Anonymous wrote:As soon as a person declares him oe herself perfect, it’s impossible for it to be true.

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Anonymous wrote:I was perfect. Just born with a beautiful face and slim body. I love clothes and found it easy to always look perfect and pulled together. I also had a college degree and could afford nice clothes.

Alas, aging fades us all. I am 63 now and my perfect days are behind me. But even at the time, when I knew I was beautiful, it really didn’t effect anything. My mother still died and love still broke my heart.

I didn’t think op meant physically perfect.

For women, what else is there??

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, you namby pambies.

Yes, yes, yes, "no one is perfect," "beauty is only skin deep," "true wealth is family," blah blah BLAH.

It would be so much more interesting to have a dark thread where people would actually say things like:

-I'm a Size 2 but only because I literally never eat carbs, and I would kill my grandma for a Parker House roll.

-My house is clean and organized all the time, but I don't let on that I have weekly cleaners and hired a professional to help me de-clutter, and don't open the closet at the end of the upstairs hallway!

-My husband and I have sex 3 times a week, but I have to drink a lot and think about his best friend to get there.

I am/have all of these things but I eat carbs, I don't have professional help because I don't need it (though I could easily afford it), I don't drink, and I don't think about his best friend. shrug.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, you namby pambies.

Yes, yes, yes, "no one is perfect," "beauty is only skin deep," "true wealth is family," blah blah BLAH.

It would be so much more interesting to have a dark thread where people would actually say things like:

-I'm a Size 2 but only because I literally never eat carbs, and I would kill my grandma for a Parker House roll.

-My house is clean and organized all the time, but I don't let on that I have weekly cleaners and hired a professional to help me de-clutter, and don't open the closet at the end of the upstairs hallway!

-My husband and I have sex 3 times a week, but I have to drink a lot and think about his best friend to get there.

I am/have all of these things but I eat carbs, I don't have professional help because I don't need it (though I could easily afford it), I don't drink, and I don't think about his best friend. shrug.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was perfect. Just born with a beautiful face and slim body. I love clothes and found it easy to always look perfect and pulled together. I also had a college degree and could afford nice clothes.

Alas, aging fades us all. I am 63 now and my perfect days are behind me. But even at the time, when I knew I was beautiful, it really didn’t effect anything. My mother still died and love still broke my heart.

I didn’t think op meant physically perfect.

Anonymous wrote:Oh, you namby pambies.

Yes, yes, yes, "no one is perfect," "beauty is only skin deep," "true wealth is family," blah blah BLAH.

It would be so much more interesting to have a dark thread where people would actually say things like:

-I'm a Size 2 but only because I literally never eat carbs, and I would kill my grandma for a Parker House roll.

-My house is clean and organized all the time, but I don't let on that I have weekly cleaners and hired a professional to help me de-clutter, and don't open the closet at the end of the upstairs hallway!

-My husband and I have sex 3 times a week, but I have to drink a lot and think about his best friend to get there.

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling you are talking about "instagram perfection" right? It exists in real life. I know some women like this.

What they have going for them: They have really beautiful, thick hair, naturally high metabolisms, and very good bone structure. So even if they go out in athleisure, they still look better than plain women who have to spend a lot of time on clothes and makeup and still fall short because they're plain and dumpy.

Also some people just have an eye for good design. So they can easily put together combinations of clothes or colors/patterns/textiles in their homes that look amazing. I can't do that. I have to pay someone to do it for me.

So if you have the above naturally and also have a lot of money (either through an inheritance or marrying well), you get a recipe for "perfection."

Anonymous wrote:I'm interested in knowing how hard it is to be "perfect"--how much effort it really takes, what it really costs your true self.

I'd be very, very grateful to any women who can admit to having that perfect facade, but what they really put into it.