Anonymous
10/24/2018 09:51
Subject: Tell me about a Mom you admire
I know a mom who is completely ok with her kids not being extraordinary.
Anonymous
10/24/2018 09:44
Subject: Tell me about a Mom you admire
My best friend is my mom-spiration. Her kids are a bit older than mine and I always told her I wanted to be like her when I had kids. Her kids are nice, polite, eat well, and are just great kids and she is just a great mom. Nothing crazy or over the top, just decent people (her DH is also great) raising decent human beings. She recently suffered a stillbirth and I dropped everything to be by her side and even in the midst of all the grief she still is a genuine human being.
And yes, I remind her of it frequently
And yes, I remind her of it frequently
Anonymous
10/24/2018 09:39
Subject: Re:Tell me about a Mom you admire
Anonymous wrote:I have one mom and one dad that stand out in my mind.
The first is a friend that married a man that had a tween daughter (daughter is now in college). They also have 3 kids of their own in the last few years. She did her best to make a blended family. The older daughter was always made to feel part of the family and she went out of her way to make sure that the daughter knew she was loved by her and that she (my friend) wanted her around and a part of the family. My friend also has a good relationship with the ex-wife and the ex-wife's new husband. The families actually will have "family" dinners together. A stepparent situation isn't the easiest but they show how it can be done to the benefit of all. I'm not saying it was easy, because it wasn't but they all put the daughter first.
The second is a guy friend who was married and had 2 kids. They were living in a different place and my friend moved back down here for his job. He stayed involved in his kids' lives, going to where they were every other weekend, his holidays, etc. He would also go up for special games or school programs. He would also go for parent-teacher conferences and other stuff like that. He started dating a very wonderful woman and made sure from the beginning that she knew that his kids were a priority. Once it got serious, she started doing the same weekend trips and incorporating the kids into her life too. They got married and made the kids a priority, which they still are. I probably haven't described the extent of their dedication but it was admirable.
Nice. I knew a guy like your second example. Almost. He couldn't afford all his trips, and related lost income, without living rent-free with that very wonderful woman. He also felt he shouldn't have to parent even half-time the child he had with VWW since he'd BTDT. It was admirable how half-assed or totally absentee he was at every adult obligation in his life, and made himself to be the martyr of every woman in his life, mother, ex-wife, ex-VWW.
/rant. I know, cool story bro.
Anonymous
10/24/2018 09:35
Subject: Tell me about a Mom you admire
My wife. She's amazing, and works so hard to give my son a caring, safe, fun, supportive home.
Anonymous
10/24/2018 09:31
Subject: Re:Tell me about a Mom you admire
I really admire one of my co-workers and her DH. They have 3 kids, no nanny, and both work full-time, but they make it work and the whole family seems to get along great. The oldest (a tween) really loves helping to take care of the younger 2. It just seems like they have so much on their plate but are managing it effortlessly. I'm sure it's more complicated than that, but I admire them!
Anonymous
10/24/2018 09:05
Subject: Re:Tell me about a Mom you admire
I have one mom and one dad that stand out in my mind.
The first is a friend that married a man that had a tween daughter (daughter is now in college). They also have 3 kids of their own in the last few years. She did her best to make a blended family. The older daughter was always made to feel part of the family and she went out of her way to make sure that the daughter knew she was loved by her and that she (my friend) wanted her around and a part of the family. My friend also has a good relationship with the ex-wife and the ex-wife's new husband. The families actually will have "family" dinners together. A stepparent situation isn't the easiest but they show how it can be done to the benefit of all. I'm not saying it was easy, because it wasn't but they all put the daughter first.
The second is a guy friend who was married and had 2 kids. They were living in a different place and my friend moved back down here for his job. He stayed involved in his kids' lives, going to where they were every other weekend, his holidays, etc. He would also go up for special games or school programs. He would also go for parent-teacher conferences and other stuff like that. He started dating a very wonderful woman and made sure from the beginning that she knew that his kids were a priority. Once it got serious, she started doing the same weekend trips and incorporating the kids into her life too. They got married and made the kids a priority, which they still are. I probably haven't described the extent of their dedication but it was admirable.
The first is a friend that married a man that had a tween daughter (daughter is now in college). They also have 3 kids of their own in the last few years. She did her best to make a blended family. The older daughter was always made to feel part of the family and she went out of her way to make sure that the daughter knew she was loved by her and that she (my friend) wanted her around and a part of the family. My friend also has a good relationship with the ex-wife and the ex-wife's new husband. The families actually will have "family" dinners together. A stepparent situation isn't the easiest but they show how it can be done to the benefit of all. I'm not saying it was easy, because it wasn't but they all put the daughter first.
The second is a guy friend who was married and had 2 kids. They were living in a different place and my friend moved back down here for his job. He stayed involved in his kids' lives, going to where they were every other weekend, his holidays, etc. He would also go up for special games or school programs. He would also go for parent-teacher conferences and other stuff like that. He started dating a very wonderful woman and made sure from the beginning that she knew that his kids were a priority. Once it got serious, she started doing the same weekend trips and incorporating the kids into her life too. They got married and made the kids a priority, which they still are. I probably haven't described the extent of their dedication but it was admirable.
Anonymous
10/24/2018 08:48
Subject: Tell me about a Mom you admire
Anonymous wrote:When I was a kid in the 1970s, my friend's parents divorced. That easn t unusual, but in my friend's case, her parents had married young, and her dad was kind of a deadbeat. My friend's mother hadn't been to college, but she had two kids to support, so she started a daycare in her home. They lived pretty close to the edge, gonancially.
One day, I went over after school, and there were a ton of extra kids there. My friend's mother had allowed a friend with four boys to stay with them for a while, as this friend had left her husband. This other woman seemed very helpless, and only wore plain white men's t-shirts, the kind you get in packs of 3 at the store.. My friend was pretty annoyed with her mother. They didn't have so much extra space, food, and money that they could just shoehorn five extra people into their house. It was only later, as an adult, that I realized that this houseguest and her kids had probably fled domestic abuse with whatever they could carry. My friend's mom just quiietly did the right thing, and took them in.
If this was posted in the childcare part of DCUM, people would be up in arms because of the non-background-checked adult and all the other kids at the daycare.
Anonymous
10/24/2018 02:58
Subject: Tell me about a Mom you admire
When I was a kid in the 1970s, my friend's parents divorced. That easn t unusual, but in my friend's case, her parents had married young, and her dad was kind of a deadbeat. My friend's mother hadn't been to college, but she had two kids to support, so she started a daycare in her home. They lived pretty close to the edge, gonancially.
One day, I went over after school, and there were a ton of extra kids there. My friend's mother had allowed a friend with four boys to stay with them for a while, as this friend had left her husband. This other woman seemed very helpless, and only wore plain white men's t-shirts, the kind you get in packs of 3 at the store.. My friend was pretty annoyed with her mother. They didn't have so much extra space, food, and money that they could just shoehorn five extra people into their house. It was only later, as an adult, that I realized that this houseguest and her kids had probably fled domestic abuse with whatever they could carry. My friend's mom just quiietly did the right thing, and took them in.
One day, I went over after school, and there were a ton of extra kids there. My friend's mother had allowed a friend with four boys to stay with them for a while, as this friend had left her husband. This other woman seemed very helpless, and only wore plain white men's t-shirts, the kind you get in packs of 3 at the store.. My friend was pretty annoyed with her mother. They didn't have so much extra space, food, and money that they could just shoehorn five extra people into their house. It was only later, as an adult, that I realized that this houseguest and her kids had probably fled domestic abuse with whatever they could carry. My friend's mom just quiietly did the right thing, and took them in.
Anonymous
10/24/2018 00:21
Subject: Tell me about a Mom you admire
A SAHM friend of mine. She takes care of my 2 year old while I am working during the day. She's so nice, gentle and is a great cook. I really admire her work. I wish I could be like her!
Anonymous
10/24/2018 00:06
Subject: Tell me about a Mom you admire
Most moms are super annoying. I admire anyone without kids!
Anonymous
10/23/2018 23:06
Subject: Re:Tell me about a Mom you admire
No one. DCUM has blown that illusion completely.
Anonymous
10/23/2018 22:44
Subject: Re:Tell me about a Mom you admire
Anonymous wrote:I like moms who follow rules for capitalization. Proper nouns need require capitalization. Words you want emphasize do not.
I like moms who don’t feel the need to make themselves feel good about themselves by being pedantic grammar nazis on message boards.
-np
Anonymous
10/23/2018 22:44
Subject: Tell me about a Mom you admire
My mom. After working her butt off to raise my sister and me, she developed a second career advocating for disabled children in NYC. She didn’t have to work at all—my dad makes a lot of money—but instead poured her heart and soul into those people. She is singlehandedly responsible for countless of those young people having the services they need, jobs, guardianship, citizenship in some cases, etc. every mother’s day she gets all these texts and calls from kids who say she’s a second mom to them. When she retired—because my grandma needed her all the time for medical help—she wouldn’t even accept a retirement party. She always just said “what else could I do? They needed help and I can help them.” She’s absolutely incredible.
Anonymous
10/23/2018 22:41
Subject: Re:Tell me about a Mom you admire
No one.
Anonymous
10/23/2018 22:34
Subject: Re:Tell me about a Mom you admire
A friend of mine is intelligent, hardworking and is so down to earth and kind. I befriended her when she was a principal of an inner city school. Her partner screwed up big time and left her but she held it all together. She has two beautiful children. She eventually became an ED of a popular nonprofit because being principal was so time consuming. She’s doing great at that too. She’s one of the reasons I went back to work - she’s my role model.