Anonymous wrote:I mentioned looked, which would fall under the race category and talked, which would fall under the ethnicity category. But thanks for the lesson in how a preschool works, especially given I help run one.

"The traditional definition of race and ethnicity is related to biological and sociological factors respectively. Race refers to a person's physical characteristics, such as bone structure and skin, hair, or eye color. Ethnicity, however, refers to cultural factors, including nationality, regional culture, ancestry, and language."

I think you're confused. I'm responding to your earlier comment: "If they are screening the kids to see if they are a "good fit" for the school and not accepting/enrolling based off of the playdate, that's a whole other conversation and actually discrimination."
My argument is that screening kids to see if they are a good fit for the school it perfectly within their rights to do. It is not discrimination (which by definition suggests something unjust).

I doubt anyone evaluating an admissions playdate cares about how Larlo looks, other than appearing clean and neat -- i.e. as if the parent cares about their appearance. Although honestly toddlers are toddlers, and you never know if Larlo decided to just smear food all over themselves five minutes before the playdate. (We showed up at my LO's admissions playdate with just one shoe, because LO cheerfully tossed the shoe out the car into the sewer grate, thus losing it forever, as we were getting LO out of the car.)

But how a kid talks is vastly more than ethnicity. Their vocabulary, sophistication of language, etc. is all very relevant to admissions.

I mentioned looked, which would fall under the race category and talked, which would fall under the ethnicity category. But thanks for the lesson in how a preschool works, especially given I help run one.

"The traditional definition of race and ethnicity is related to biological and sociological factors respectively. Race refers to a person's physical characteristics, such as bone structure and skin, hair, or eye color. Ethnicity, however, refers to cultural factors, including nationality, regional culture, ancestry, and language."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is screening kids "discrimination"?

didn't say screening was..I said not accepting them based off of what you saw on a playdate is. If it's a developmental issue, then that's a conversation you have with the family. I'm sure any parent would be pissed if they found out a school didn't accept them just because of how their kid acted/looked/talked, etc. on a playdate

Umm, no. Discrimination based on race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, etc. is illegal, and no they can't and shouldn't do that. But competitive and highly-regarded preschools absolutely accept your child or not based on a number of factors. And you can be pissed off at that if you want, but it's the reality. It's exactly the same for private schools and colleges.

I assume they're actually at least as much to observe prospective parents.

Anonymous wrote:How is screening kids "discrimination"?

didn't say screening was..I said not accepting them based off of what you saw on a playdate is. If it's a developmental issue, then that's a conversation you have with the family. I'm sure any parent would be pissed if they found out a school didn't accept them just because of how their kid acted/looked/talked, etc. on a playdate