would also do this.

Okay, thanks all. We can definitely give her the option, although the futon room for the whole stretch isn't going to work b/c I don't want the baby in with us that long. In other words, unfortunately she'll have to move at least once.

She is also only 66 and very spry. For what that's worth!

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Anonymous wrote:I would stay on the futon with DH and give the elderly the guest bed and the master bedroom.

The "elderly" woman is most welcome to have her very own queen bed at a hotel, folks. If you're a grown-ass adult who can't look at a situation and decide that you're going to have to face some form of discomfort and inconvenience if you want to be cheap, it's time to wise up.

So much this.