Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He made a move that you shut down. If you want to test the waters you'll have to make the move this time.

This. He thinks you only like him as a friend. You should tell him how you feel before he finds someone else.

+2

You've shut him down and he's respected that. #YouToo

You can't have it both ways, it's on you to make the move.

Signed, A Man

Anonymous wrote:He made a move that you shut down. If you want to test the waters you'll have to make the move this time.

This. He thinks you only like him as a friend. You should tell him how you feel before he finds someone else.

He's into you. Go for it!!!

Do it!! Thw worst that could happen is that he turns you down then you are even.

You could always just be a FWB if the relationship parts doesn't work.

Wine, dinner, candles go for it. My DH was my friend first and we are #relationshipgoals if I'm being honest anonymously.

He’s not. You’re his friend. Only.

Anonymous wrote:This will go nowhere. You view him as weak for not having the courage to pursue you even if he isn't and will always believed you settled. At best you will always be looking for the greener grass.

OP here: I do not in any way view him as weak. Part of the reason it has taken me so long to come around to this is that I didn't believe he could actually be interested, because, from my perspective, he's a lot more conventionally hot than I am, and has a lot of options, so it didn't occur to me that he could still be hoping for something with me. But, then it occurred to me that it's not normal for a man to treat you like a girlfriend when you are clearly not giving all the girlfriend benefits, IYKWIM.