Anonymous
Post 11/03/2018 14:24     Subject: Re:Halloween is hard :(
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thanks guys!! OP here... why is god so unfair


Life is unfair.

Children are starving in Yemen. People were murdered while at church and the grocery store by racist lunatics. God has nothing to do with it.

Sympathy for what you are going through but you need to keep perspective.


Oh get over yourself and go away.

Do u even have infertility


Whats with the one-upmanship here? The PP above had a good point. TTC is a long and hard process for some. Keep some perspective and try and be thankful for all you have through your struggles. You are able to afford fertility treatments and that is something to be thankful for. You cannot let every festival to get you down. Positive attitude is very important to keep the stress down.

This in an infertility forum, the very place to share this. She might even be over it by now but she is allowed to be sad; it's human.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2018 10:22     Subject: Re:Halloween is hard :(
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thanks guys!! OP here... why is god so unfair


Life is unfair.

Children are starving in Yemen. People were murdered while at church and the grocery store by racist lunatics. God has nothing to do with it.

Sympathy for what you are going through but you need to keep perspective.


Oh get over yourself and go away.

Do u even have infertility


Whats with the one-upmanship here? The PP above had a good point. TTC is a long and hard process for some. Keep some perspective and try and be thankful for all you have through your struggles. You are able to afford fertility treatments and that is something to be thankful for. You cannot let every festival to get you down. Positive attitude is very important to keep the stress down.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2018 10:05     Subject: Re:Halloween is hard :(
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thanks guys!! OP here... why is god so unfair


Life is unfair.

Children are starving in Yemen. People were murdered while at church and the grocery store by racist lunatics. God has nothing to do with it.

Sympathy for what you are going through but you need to keep perspective.


Oh get over yourself and go away.

Do u even have infertility
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 20:46     Subject: Halloween is hard :(
Praying for a successful round for you! (And I felt the same way the many years we were going through treatments.)
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 20:33     Subject: Re:Halloween is hard :(
Op here guys!!! Thanks for understanding and your kind words... starting injections Tomorrow praying to god to show mercy!!

This is my fifth try... exhausted physically financially and mentally..
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 15:26     Subject: Halloween is hard :(
Anonymous wrote:Halloween was the worst when going through IF. Sending you hugs.


I think Mother's Day was worse for me.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 12:29     Subject: Re:Halloween is hard :(
Anonymous wrote:OP, we went through secondary infertility, so I know -- a little bit, at least -- how you're feeling. I'm so sorry for your hurt and am sending you hugs and prayers. I don't think God wants this for you or has made it your destiny -- that's just not the kind of God I believe in -- but I do think and pray that God will be with you to give you strength and hope. Like others here, we were blessed to be able to adopt and complete our family with a beautiful and wonderful daughter -- a little sister for our son. I know adoption isn't the right choice for everyone and sometimes simply isn't possible even for those who would like to adopt, but for our family, I do think God helped us to open our hearts to adoption.


Agree! First adoptive mom poster here again! My now 5 year old daughter is so much more amazing than anyone I could have created with my own eggs (even when they were young and productive!) Adoption may not be the answer you are searching for now, but I always felt better having a plan B. Not that adoption is easy either (I got extremely lucky and it happened quickly) but infertility is also unpredictable and very difficult. Best wishes that you have the baby you are meant to have, through fertility or adoption. ((More hugs))
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 12:03     Subject: Re:Halloween is hard :(
OP, we went through secondary infertility, so I know -- a little bit, at least -- how you're feeling. I'm so sorry for your hurt and am sending you hugs and prayers. I don't think God wants this for you or has made it your destiny -- that's just not the kind of God I believe in -- but I do think and pray that God will be with you to give you strength and hope. Like others here, we were blessed to be able to adopt and complete our family with a beautiful and wonderful daughter -- a little sister for our son. I know adoption isn't the right choice for everyone and sometimes simply isn't possible even for those who would like to adopt, but for our family, I do think God helped us to open our hearts to adoption.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 11:44     Subject: Halloween is hard :(
Another adoptive mom here. I'm so sorry, OP. It is a really really tough one, I agree. I used to just go out to dinner and avoid the whole thing entirely. That is how I could handle it. All my best to you. (((((HUGS)))))
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 11:41     Subject: Halloween is hard :(
Hugs to you OP. And to the PP citing Yemen and mass shootings as a reason to invalidate all feelings about anything less traumatic, get a grip. This is the way I approach that conundrum -- reflecting on how other people have it harder is a good way to gain perspective and expand your own humanity, but in no way does that take away your right to feel what you are feeling right now. Tiny little ones in adorable costumes can be a gut punch to some of us. Hugs to everyone.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 11:21     Subject: Halloween is hard :(
Love to you, OP, and everyone else here. We are not alone, even though it can feel that way.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 10:14     Subject: Halloween is hard :(
I'm so sorry op. It is so f*cking unfair
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 10:13     Subject: Halloween is hard :(
Halloween was the worst when going through IF. Sending you hugs.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 10:08     Subject: Re:Halloween is hard :(
This whole time of year can be incredibly difficult, and it always seems wrought with pregnancy announcements to boot. I'm sorry, OP. And no one gets to say what's the worst/most unfair thing to happen to a person. Of course it can always be worse - that argument really isn't helpful here.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2018 06:50     Subject: Halloween is hard :(
Hugs OP. So many of us have been where you are and know exactly what you are feeling. I think it is completely normal to feel the way you do. Hopefully it provides some comfort to know you aren’t alone in your feelings.