Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t his snoring - the problem is his total disregard for YOUR health and sanity. Couples therapy and if he won’t go, separation. Seriously.

+1

The response to your issues with the snoring is the problem.

My ex-wife snored loud as hell. It was her weight causing it. Of course I never said that to her. I put up with it for five years. I was miserable. We divorced for other reasons. I didn't remember how big of an issue it was until I started dating a woman, and she fell asleep on the couch while we were watching a movie. She snored so loud that I could hear her upstairs. I broke it off the next week.

We sleep in separate bedrooms but it makes vacation hard because I’m up all night long - my husband did the Pilar procedure but it didn’t work - ent swears it isn’t apnea - except the entire house can hear him

CPAP etc. don't get at the root cause -- something has changed to cause the snoring -- that change needs to be reversed. Often it's hypothyroidism and associated weight gain. There's a reason thyroid medicine is the #1 prescribed item in the U.S.

He should be sleeping on the couch not you.

Could you afford a three bedroom?

If no at least buy a twin bed with a real mattress and bedroom and put it in the living room somewhere. Out nice throw pillows on it during the day.

I might try to get him to use an anti-snoring mouth guard. Some are custom made by dentists. Some are available online and can be fitted at home. The ones sold online are cheaper but bulkier.

I don't know why, but anti-snoring mouth guards don't seem to be available at most pharmacies. (I'd be curious to know why most pharmacies don't sell them.)

The mouth guards work by keeping your jaw forward and preventing it from sliding back toward your throat when you sleep, making your air passage a little wider than it would be if your jaw went all the way back when you relax your jaw muscles. Each brand of mouth guard has its own unique design, but they all seem to involve two plastic trays, one for top teeth and one for bottom teeth, with the two trays connected in a way that prevents the bottom teeth from moving backwards. They look a little like the mouth guards worn by football and basketball players.

For some people, anti-snoring mouth guards not only reduce snoring but also reduce jaw pain and headaches from teeth grinding, while improving sleep (for both the snorers and other people who might have to listen to the snoring).

I'm surprised these products aren't more popular. Brands include Snorex, Vitalsleep, zquiet, puresleep, and Silent Nite.

The problem isn’t his snoring - the problem is his total disregard for YOUR health and sanity. Couples therapy and if he won’t go, separation. Seriously.

At the very least you guys should trade off sleeping in the bed. Why should he get to sleep there all the time? Can you do like an intervention? Have his family also tell him he needs to see a doctor about it? Or offer to make the appointment for him?

Same. DS sleeps with me. DH sleeps in DS’s room. DS is 3 so it’s fine for now. Eventually we will need a house with a guest room.

^^sorry, missed the 1 kid. Seriously consider divorcing this guy. It will only get worse.

Anonymous wrote:The person creating the issue (and with the power to fix it) is the one who needs to sleep in the couch.

I would be divorcing over this. No idea how or why anyone would put up with it.

+1 Sorry you married a selfish bastard. Don’t have kids with this jerk.

The person creating the issue (and with the power to fix it) is the one who needs to sleep in the couch.

I would be divorcing over this. No idea how or why anyone would put up with it.

First off, it could be a precursor to something very serious, healthwise. He should take it seriously.

He should go to an ENT to make sure there's nothing anatomically wrong (deviated septum, etc).

CPAP machine could work but that's symptomatic and does not help with the root cause. Is he overweight?

Diet and exercise make a huge difference with snoring and if he won't do any of that, he can go sleep in another room.

Ugh, I totally understand OP. It's awful. Luckily our couch is super comfortable to sleep on so that has helped but ideally it would be great if I could once again sleep in our bed but I'll take sleep any way I can get it.

My husband also snores, though usually not when he sleeps on his right side. I unapologetically kick him or shove him in the back when he snores until he shifts into a position where he doesn't snore. Sometimes he will get angry because I am waking him up in the middle of the night, which is hilarious because I'M only awake in the middle of the night due to his snoring. He also doesn't pursue things that I think would help, like strips or drinking less. Fortunately, we do have a guest room but it's a pretty annoying situation.