Anonymous
Post 11/12/2018 14:51     Subject: Suspension
Here is the issue: the manner in which the school first presented it seemed plausible, so I agreed. Of course, there is only so much time to appeal. As I met the parents whose children were involved, it became apparent that the school misrepresented what actually happened. Do we say this in the common app?
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2018 14:45     Subject: Suspension
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The common app specifically asks if you have ever been found responsible for a disciplinary violation at any educational institution you have attended from the ninth grade forward, including but not limited to probation, suspension, removal, dismissal or expulsion from the institution.

So if the intent is to answer honestly, it should be disclosed.


How (wording)?


I think there is a space to explain a positive answer. I would phrase it something along the line of “I made the stupidest mistake of my life. I am so ashamed/embarrassed. I was justly punished by my school. I have learned my lesson....”


Yes--and if there isn't sufficient space in that location for explanation, in the Common App there's an "any additional information" section where you can explain situations more fully. The advice I've seen is to not go on and on about the infraction (it then overshadows other things in application), but to be clear about accepting responsibility for his action and making change afterward.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2018 14:39     Subject: Suspension
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The common app specifically asks if you have ever been found responsible for a disciplinary violation at any educational institution you have attended from the ninth grade forward, including but not limited to probation, suspension, removal, dismissal or expulsion from the institution.

So if the intent is to answer honestly, it should be disclosed.


How (wording)?


I think there is a space to explain a positive answer. I would phrase it something along the line of “I made the stupidest mistake of my life. I am so ashamed/embarrassed. I was justly punished by my school. I have learned my lesson....”
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2018 10:02     Subject: Re:Suspension
Anonymous wrote:If it helps, OP, we knew a family that this happened to. Right before senior year. Also captain of the football team. Lost his Div. 1 scholarship. That's how bad it was.

He was expelled. He went to a therapeutic boarding school for a year to complete HS, and then did a PG year at a boarding school. He had two more stellar seasons at those schools and was recruited again by a top college for his sport.

He has also been accepted to law school.

And let me tell you, what that kid did was 100X worse than what your kid did.


Thank you for the real life example, much appreciated, seriously. I know there are many more. Would appreciate people sharing.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2018 10:02     Subject: Suspension
Anonymous wrote:Write the college essay about what they learned from the experience.


Is ist good or bad to focus on such a thing? Reasons? Experiences?
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2018 10:01     Subject: Re:Suspension
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm hoping this OP is the OP of the expulsion thread and that the expulsion was reduced to a 10 day suspension, and OP is trying to see how the suspension will impact her kid. If so, I'm happy to you got it reduced.


Why would you be happy for them without knowing all of circumstances. If someone deserves an expulsion, they should get an expulsion.


Read upthread. It is not the same OP. I know you want to stick it to them, PP.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2018 08:06     Subject: Re:Suspension
If it helps, OP, we knew a family that this happened to. Right before senior year. Also captain of the football team. Lost his Div. 1 scholarship. That's how bad it was.

He was expelled. He went to a therapeutic boarding school for a year to complete HS, and then did a PG year at a boarding school. He had two more stellar seasons at those schools and was recruited again by a top college for his sport.

He has also been accepted to law school.

And let me tell you, what that kid did was 100X worse than what your kid did.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2018 07:46     Subject: Re:Suspension
Anonymous wrote:I'm hoping this OP is the OP of the expulsion thread and that the expulsion was reduced to a 10 day suspension, and OP is trying to see how the suspension will impact her kid. If so, I'm happy to you got it reduced.


Why would you be happy for them without knowing all of circumstances. If someone deserves an expulsion, they should get an expulsion.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2018 21:11     Subject: Suspension
Write the college essay about what they learned from the experience.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2018 20:44     Subject: Suspension
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The common app specifically asks if you have ever been found responsible for a disciplinary violation at any educational institution you have attended from the ninth grade forward, including but not limited to probation, suspension, removal, dismissal or expulsion from the institution.

So if the intent is to answer honestly, it should be disclosed.


How (wording)?


Well, if your kid gets in, then the school finds out later, they can retract admission and keep your money, due to lying on the paperwork. Not something I recommend. On the other hand, a minor offense in ninth grade can easily be turned into a great essay, explaining the circumstances, consequences and the things that were learned.


I believe in telling the college. The question is how? Another PP said specifically NOT to make it an essay answer. Is making the experience an essay answer a good idea or not, then ie: why or why not?
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2018 14:12     Subject: Suspension
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The common app specifically asks if you have ever been found responsible for a disciplinary violation at any educational institution you have attended from the ninth grade forward, including but not limited to probation, suspension, removal, dismissal or expulsion from the institution.

So if the intent is to answer honestly, it should be disclosed.


How (wording)?


Well, if your kid gets in, then the school finds out later, they can retract admission and keep your money, due to lying on the paperwork. Not something I recommend. On the other hand, a minor offense in ninth grade can easily be turned into a great essay, explaining the circumstances, consequences and the things that were learned.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2018 14:22     Subject: Suspension
Anonymous wrote:The common app specifically asks if you have ever been found responsible for a disciplinary violation at any educational institution you have attended from the ninth grade forward, including but not limited to probation, suspension, removal, dismissal or expulsion from the institution.

So if the intent is to answer honestly, it should be disclosed.


How (wording)?
Anonymous
Post 11/09/2018 19:28     Subject: Suspension
Anonymous wrote:The common app specifically asks if you have ever been found responsible for a disciplinary violation at any educational institution you have attended from the ninth grade forward, including but not limited to probation, suspension, removal, dismissal or expulsion from the institution.

So if the intent is to answer honestly, it should be disclosed.


This is the kind of answer I was looking for. OP here. The other ones are not so helpful. Keep any helpful ones coming.
Anonymous
Post 11/09/2018 16:53     Subject: Suspension
The common app specifically asks if you have ever been found responsible for a disciplinary violation at any educational institution you have attended from the ninth grade forward, including but not limited to probation, suspension, removal, dismissal or expulsion from the institution.

So if the intent is to answer honestly, it should be disclosed.
Anonymous
Post 11/09/2018 16:52     Subject: Re:Suspension
Personally, I would be less worried about college than about my kid right now. Maybe an excessively harsh suspension, maybe milder than it should have been, maybe proportionate, but the fact is suspension is always a bad answer to anything other than conduct that really warrants expulsion (plenty of studies have shown little correlation to actual conduct and use of suspension). Either way, attention should focus on what's going on right now.