Anonymous
Post 11/02/2018 02:02     Subject: Man wanting to dance with daughter
I guess I'm in the minority, but I do think you overreacted a bit. Sounds like he was drunk and being foolish/overly friendly. I would have simply placed myself between him and her, and said she doesn't want to dance, thanks anyway. If he didn't back off at that point, I might have pushed him though!
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2018 00:29     Subject: Re:Man wanting to dance with daughter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If it was a group dance or a party type dance (like the electric slide or the chicken dance or something similar) then I think you overreacted just a little. If it was any other type of dance, then I think you were quite justified in being upset. I think pushing him may have been a little overboard, but only slightly. I think slapping his hand or grabbing his hand and telling him to let go of your daughter was enough, but pushing him away was a bit much.

That said, I think anything you did to get him to unhand your daughter was justified. A little overboard, but only just a little because you were violent when I don't think you needed to be.


Well I keep going over it in my head and I wish it could’ve turned out differently but the reason I physically pushed is because I was very close had no time to really think about it and most importantly....

He physically was restricting her movement freedom, she looked awfully uncomfortable/weird out and I wanted her more than him to be crystal clear this is not okay.


I'm the PP above. And based on your response, then you did the best you could with a difficult situation and should not second guess yourself. You didn't have time to think things through and be more polite. Your child was being uncomfortably pressed by a strange man.

Anyone in your group of friends who think that what this man did was in any way appropriate, you really don't need to be friends with, right?

And for the record, I'm a guy and the father of only boys. And I still think that guy was a creep and way off base.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 23:47     Subject: Re:Man wanting to dance with daughter
My husband, who does over react at times, would have lost his ever loving mind if someone did that to our daughter. I would have blown a gasket too, OP.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:55     Subject: Re:Man wanting to dance with daughter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m just trying to understand why an adult male would even approach a minor or even a young woman to dance WTF! Seriously OP if you lost friends over it...good riddance. I would have done similar, possibly worse!


The guy clearly had had a few and was trying to dance with every woman there and had been pulling ladies onto the floor (over-eagerly) all night.


Alcohol makes people more of who they really are - it shows you their true colors. That man is a sick creeper and would never be allowed near my family ever again. And I would tell others.


Agree. Yet society seems to give a hall pass when people are imbelciles while drinking. Sorry Chad, you’re a dbag either way. Where were the other men at the party? I would step in even if it wasn’t my kid.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:45     Subject: Re:Man wanting to dance with daughter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m just trying to understand why an adult male would even approach a minor or even a young woman to dance WTF! Seriously OP if you lost friends over it...good riddance. I would have done similar, possibly worse!


The guy clearly had had a few and was trying to dance with every woman there and had been pulling ladies onto the floor (over-eagerly) all night.


Alcohol makes people more of who they really are - it shows you their true colors. That man is a sick creeper and would never be allowed near my family ever again. And I would tell others.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:41     Subject: Man wanting to dance with daughter

Great decision-making in the heat of the moment, OP. I can't think of anything better you could have done to make your point. Don't forget you're teaching your daughter a life lesson on standing up for herself, and all the other kids who were watching. This is the most important thing.

So did he apologize? I hope you asked who he was.



Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:40     Subject: Man wanting to dance with daughter
You taught your daughter that that kind of behavior was not okay OP! Good for you and great for her!
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:39     Subject: Man wanting to dance with daughter
He was totally out of bounds. I'm Team OP. You don't lay your hands on another person like that ever, but particularly not a child, and particularly not an adult man on a girl. I mean seriously, how dare he think he has the right to physically force your daughter like that. Disgusting. As for your former friends, good riddance.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:37     Subject: Man wanting to dance with daughter
My Dad used to have a creep friend and my BFF elbowed him when he tried to touch my hair or something. He also drank a lot. My friend and I could just sense his creepy vibes. We were 11/12. He ended up an alcoholic mess later and obviously no friendship with my Dad (after other weird behavior).
Glad to this day my friend elbowed him.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:35     Subject: Re:Man wanting to dance with daughter
Anonymous wrote:I’m just trying to understand why an adult male would even approach a minor or even a young woman to dance WTF! Seriously OP if you lost friends over it...good riddance. I would have done similar, possibly worse!


The guy clearly had had a few and was trying to dance with every woman there and had been pulling ladies onto the floor (over-eagerly) all night.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:27     Subject: Re:Man wanting to dance with daughter
I’m just trying to understand why an adult male would even approach a minor or even a young woman to dance WTF! Seriously OP if you lost friends over it...good riddance. I would have done similar, possibly worse!
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:27     Subject: Re:Man wanting to dance with daughter
Anonymous wrote:If it was a group dance or a party type dance (like the electric slide or the chicken dance or something similar) then I think you overreacted just a little. If it was any other type of dance, then I think you were quite justified in being upset. I think pushing him may have been a little overboard, but only slightly. I think slapping his hand or grabbing his hand and telling him to let go of your daughter was enough, but pushing him away was a bit much.

That said, I think anything you did to get him to unhand your daughter was justified. A little overboard, but only just a little because you were violent when I don't think you needed to be.


Well I keep going over it in my head and I wish it could’ve turned out differently but the reason I physically pushed is because I was very close had no time to really think about it and most importantly....

He physically was restricting her movement freedom, she looked awfully uncomfortable/weird out and I wanted her more than him to be crystal clear this is not okay.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:22     Subject: Man wanting to dance with daughter
Anonymous wrote:I would have kicked him in the balls. No one touches my daughter like that.


Enjoy prison.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:21     Subject: Man wanting to dance with daughter
Good for you. Seriously.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 22:20     Subject: Re:Man wanting to dance with daughter
If it was a group dance or a party type dance (like the electric slide or the chicken dance or something similar) then I think you overreacted just a little. If it was any other type of dance, then I think you were quite justified in being upset. I think pushing him may have been a little overboard, but only slightly. I think slapping his hand or grabbing his hand and telling him to let go of your daughter was enough, but pushing him away was a bit much.

That said, I think anything you did to get him to unhand your daughter was justified. A little overboard, but only just a little because you were violent when I don't think you needed to be.