Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If our transfer doesn't work of our only embryo I'll be moving to donor embryos. Donor eggs were just too costly. Though not at shady grove but California conceptions. Since it's double donor their success rates are pretty high and it's not that much more expensive than shady grove/also has a money back if bor successful option.
How do you think the child will feel once they are old enough to fully understand the implications? We aren't talking about an adoption where the biological mother didn't want or couldn't raise her own child or even egg/sperm donation where the biological parent never intended to raise the child. Everything else being equal, most people would prefer to be raised within their own biological families, and in this situation, everything else is equal. The biological parents are people who desperately wanted children and are most likely just as stable and loving as the receiving family is. It's only a matter of dumb luck that the kid wasn't the embryo who was implanted into his or her biological mother's uterus and raised among their own family. Don't you think that once the child realizes this, there's a good chance he'll feel like he got the short end of the stick?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Somewhat off point, but, many of us who have successfully conceived with IVF have frozen embryos we will not be using and would love to adopt them out. My husband and I will soon be looking into how-where to do that right now. Though our embryos have not been genetically tested I am assuming that we will have to provide information on whether there have been successful pregnancies from embryos created in the same cycle, and that anyone wanting to adopt our remaining embryos will have that info. Following this string as I’m interested from the other side.
We are in the same boat - had two kids via IVF and have three unused embryos stored at SGF. We are over 35 but embryos are PGS tested normal. It's an agonizing choice for sure but we decided against adoption. I just can't accept that children that are genetically mine will be raised somewhere else. [/quote]
Most normal people wouldn't go for this either.
Yeah, I guess those who give up their children for adoption are abnormal too.![]()
They aren't abnormal. They are women who unwillingly became pregnant and aren't able/willing to raise their kids. No one wants to give up their kid for adoption or does so willingly. Giving one's own child away is a sad, heartbreaking thing to have to do.
I misspoke this part and I know someone is going to jump on it. I don't mean that they weren't willing to give their kid up for adoption, but that they never wanted to be in this situation to begin with. They did not choose to become pregnant with the intention of giving their kids to someone else. They did so, because of bad circumstances.
It's still no different from your statement that "most normal people wouldn't go for this either". You're just trying to have it both ways.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Somewhat off point, but, many of us who have successfully conceived with IVF have frozen embryos we will not be using and would love to adopt them out. My husband and I will soon be looking into how-where to do that right now. Though our embryos have not been genetically tested I am assuming that we will have to provide information on whether there have been successful pregnancies from embryos created in the same cycle, and that anyone wanting to adopt our remaining embryos will have that info. Following this string as I’m interested from the other side.
We are in the same boat - had two kids via IVF and have three unused embryos stored at SGF. We are over 35 but embryos are PGS tested normal. It's an agonizing choice for sure but we decided against adoption. I just can't accept that children that are genetically mine will be raised somewhere else. [/quote]
Most normal people wouldn't go for this either.
Yeah, I guess those who give up their children for adoption are abnormal too.![]()
They aren't abnormal. They are women who unwillingly became pregnant and aren't able/willing to raise their kids. No one wants to give up their kid for adoption or does so willingly. Giving one's own child away is a sad, heartbreaking thing to have to do.
I misspoke this part and I know someone is going to jump on it. I don't mean that they weren't willing to give their kid up for adoption, but that they never wanted to be in this situation to begin with. They did not choose to become pregnant with the intention of giving their kids to someone else. They did so, because of bad circumstances.
You're making an awful of assumptions here.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Somewhat off point, but, many of us who have successfully conceived with IVF have frozen embryos we will not be using and would love to adopt them out. My husband and I will soon be looking into how-where to do that right now. Though our embryos have not been genetically tested I am assuming that we will have to provide information on whether there have been successful pregnancies from embryos created in the same cycle, and that anyone wanting to adopt our remaining embryos will have that info. Following this string as I’m interested from the other side.
We are in the same boat - had two kids via IVF and have three unused embryos stored at SGF. We are over 35 but embryos are PGS tested normal. It's an agonizing choice for sure but we decided against adoption. I just can't accept that children that are genetically mine will be raised somewhere else. [/quote]
Most normal people wouldn't go for this either.
Yeah, I guess those who give up their children for adoption are abnormal too.![]()
They aren't abnormal. They are women who unwillingly became pregnant and aren't able/willing to raise their kids. No one wants to give up their kid for adoption or does so willingly. Giving one's own child away is a sad, heartbreaking thing to have to do.
I misspoke this part and I know someone is going to jump on it. I don't mean that they weren't willing to give their kid up for adoption, but that they never wanted to be in this situation to begin with. They did not choose to become pregnant with the intention of giving their kids to someone else. They did so, because of bad circumstances.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Somewhat off point, but, many of us who have successfully conceived with IVF have frozen embryos we will not be using and would love to adopt them out. My husband and I will soon be looking into how-where to do that right now. Though our embryos have not been genetically tested I am assuming that we will have to provide information on whether there have been successful pregnancies from embryos created in the same cycle, and that anyone wanting to adopt our remaining embryos will have that info. Following this string as I’m interested from the other side.
We are in the same boat - had two kids via IVF and have three unused embryos stored at SGF. We are over 35 but embryos are PGS tested normal. It's an agonizing choice for sure but we decided against adoption. I just can't accept that children that are genetically mine will be raised somewhere else. [/quote]
Most normal people wouldn't go for this either.
Yeah, I guess those who give up their children for adoption are abnormal too.![]()
They aren't abnormal. They are women who unwillingly became pregnant and aren't able/willing to raise their kids. No one wants to give up their kid for adoption or does so willingly. Giving one's own child away is a sad, heartbreaking thing to have to do.
Anonymous wrote:If our transfer doesn't work of our only embryo I'll be moving to donor embryos. Donor eggs were just too costly. Though not at shady grove but California conceptions. Since it's double donor their success rates are pretty high and it's not that much more expensive than shady grove/also has a money back if bor successful option.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Somewhat off point, but, many of us who have successfully conceived with IVF have frozen embryos we will not be using and would love to adopt them out. My husband and I will soon be looking into how-where to do that right now. Though our embryos have not been genetically tested I am assuming that we will have to provide information on whether there have been successful pregnancies from embryos created in the same cycle, and that anyone wanting to adopt our remaining embryos will have that info. Following this string as I’m interested from the other side.
We are in the same boat - had two kids via IVF and have three unused embryos stored at SGF. We are over 35 but embryos are PGS tested normal. It's an agonizing choice for sure but we decided against adoption. I just can't accept that children that are genetically mine will be raised somewhere else. [/quote]
Most normal people wouldn't go for this either.
Yeah, I guess those who give up their children for adoption are abnormal too.![]()
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Somewhat off point, but, many of us who have successfully conceived with IVF have frozen embryos we will not be using and would love to adopt them out. My husband and I will soon be looking into how-where to do that right now. Though our embryos have not been genetically tested I am assuming that we will have to provide information on whether there have been successful pregnancies from embryos created in the same cycle, and that anyone wanting to adopt our remaining embryos will have that info. Following this string as I’m interested from the other side.
We are in the same boat - had two kids via IVF and have three unused embryos stored at SGF. We are over 35 but embryos are PGS tested normal. It's an agonizing choice for sure but we decided against adoption. I just can't accept that children that are genetically mine will be raised somewhere else. [/quote]
Most normal people wouldn't go for this either.
Anonymous wrote:Somewhat off point, but, many of us who have successfully conceived with IVF have frozen embryos we will not be using and would love to adopt them out. My husband and I will soon be looking into how-where to do that right now. Though our embryos have not been genetically tested I am assuming that we will have to provide information on whether there have been successful pregnancies from embryos created in the same cycle, and that anyone wanting to adopt our remaining embryos will have that info. Following this string as I’m interested from the other side.