OP here. Thanks for the feedback.

We're tableing it for now. I think when ready we'll start with Instagram and save snapchat until she's older. I talked to her about the social issues that social media can create.

I know she doesn't have the app secretly because she has her own apple Id but uses my apple id for itunes store so I have it set to have to enter my password for any downloads (even free apps). Besides that we have trust and she talks to me about difficult things. In turn I usually teach instead of punish. Parental locks are on and I do random checks.

I like the idea about having her account signed in on a family device so I can look anytime.

She wanted a fitbit a few years ago so she's already been allowed to put an incorrect age as they're 13 too.

I won't allow my 14-year-old have any social media. He might get it next year in HS. Maybe.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought you had to be 13 to get Snapchat or Instagram? You have to enter in your birthdate to start your account, So they know if you are under 13.. Are you comfortable with your child lying about his/her age in order to gain access?

Yes, this. My dd can't wait until she's 13. I'm ok with her on Instagram and YouTube, but no to snapchat.

She can’t wait or won’t wait?

Judging by the typical DCUM kid, I'm guessing the latter.

Take control, people - you are the parent.

You have judged incorrectly. Can't wait. As in "I can't wait til Christmas."n Doesn't mean Christmas is coming sooner! I am old school and will not fudge ages on sign up. She has integrity and wouldn't want me to. Try judging less and thinking better of people.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought you had to be 13 to get Snapchat or Instagram? You have to enter in your birthdate to start your account, So they know if you are under 13.. Are you comfortable with your child lying about his/her age in order to gain access?

Yes, this. My dd can't wait until she's 13. I'm ok with her on Instagram and YouTube, but no to snapchat.

She can’t wait or won’t wait?

Judging by the typical DCUM kid, I'm guessing the latter.

Take control, people - you are the parent.

Anonymous wrote:DD is 11 in 6th grade. She wants Instagram and Snapchat.

She wants Instagram for posting pictures - says she is good with just posting no people images if that is the only way she can have it.

She wants snapchat for the filters and maybe chatting, but mostly just the filters.

If you let your 10-13 year old use these what were your rules or terms?

At 10/11? NO WAY. Absolute zero need to have social media at that age. SM just leads to self image and self esteem. It's a bad road to take at that age - kids that age are heavily influenced (they are petri dishes).

If you want, have her select one platform and honestly, I would have her stay away from Snapchat.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought you had to be 13 to get Snapchat or Instagram? You have to enter in your birthdate to start your account, So they know if you are under 13.. Are you comfortable with your child lying about his/her age in order to gain access?

Yes, this. My dd can't wait until she's 13. I'm ok with her on Instagram and YouTube, but no to snapchat.

She can’t wait or won’t wait?

Anonymous wrote:I thought you had to be 13 to get Snapchat or Instagram? You have to enter in your birthdate to start your account, So they know if you are under 13.. Are you comfortable with your child lying about his/her age in order to gain access?

Yes, this. My dd can't wait until she's 13. I'm ok with her on Instagram and YouTube, but no to snapchat.

it is not legal for a kid under 13 to have social media accounts (there is a law against it). Parents who let their kids do this must lie when it asks for the kids age. It easy...say no...its illegal...wait until they are 13. For me, it is not just about waiting until 13, it is also about modeling compliance with the law.

Nope, nope, nope.