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Anonymous wrote:I was coming here to say just this. I have heard a couple people (not many) imply that we black women are more fertile, and that infertility is a white women's thing. Clearly it is not, as we see from Michelle Obama, Gabrielle Union, and others, and getting it more out in the open is important to do. I luckily didn't have issues myself, but have had friends confide that they had miscarriages or trouble conceiving.

If you don't start trying to have kids until your mid-30s, then you are going to have trouble no matter what race you are, that is the lesson here.

Go away. Also, this just isn't true. Plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s.

It is precisely this kind of talk mislead many women into thinking they still have time when their biological clock is running out.

Out of 7 billion people on this earth there would be "plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s", but that doesn't diminish the fact that the older you are the harder it is. Given the audience on this forum, we would be best served if the fertility issue was brought up more prominently when we were younger.

Of course I don't endorse prioritize fertility over other factors such as love, maturity and economic issues. But sometimes you have to plunge to start a family when you don't feel ready but you can rise to the challenge. Talking about fertility issues absolutely helps people making better decisions.

NP. Sorry but facts are most women in their 30s WILL get pregnant on their own with no intervention. Yes, your odds are lower than when you're 20 or 25 or 30. I kind of doubt there are many women left who don't know this. I think the pendulum has swung the opposite way on this issue and too many people try to scare the crap out of women needlessly.

Making decisions because you might be in the minority and might have issues is fear-based decision making. There are so many variables. Age is one of them. And I say this as someone who had fertility issues.

According to newer data, 80% of women will conceive within a year with no intervention. So, yeah, enough with the fear-mongering. I know that's cold comfort to those in the 20% who don't, but to claim that all women who wait will have trouble does no one any favors.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, brave to share.

Some things are private and your infertility is one of them!

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Anonymous wrote:I was coming here to say just this. I have heard a couple people (not many) imply that we black women are more fertile, and that infertility is a white women's thing. Clearly it is not, as we see from Michelle Obama, Gabrielle Union, and others, and getting it more out in the open is important to do. I luckily didn't have issues myself, but have had friends confide that they had miscarriages or trouble conceiving.

If you don't start trying to have kids until your mid-30s, then you are going to have trouble no matter what race you are, that is the lesson here.

Go away. Also, this just isn't true. Plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s.

It is precisely this kind of talk mislead many women into thinking they still have time when their biological clock is running out.

Out of 7 billion people on this earth there would be "plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s", but that doesn't diminish the fact that the older you are the harder it is. Given the audience on this forum, we would be best served if the fertility issue was brought up more prominently when we were younger.

Of course I don't endorse prioritize fertility over other factors such as love, maturity and economic issues. But sometimes you have to plunge to start a family when you don't feel ready but you can rise to the challenge. Talking about fertility issues absolutely helps people making better decisions.

NP. Sorry but facts are most women in their 30s WILL get pregnant on their own with no intervention. Yes, your odds are lower than when you're 20 or 25 or 30. I kind of doubt there are many women left who don't know this. I think the pendulum has swung the opposite way on this issue and too many people try to scare the crap out of women needlessly.

Making decisions because you might be in the minority and might have issues is fear-based decision making. There are so many variables. Age is one of them. And I say this as someone who had fertility issues.

According to newer data, 80% of women will conceive within a year with no intervention. So, yeah, enough with the fear-mongering. I know that's cold comfort to those in the 20% who don't, but to claim that all women who wait will have trouble does no one any favors.

The problem is that until you start trying, you don’t know if you’ll be in the 80% or 20%. All women should know the odds and do what they can within their circumstances to optimize their fertility, if it’s important to them.

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Anonymous wrote:I was coming here to say just this. I have heard a couple people (not many) imply that we black women are more fertile, and that infertility is a white women's thing. Clearly it is not, as we see from Michelle Obama, Gabrielle Union, and others, and getting it more out in the open is important to do. I luckily didn't have issues myself, but have had friends confide that they had miscarriages or trouble conceiving.

If you don't start trying to have kids until your mid-30s, then you are going to have trouble no matter what race you are, that is the lesson here.

Go away. Also, this just isn't true. Plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s.

It is precisely this kind of talk mislead many women into thinking they still have time when their biological clock is running out.

Out of 7 billion people on this earth there would be "plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s", but that doesn't diminish the fact that the older you are the harder it is. Given the audience on this forum, we would be best served if the fertility issue was brought up more prominently when we were younger.

Of course I don't endorse prioritize fertility over other factors such as love, maturity and economic issues. But sometimes you have to plunge to start a family when you don't feel ready but you can rise to the challenge. Talking about fertility issues absolutely helps people making better decisions.

NP. Sorry but facts are most women in their 30s WILL get pregnant on their own with no intervention. Yes, your odds are lower than when you're 20 or 25 or 30. I kind of doubt there are many women left who don't know this. I think the pendulum has swung the opposite way on this issue and too many people try to scare the crap out of women needlessly.

Making decisions because you might be in the minority and might have issues is fear-based decision making. There are so many variables. Age is one of them. And I say this as someone who had fertility issues.

According to newer data, 80% of women will conceive within a year with no intervention. So, yeah, enough with the fear-mongering. I know that's cold comfort to those in the 20% who don't, but to claim that all women who wait will have trouble does no one any favors.

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Anonymous wrote:There’s nothing wrong with IVF but why does miscarriages mean you need IVF? I don’t get that.

Miscarriages don’t necessarily mean you need ivf. I needed ivf to get pregnant, but then I also later suffered a miscarriage. Some people with recurrent miscarriages might use ivf in order to test embryos for chromosomal abnormalities so that they can make sure they’re using the highest quality embryos, in an effort to avoid more miscarriages.

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Anonymous wrote:I was coming here to say just this. I have heard a couple people (not many) imply that we black women are more fertile, and that infertility is a white women's thing. Clearly it is not, as we see from Michelle Obama, Gabrielle Union, and others, and getting it more out in the open is important to do. I luckily didn't have issues myself, but have had friends confide that they had miscarriages or trouble conceiving.

If you don't start trying to have kids until your mid-30s, then you are going to have trouble no matter what race you are, that is the lesson here.

Go away. Also, this just isn't true. Plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s.

It is precisely this kind of talk mislead many women into thinking they still have time when their biological clock is running out.

Out of 7 billion people on this earth there would be "plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s", but that doesn't diminish the fact that the older you are the harder it is. Given the audience on this forum, we would be best served if the fertility issue was brought up more prominently when we were younger.

Of course I don't endorse prioritize fertility over other factors such as love, maturity and economic issues. But sometimes you have to plunge to start a family when you don't feel ready but you can rise to the challenge. Talking about fertility issues absolutely helps people making better decisions.

NP. Sorry but facts are most women in their 30s WILL get pregnant on their own with no intervention. Yes, your odds are lower than when you're 20 or 25 or 30. I kind of doubt there are many women left who don't know this. I think the pendulum has swung the opposite way on this issue and too many people try to scare the crap out of women needlessly.

Making decisions because you might be in the minority and might have issues is fear-based decision making. There are so many variables. Age is one of them. And I say this as someone who had fertility issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, brave to share.

Some things are private and your infertility is one of them!

to each their own. i am personally glad she shared.

I am so happy she shared this information! Especially for African American women. African American women often hide infertility and would be ashamed to admit they had infertility issues. This is a huge reveal that I think will do so much for black women trying to have children and having the same struggles.

I was coming here to say just this. I have heard a couple people (not many) imply that we black women are more fertile, and that infertility is a white women's thing. Clearly it is not, as we see from Michelle Obama, Gabrielle Union, and others, and getting it more out in the open is important to do. I luckily didn't have issues myself, but have had friends confide that they had miscarriages or trouble conceiving.

Anonymous wrote:There’s nothing wrong with IVF but why does miscarriages mean you need IVF? I don’t get that.

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Anonymous wrote:I was coming here to say just this. I have heard a couple people (not many) imply that we black women are more fertile, and that infertility is a white women's thing. Clearly it is not, as we see from Michelle Obama, Gabrielle Union, and others, and getting it more out in the open is important to do. I luckily didn't have issues myself, but have had friends confide that they had miscarriages or trouble conceiving.

If you don't start trying to have kids until your mid-30s, then you are going to have trouble no matter what race you are, that is the lesson here.

Go away. Also, this just isn't true. Plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s.

It is precisely this kind of talk mislead many women into thinking they still have time when their biological clock is running out.

Out of 7 billion people on this earth there would be "plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s", but that doesn't diminish the fact that the older you are the harder it is. Given the audience on this forum, we would be best served if the fertility issue was brought up more prominently when we were younger.

Of course I don't endorse prioritize fertility over other factors such as love, maturity and economic issues. But sometimes you have to plunge to start a family when you don't feel ready but you can rise to the challenge. Talking about fertility issues absolutely helps people making better decisions.

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Anonymous wrote:I was coming here to say just this. I have heard a couple people (not many) imply that we black women are more fertile, and that infertility is a white women's thing. Clearly it is not, as we see from Michelle Obama, Gabrielle Union, and others, and getting it more out in the open is important to do. I luckily didn't have issues myself, but have had friends confide that they had miscarriages or trouble conceiving.

If you don't start trying to have kids until your mid-30s, then you are going to have trouble no matter what race you are, that is the lesson here.

Go away. Also, this just isn't true. Plenty of people get pregnant easily in their mid-30s.

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Anonymous wrote:I was coming here to say just this. I have heard a couple people (not many) imply that we black women are more fertile, and that infertility is a white women's thing. Clearly it is not, as we see from Michelle Obama, Gabrielle Union, and others, and getting it more out in the open is important to do. I luckily didn't have issues myself, but have had friends confide that they had miscarriages or trouble conceiving.

If you don't start trying to have kids until your mid-30s, then you are going to have trouble no matter what race you are, that is the lesson here.

Anonymous wrote:I love her even more now, which I didn't think was possible.

Anonymous wrote:I love her even more now, which I didn't think was possible.