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Anonymous wrote:I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?

To answer your question: yes I would be fine with that. What is the alternative? Would you banish him from your home? Make sure you apply the rules to yourself. Didn't get a promotion? Can your kids live with this? etc etc.

Being a B student is not the end of the world! It could be much worse...your son could be addicted to drugs or a drug dealer, dying of cancer, get a girl pregnant, killed someone

Count your blessings, op!

This is hardly in the same class as the others.

Many of our teens will get or get somebody pregnant. We most likely will never know (Unless you live in Texas or Ohio) but really it's gonna happen.

Not true. Statistically, less than half of all teens are even having intercourse in the first place. Secondly, most of them are using birth control. Third, not everyone gets pregnant the first time they have sex without BC.

A minority of teens get pregnant these days. It's way down from the 80s.

YOU ARE MISSING THE POINT, PP. I am not debating the statistics of who gets pregnant! I am telling her it could be WORSE.

Enough... the point was if your child gets pregnant it's not the end of the world and not even close to dying of cancer or being a drug dealer. It's something many parents are dealing with successfully.

No, you could end the argument. I'm not saying the parents don't deal with all sort of problems. That is so basic that i can't believe I have to spell it out for you. If my only complaint/worry about my child is that he is graduating as a B student than I don't realize how blessed I am. Now do you get it?

OP, your kid’s going to be fine.

Of course I'd be ok, especially if my child did the best they could do. But I'm going to be happy for and with my child regardless, especially if I've done the best job parenting them that I could. When it comes time for college, I would help them pick out the best fit for them and continue to encourage and love them. The world is full of all types of folks with various grades in high school and A+ students aren't always the most successful or the most happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if you’re not ok with it, what exactly are you going to do about it? Your kid’s not that bright. Oh well.

You don’t have to be mean, it’s natural for a mother to worry.
FWIW I was a straight A student and my DH barely B student. He out earns me by more x2.

+1. In the long run, HS grades don't really matter. What matters is what you do with the person you are. I went to RMIB and graduated top of the class. I went on to a T10 college, got an MBA, and then a Phd. DH went to Edison, the Vo-tech school at Wheaton. He makes 5x what I do and I'm in industry, not academia.

I am getting tired of the posters who just criticize EVERYTHING! (Not you OP)

OP, I think B's are fine. Grades are just one part of a child's accomplishments. What is most important is that your child is happy and well-rounded.

My DD (17) is tops at everything grade-wise but suffers from migraines and anxiety. I'd rather she got B's to be honest.

Anonymous wrote:We have one B (at best) student who, unfortunately (?) has an older sibling who is an academic superstar. I can't help but feel sorry for the younger one because we know how tough it's going to be.

I have the same situation but I think my B student has every chance of being successful. He is a great kid..his own person..wonderful with people..and not cocky like has perfect report card sister.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if you’re not ok with it, what exactly are you going to do about it? Your kid’s not that bright. Oh well.

You don’t have to be mean, it’s natural for a mother to worry.
FWIW I was a straight A student and my DH barely B student. He out earns me by more x2.

Is this really your measure of success? $$?

B student is good, still above average. I graduated HS with a D average. I was a mess. I did great in community college (4.0 GPA) and transferred to a university (3.7 GPA)

Anonymous wrote:We have one B (at best) student who, unfortunately (?) has an older sibling who is an academic superstar. I can't help but feel sorry for the younger one because we know how tough it's going to be.

I was a B+ student. I have two older siblings who were academic superstars. I figured this out while VERY young. My mother did a beautiful job handling it and never made me feel less than while still having high expectations for me to meet. I am incredibly proud of my siblings, and I am 100% ok with not being nearly as smart as they are. I have a lot of other wonderful attributes that make me a whole, awesome person. I am thankful sometimes that it wasn't just me and my sister, since with two of us I think the direct comparisons would have been harder. With three kids it was just more obvious they are like this and I work a little differently.

As adults, I am the one who works the hardest to organize the family gatherings and smack my siblings on the head when they miss some social cues. I'm the one who makes sure my famous-in-his-math-field brother knows he needs to fly home to celebrate my Dad's my 80th birthday. It wouldn't occur to him otherwise, but he's delighted to do it. They have much more interesting careers than I do, but I think now that we're in our 40s it's become apparent that careers aren't everything. Living a full, happy life is much more important. And we all have that.

Well what is your alternative to accepting it?

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Anonymous wrote:I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?

To answer your question: yes I would be fine with that. What is the alternative? Would you banish him from your home? Make sure you apply the rules to yourself. Didn't get a promotion? Can your kids live with this? etc etc.

Being a B student is not the end of the world! It could be much worse...your son could be addicted to drugs or a drug dealer, dying of cancer, get a girl pregnant, killed someone

Count your blessings, op!

This is hardly in the same class as the others.

Many of our teens will get or get somebody pregnant. We most likely will never know (Unless you live in Texas or Ohio) but really it's gonna happen.

Not true. Statistically, less than half of all teens are even having intercourse in the first place. Secondly, most of them are using birth control. Third, not everyone gets pregnant the first time they have sex without BC.

A minority of teens get pregnant these days. It's way down from the 80s.

YOU ARE MISSING THE POINT, PP. I am not debating the statistics of who gets pregnant! I am telling her it could be WORSE.

Enough... the point was if your child gets pregnant it's not the end of the world and not even close to dying of cancer or being a drug dealer. It's something many parents are dealing with successfully.

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Anonymous wrote:I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?

To answer your question: yes I would be fine with that. What is the alternative? Would you banish him from your home? Make sure you apply the rules to yourself. Didn't get a promotion? Can your kids live with this? etc etc.

Being a B student is not the end of the world! It could be much worse...your son could be addicted to drugs or a drug dealer, dying of cancer, get a girl pregnant, killed someone

Count your blessings, op!

This is hardly in the same class as the others.

Many of our teens will get or get somebody pregnant. We most likely will never know (Unless you live in Texas or Ohio) but really it's gonna happen.

Well the point is she should be proud of her son! Sorry you missed my point. C student perhaps? LOL Jk

or RBG who had kids and went to law school (and nursed a H with cancer). Okay I just wish I was RBG.

Was RBG 18 years old? I don't think so. And she was married.

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Anonymous wrote:I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?

To answer your question: yes I would be fine with that. What is the alternative? Would you banish him from your home? Make sure you apply the rules to yourself. Didn't get a promotion? Can your kids live with this? etc etc.

Being a B student is not the end of the world! It could be much worse...your son could be addicted to drugs or a drug dealer, dying of cancer, get a girl pregnant, killed someone

Count your blessings, op!

This is hardly in the same class as the others.

Many of our teens will get or get somebody pregnant. We most likely will never know (Unless you live in Texas or Ohio) but really it's gonna happen.

Not true. Statistically, less than half of all teens are even having intercourse in the first place. Secondly, most of them are using birth control. Third, not everyone gets pregnant the first time they have sex without BC.

A minority of teens get pregnant these days. It's way down from the 80s.

YOU ARE MISSING THE POINT, PP. I am not debating the statistics of who gets pregnant! I am telling her it could be WORSE.

My B student got into the college she could handle and thrive in. If she had gone to something more competitive then she would not be doing well at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?

To answer your question: yes I would be fine with that. What is the alternative? Would you banish him from your home? Make sure you apply the rules to yourself. Didn't get a promotion? Can your kids live with this? etc etc.

Being a B student is not the end of the world! It could be much worse...your son could be addicted to drugs or a drug dealer, dying of cancer, get a girl pregnant, killed someone

Count your blessings, op!

This is hardly in the same class as the others.

Many of our teens will get or get somebody pregnant. We most likely will never know (Unless you live in Texas or Ohio) but really it's gonna happen.

Well the point is she should be proud of her son! Sorry you missed my point. C student perhaps? LOL Jk

or RBG who had kids and went to law school (and nursed a H with cancer). Okay I just wish I was RBG.