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Anonymous wrote:My son plays a travel sport nearly year round. He also plays for his schools tennis team. It is no cut. There are 3 levels of play. Tennis is a great lifetime sport. Though I love watching the advance level of play for his travel sport, tennis is the most practical and relevant. We also have introduced him to golf and go to a few local ski areas in the summer for downhill mountain biking. He will so the mountain biking camp this summer. I can tell you mountain biking is no joke. It is very technical, and very strenuous. All your kid needs is a parent en shape enough to take him out the first few times and to definitely get him lessins.

Also we have friends whose kids is on the ski team for another local (less than 2hrs drive) ski area.

Really? I didn't know this was an option here. What is the team/resort?

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Anonymous wrote:I think the push-back you're getting is because there *are* options. You just don't like the options. I'm not sure what's wrong with rec teams being made up of kids from different schools (travel teams are too.) And frankly, if you wanted to play on a travel team - at least for soccer - there are so many around that you can almost certainly find one if your kid is even an average player.

It sounds like you want a team that plays multiple times a week and stays together from season to season, but doesn't cost a lot and doesn't require a commitment. That's a unicorn anywhere.

Has your kid played on one of these teams? Because my DD has. She could be on a travel team (prob not an A team). But, for a variety of reasons, that does not work for us. So her "rec" teams are always cobbled together affairs, which mostly kids trying out the sport for the first time. And that's totally fine. That's rec. But, the teams end losing all the tournaments and stuff and it's not fun. She's not the top of the sport, and she's not the bottom. She's a solid player and it's not fun.

So, while you're right that there "*are* options", those options are not always good ones. That is what OP is talking about. And I agree. There is no in between. I guess that's life. But, as one of the other posters said, it didn't used to be this way. And in this case, the "old way" seems to be something I prefer.

This is OP. Thanks, PP. That’s exactly where we are for this particular sport. I’m not criticizing rec teams - they are great for some sports and some kids (including mine for some sports). But when you have a kid who has strong skills and a good sense of the game, rec really is not always the right fit unless it’s with a group of good friends who have played together for a while as some posters have mentioned. Select is really the perfect in-between for kids like mine, but those teams are few and far between as kids get older, perhaps with the exception of soccer which seems to have more options.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the push-back you're getting is because there *are* options. You just don't like the options. I'm not sure what's wrong with rec teams being made up of kids from different schools (travel teams are too.) And frankly, if you wanted to play on a travel team - at least for soccer - there are so many around that you can almost certainly find one if your kid is even an average player.

It sounds like you want a team that plays multiple times a week and stays together from season to season, but doesn't cost a lot and doesn't require a commitment. That's a unicorn anywhere.

Has your kid played on one of these teams? Because my DD has. She could be on a travel team (prob not an A team). But, for a variety of reasons, that does not work for us. So her "rec" teams are always cobbled together affairs, which mostly kids trying out the sport for the first time. And that's totally fine. That's rec. But, the teams end losing all the tournaments and stuff and it's not fun. She's not the top of the sport, and she's not the bottom. She's a solid player and it's not fun.

So, while you're right that there "*are* options", those options are not always good ones. That is what OP is talking about. And I agree. There is no in between. I guess that's life. But, as one of the other posters said, it didn't used to be this way. And in this case, the "old way" seems to be something I prefer.

Anonymous wrote:My son plays a travel sport nearly year round. He also plays for his schools tennis team. It is no cut. There are 3 levels of play. Tennis is a great lifetime sport. Though I love watching the advance level of play for his travel sport, tennis is the most practical and relevant. We also have introduced him to golf and go to a few local ski areas in the summer for downhill mountain biking. He will so the mountain biking camp this summer. I can tell you mountain biking is no joke. It is very technical, and very strenuous. All your kid needs is a parent en shape enough to take him out the first few times and to definitely get him lessins.

Also we have friends whose kids is on the ski team for another local (less than 2hrs drive) ski area.

Anonymous wrote:I think the push-back you're getting is because there *are* options. You just don't like the options. I'm not sure what's wrong with rec teams being made up of kids from different schools (travel teams are too.) And frankly, if you wanted to play on a travel team - at least for soccer - there are so many around that you can almost certainly find one if your kid is even an average player.

It sounds like you want a team that plays multiple times a week and stays together from season to season, but doesn't cost a lot and doesn't require a commitment. That's a unicorn anywhere.

Anonymous wrote:Just a vent to say how hard it is to live in this area and have a kid who loves sports, but who isn’t good enough to make select/travel/high school teams. Seems like there are so few opportunities to keep playing team sports once they hit middle school if they are not on these elite teams. I know we can explore non-team sports (and we will), but it’s really a hit on self-esteem. Any wisdom from parents who have hit this point with their kids is welcome.

Anonymous wrote:I think the push-back you're getting is because there *are* options. You just don't like the options. I'm not sure what's wrong with rec teams being made up of kids from different schools (travel teams are too.) And frankly, if you wanted to play on a travel team - at least for soccer - there are so many around that you can almost certainly find one if your kid is even an average player.

It sounds like you want a team that plays multiple times a week and stays together from season to season, but doesn't cost a lot and doesn't require a commitment. That's a unicorn anywhere.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, there are rec options for some sports, but many kids have moved on to travel/select so you are left with teams consisting of boys who have never played together and don’t know each other which makes it a lot less fun/successful. It’s great if you have a group of friends who decide to stick with rec, but I don’t think that’s the case for most kids. And baseball pp, I’m with you. It’s completely nuts in this area.