Anonymous
11/12/2018 18:13
Subject: Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
It’s a holiday - and traditionally they’ve done some activity together AND OP says she’s reemed if she makes plans w/o including him in decisions on just a normal day.
OP your DH is selfish and a douche. Go on your bike ride. You can discuss before or after how you’ll split up tasks to get dinner on the table but don’t hurry home. Oh-and plan a nice outing Friday morning....
OP I didn’t hear you complain that your DH was doing something w/friends just that he’s not valuing what you’ve always treated as a family centered day AS I’d say most people do
OP your DH is selfish and a douche. Go on your bike ride. You can discuss before or after how you’ll split up tasks to get dinner on the table but don’t hurry home. Oh-and plan a nice outing Friday morning....
OP I didn’t hear you complain that your DH was doing something w/friends just that he’s not valuing what you’ve always treated as a family centered day AS I’d say most people do
Anonymous
11/12/2018 18:08
Subject: Re:Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most guys do something that mirn
What I believe you are trying so eloquently to say is that we need to go back to the 1950s and she should just be happy he isn't underfoot while she spends the day in the kitchen.
What I'm saying is that it is good for men and women to bond with friends and this is a common day for men to do that.
A common day for women to do that is Monday-Sunday, 365.
You do know we have jobs now? And the vote?
Anonymous
11/12/2018 18:06
Subject: Re:Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most guys do something that mirn
What I believe you are trying so eloquently to say is that we need to go back to the 1950s and she should just be happy he isn't underfoot while she spends the day in the kitchen.
What I'm saying is that it is good for men and women to bond with friends and this is a common day for men to do that.
A common day for women to do that is Monday-Sunday, 365.
You're a neanderthal.
You are a schrew.
FFS she isn't even hosting.
NP. Reading is fundamental. They are hosting dinner at their house for his friends. So, she is stuck cooking while he golfs.
Anonymous
11/12/2018 18:06
Subject: Re:Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most guys do something that mirn
What I believe you are trying so eloquently to say is that we need to go back to the 1950s and she should just be happy he isn't underfoot while she spends the day in the kitchen.
What I'm saying is that it is good for men and women to bond with friends and this is a common day for men to do that.
A common day for women to do that is Monday-Sunday, 365.
You're a neanderthal.
You are a schrew.
FFS she isn't even hosting.
NP: Apparently you can't read or spell. She is hosting, it says so in the OP. And the word you're looking for is "shrew."
Anonymous
11/12/2018 18:02
Subject: Re:Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most guys do something that mirn
What I believe you are trying so eloquently to say is that we need to go back to the 1950s and she should just be happy he isn't underfoot while she spends the day in the kitchen.
What I'm saying is that it is good for men and women to bond with friends and this is a common day for men to do that.
A common day for women to do that is Monday-Sunday, 365.
You're a neanderthal.
You are a schrew.
FFS she isn't even hosting.
Anonymous
11/12/2018 17:47
Subject: Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Anonymous wrote:He can't figure out why I'm so mad. We always do something together - go for a walk, hike, etc. Last night I saw an area bike ride with a whole bunch of folks Thanksgiving morning and asked if he'd be interested. No, he said because he's already playing golf that morning with a group of folks. I knew nothing about this, and I'm really pissed. If I tried to pull something like this heads would roll and I would never hear the end of it. I get "shouldn't we have talked about this" for waaaaay less than a holiday morning. But it's a holiday and he's choosing to spend the whole morning off doing something without me. While I get dinner ready for his friends we're hosting, but that's a different story.
How bad is this? How would you deal with this?? It's not like I can tell him not to go, but damn, this really hurt my feelings, but it seems my feelings don't matter.
It wouldn't bother me because my DH and I do stuff alone or with our separate friends all the time. It would bother me that he didn't tell me in advance or run it by me, it's hard to coordinate holiday schedules.
But it should bother you for the reason bolded. What's good for the goose is good for the gander and if he gives you a hard time for planning things without his input he shouldn't be doing the same to you.
Anonymous
11/12/2018 17:45
Subject: Re:Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most guys do something that mirn
What I believe you are trying so eloquently to say is that we need to go back to the 1950s and she should just be happy he isn't underfoot while she spends the day in the kitchen.
What I'm saying is that it is good for men and women to bond with friends and this is a common day for men to do that.
A common day for women to do that is Monday-Sunday, 365.
You're a neanderthal.
Anonymous
11/12/2018 17:45
Subject: Re:Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most guys do something that mirn
Um, what?
Maybe guys without kids do something, but married guys and married guys with kids do "Thanksgiving prep" or "watch the parade" or "family plans" that morning, not golf with buddies that can be done all summer long.
Or take the kids with him to flag football or turkey trot or golfing with buddies and their kids.
Not everybody hosts thanksgiving.
Anonymous
11/12/2018 17:44
Subject: Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
He sounds douchey tbh.
Anonymous
11/12/2018 17:43
Subject: Re:Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most guys do something that mirn
What I believe you are trying so eloquently to say is that we need to go back to the 1950s and she should just be happy he isn't underfoot while she spends the day in the kitchen.
What I'm saying is that it is good for men and women to bond with friends and this is a common day for men to do that.
A common day for women to do that is Monday-Sunday, 365.
Anonymous
11/12/2018 17:41
Subject: Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Go for your bike ride. Tell him you need him home at X time to help with cooking.
OR, he cleans up.
OR, he cleans up.
Anonymous
11/12/2018 16:35
Subject: Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
I would tell him you feel hurt and wish you were doing something together.
Anonymous
11/12/2018 16:35
Subject: Re:Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Anonymous wrote:Most guys do something that mirn
Really?
Anonymous
11/12/2018 16:35
Subject: Re:Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Anonymous wrote:Most guys do something that mirn
Um, what?
Maybe guys without kids do something, but married guys and married guys with kids do "Thanksgiving prep" or "watch the parade" or "family plans" that morning, not golf with buddies that can be done all summer long.
Anonymous
11/12/2018 16:33
Subject: Husband made plans without me Thanksgiving morning
Grow up OP. Just plan something with your friends. You will be with family all day and for the entire weekend. Besides, who wants extra people around when you're getting TG dinner together.