Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 12:21     Subject: The healthy obsessed moms
OP, this is why teachers should manage their classrooms.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 12:19     Subject: The healthy obsessed moms
Honestly I think the kids will be fine at the party and be grateful this ‘doninate’ woman is handling the party. The kids will be hours away from their TOT-and are probably already over saturated from this weekend Halloween theme parties. My only issue would be one parent deciding how things should be but it wouldn’t be the hill I’d die on. IF you have a different idea of how you’d run the class party hopefully you’ll have a chance to be lead on the Valentine’s Day party and seek comity there
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 11:50     Subject: The healthy obsessed moms
Anonymous wrote:I get the healthy moms. Because every various adult they interact with from oct 21-oct 31 feels like giving them a seer or candy.

For two of my boys, it really derails their overall nutrition to add too many sweets in. It’s not like they will eat healthy things PLUS the sweets. They will refuse healthy things on those kinds of days. Their moods are awful and completely different on the days that (I will admit that I am responsible) they have a cookie from the grocery store, the doctor gives them two lollipops, the neighbor says she has some Halloween chocolates for them, and preschool offered a cupcake because someone brought them in; and we were out of fruit so I gave them chips ahoy for a morning snack. Etc. I’ve had those days, and the moods and meltdowns are not pretty. Miserable for everyone.
My other child can handle it. She acts a tiny bit crazier but still eats a healthy dinner. My boys will forgo it because it’s not sweet too.

So, we need to all step back and limit at least 50% of the seeets we offer. We all think ‘a little is just ok,’but they’re getting it from so many sources.

I mean, everything in moderation, right? I can see how this happens occasionally, but they also need to learn to regulate and refuse by saying, "Oh, I already had a treat earlier today." That's not an easy lesson to learn, but it's an important one that they will need to carry into adulthood. Otherwise, just look at all the posts in the "Diet and Exercise" forums that are about not being able to pass up the birthday cakes and candy in their office.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 11:49     Subject: Re:The healthy obsessed moms
If you have one dominant person in a group, you really need to structure meetings so everyone can give input. So do something like say, we are going to break into small groups and brainstorm, and then we will all vote. Make sure there are several plans presented and people can choose a plan other than the one the dominate person favors, but without directly confronting her.

Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 11:48     Subject: The healthy obsessed moms
Anonymous wrote:I get the healthy moms. Because every various adult they interact with from oct 21-oct 31 feels like giving them a seer or candy.

For two of my boys, it really derails their overall nutrition to add too many sweets in. It’s not like they will eat healthy things PLUS the sweets. They will refuse healthy things on those kinds of days. Their moods are awful and completely different on the days that (I will admit that I am responsible) they have a cookie from the grocery store, the doctor gives them two lollipops, the neighbor says she has some Halloween chocolates for them, and preschool offered a cupcake because someone brought them in; and we were out of fruit so I gave them chips ahoy for a morning snack. Etc. I’ve had those days, and the moods and meltdowns are not pretty. Miserable for everyone.
My other child can handle it. She acts a tiny bit crazier but still eats a healthy dinner. My boys will forgo it because it’s not sweet too.

So, we need to all step back and limit at least 50% of the seeets we offer. We all think ‘a little is just ok,’but they’re getting it from so many sources.


I understand what you’re saying, but not everyone is like this or gives their kid this much sugar on a regular basis. It’s not up to the health obsessed mom to police what everyone else’s kids eat, any more than it’s up to the junk allowing mom to insist the party be full of candy. Healthy snacks plus a cookie option is a simple middle ground.

My kid gets offered candy too, and it goes in a basket that gets doled out in small doses. If she has too much sugar she is a nutcase, so I’ve learned when and how much to allow. Just because someone offers it doesn’t mean it gets eaten that moment.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 11:45     Subject: The healthy obsessed moms
I’d be grateful to her. All this junk is poisonous for goodness sake.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 11:30     Subject: Re:The healthy obsessed moms
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid would've died of embarrassment if I was still meeting about class parties in 5th grade. Maybe it's time to take up a hobby or something.


OP here. I am a full time working mom. No one stepped up to room parent 5th grade so the teachers asked again. So not there are just a few of us are running the snacks and games for the entire 5th grade (4 classes of 25-27 kids each.) The teachers don't run the parties at all. If a few moms don't step up, your kids don't get a party. So sorry, this was my hobby after a long week of work.

I don't care about healthy snack options, but these kids have had a sweet option at every single party their entire elementary school and it is their last one. Not huge donuts or cupcakes, but simple items. Last year it was two Oreos, a cheese stick, and pretzels. So no one else is coming in with treats. Someone is buying bulk oranges and popcorn for the whole grade. Picking the games was an issue too. I just don't care, but I envision handing out these oranges and these 5th graders are going to be like "are you serious!??" If you want to start the health only kick, do it in K when they don't know any better.

Anyway, it is the dominating mom issue. Shutting other moms down like they are her children. I wasn't the one who suggested the cookie. I tried to say, that seems to be fine and the dominating mom ignored us and just moved on with her game ideas. Not sure if I can handle her all year as a room parent. Maybe that is why no one ever steps forward?



Schools still allow parties like this in 5th grade? Not at my kid's school and the one where I teach. All of the parties, etc end in 2nd grade and then I think there is a limit of 2-3 . I think room parents must only exist in wealthy schools. I would not waste one second thinking about this OP.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 10:41     Subject: Re:The healthy obsessed moms
Anonymous wrote:My kids went to a birthday party with no birthday cake. They are grown now and still talk about it...........


THAT is hilarious. Some moms are just so extreme. They prove some crazy point instead of teaching moderation.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 10:38     Subject: Re:The healthy obsessed moms
Anonymous wrote:My kid would've died of embarrassment if I was still meeting about class parties in 5th grade. Maybe it's time to take up a hobby or something.


OP here. I am a full time working mom. No one stepped up to room parent 5th grade so the teachers asked again. So not there are just a few of us are running the snacks and games for the entire 5th grade (4 classes of 25-27 kids each.) The teachers don't run the parties at all. If a few moms don't step up, your kids don't get a party. So sorry, this was my hobby after a long week of work.

I don't care about healthy snack options, but these kids have had a sweet option at every single party their entire elementary school and it is their last one. Not huge donuts or cupcakes, but simple items. Last year it was two Oreos, a cheese stick, and pretzels. So no one else is coming in with treats. Someone is buying bulk oranges and popcorn for the whole grade. Picking the games was an issue too. I just don't care, but I envision handing out these oranges and these 5th graders are going to be like "are you serious!??" If you want to start the health only kick, do it in K when they don't know any better.

Anyway, it is the dominating mom issue. Shutting other moms down like they are her children. I wasn't the one who suggested the cookie. I tried to say, that seems to be fine and the dominating mom ignored us and just moved on with her game ideas. Not sure if I can handle her all year as a room parent. Maybe that is why no one ever steps forward?
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 10:20     Subject: The healthy obsessed moms
I get the health moms, I didn't used to, but after we moved to US, after few years, I saw that my kids literary can't escape sugar in every single thing. Snack, cookies, dinner, brownies, sport events.... parents bring more sugar! Heck, even if they bring meat, it is drenched in sugar and artificial crap. Teriyaki, BBQ ribs, chicken rubbed in sugar. Salmon drenched in sugar! I used to eat poached salmon in Norway with a bit of salt and pepper! My dad pointed out some 23 years ago, why is this restaurant putting this crap on ribs? They are perfectly delicious without sugar on them. Plus parents are judged if their kids are overweight, and not everyone has that kid who can eat whatever they want and stay stick skinny.(even if the insides are dying) So, maybe she should have kept quiet, that is what I would do, but the sugar epidemic is getting out of hand. So, you do you, and you roll your eyes at her, and each can be happy.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 10:12     Subject: Re:The healthy obsessed moms
My kid would've died of embarrassment if I was still meeting about class parties in 5th grade. Maybe it's time to take up a hobby or something.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 09:47     Subject: Re:The healthy obsessed moms
My kids went to a birthday party with no birthday cake. They are grown now and still talk about it...........
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 07:58     Subject: Re:The healthy obsessed moms
Well in our school, candy (no allergens) is given out by the teacher regularly as rewards for certain behaviors, etc. What would you health freaks say about that?
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 07:50     Subject: The healthy obsessed moms
NBD not MBD
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2018 07:50     Subject: The healthy obsessed moms
Seriously, who cares either way? It’s a two hour party.

If the other mom doesn’t want the junk food, just skip it and feed your own kids candy later. It’s really not an issue either way. I get that it’s annoying because the other mom wants to run things her way, but it’s MBD in the grand scheme of things.

Take a breath and let it go.