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Anonymous wrote:So, if you aren't married to Dad and have custody, he's not your stepson and you are his guardian? In less he is going somewhere important as long as he is clean and matches let it go.

It’s probably a step father posting here...

A stepfather posting about fashion?

That is the first issue with this situation.

Maybe this is a 2 dads situation. I cant imagine a heterosexual man worrying himself about this.

I'm thinking bio mom and stepmom (and I'm a lesbian, so not being snarky that's just how it makes sense to me). I'm also curious about what's so horrible-maybe he's goth with a preppy stepmom?

But aren't lesbian moms usually more acceptable about kids being who they are, especially regarding what they wear?

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, if you aren't married to Dad and have custody, he's not your stepson and you are his guardian? In less he is going somewhere important as long as he is clean and matches let it go.

It’s probably a step father posting here...

A stepfather posting about fashion?

That is the first issue with this situation.

Maybe this is a 2 dads situation. I cant imagine a heterosexual man worrying himself about this.

Some men care about clothes. How close minded are some of the people here? Have you literally never met a heterosexual man who cares about his appearance?

As a society we need to give men a little more room to be individuals without declaring their sexuality.

Yes.

I have literally never met a heterosexual man who cares enough about fashion to worry about his teenage stepson not looking stylish and preppy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, if you aren't married to Dad and have custody, he's not your stepson and you are his guardian? In less he is going somewhere important as long as he is clean and matches let it go.

It’s probably a step father posting here...

A stepfather posting about fashion?

That is the first issue with this situation.

Maybe this is a 2 dads situation. I cant imagine a heterosexual man worrying himself about this.

Some men care about clothes. How close minded are some of the people here? Have you literally never met a heterosexual man who cares about his appearance?

As a society we need to give men a little more room to be individuals without declaring their sexuality.

A small sliver of heterosexual men are clutching their pearls over what their stepson is wearing and analyzing pictures of what ther step sons kids are wearing in pictures poster on social media.

You are confusing a heterosexual man's personal choices in his appearance with a man who is worrying his pretty little head over such trite issues as what is step son looks like on social media.

Sorry, this is not something heterosexual men do. Period. Contrary to your idiotic opinion based on media trends there is a difference between men and women and thank God for that.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, if you aren't married to Dad and have custody, he's not your stepson and you are his guardian? In less he is going somewhere important as long as he is clean and matches let it go.

It’s probably a step father posting here...

A stepfather posting about fashion?

That is the first issue with this situation.

Maybe this is a 2 dads situation. I cant imagine a heterosexual man worrying himself about this.

I'm thinking bio mom and stepmom (and I'm a lesbian, so not being snarky that's just how it makes sense to me). I'm also curious about what's so horrible-maybe he's goth with a preppy stepmom?

This is my stepson.

His mom (my DW) is a big nerd. I don't think it's genetic, but learned because he learned to love Star Wars & Star Trek, Dr. Who, and weirdo board games from watching/playing with her.

DW will toss on a nerdy tee and leggings and rock that outfit on a weekend for errands. However, she knows how to dress stylishly M-F and when we go out on dates.

He'll toss on nerdy tees and basketball shorts for school and it just makes me cringe so much. I buy him clothes that are "in" and what his peers are wearing. He'll wear a few pieces, but prefers basketball shorts year round (even though he's not at all sporty) because they're comfortable and have "really big pockets for all my things." What things?! You're 14!

I love him, but oy! His lack of style is so frustrating! He's a good looking kid and would definitely have more friends if he dressed better. He desperately wants a girlfriend for the 8th grade spring dance this year and all I want to do is shake him and say, "you gotta hide your inner nerd until you lock it down, son! HIDE IT!"

And I'm still waiting to hear what's so awful about the kid's clothes.. Bell bottoms? Socks and sandals (oh, wait, that's actually chic now!)?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, if you aren't married to Dad and have custody, he's not your stepson and you are his guardian? In less he is going somewhere important as long as he is clean and matches let it go.

It’s probably a step father posting here...

A stepfather posting about fashion?

That is the first issue with this situation.

Maybe this is a 2 dads situation. I cant imagine a heterosexual man worrying himself about this.

Some men care about clothes. How close minded are some of the people here? Have you literally never met a heterosexual man who cares about his appearance?

As a society we need to give men a little more room to be individuals without declaring their sexuality.

Honestly you need to not care. He doesn’t and his friends don’t. Get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, if you aren't married to Dad and have custody, he's not your stepson and you are his guardian? In less he is going somewhere important as long as he is clean and matches let it go.

It’s probably a step father posting here...

A stepfather posting about fashion?

That is the first issue with this situation.

Maybe this is a 2 dads situation. I cant imagine a heterosexual man worrying himself about this.

Also, some people think fashion is stupid and avoid it on purpose. I couldn’t care less about what my cool preppy peers wear.

Clothes just don't matter. His friends like him just fine.

Perhaps the cute stuff you buy him really doesn't fit his style or body?

I always insist on one outfit to meet my standards for when we'd go out as a family. Otherwise I just let it be.

Is he clean? Are his clothes clean and taken care of? Hair combed etc?

You don't say what the issue is besides that his clothes aren't preppy and cool. That's your taste, not his.

This sounds familiar. I think this lady has posted this same rant before.

Also, I think it’s a little odd that the step dad is noticing the effortless preppy look of the other boys. I’m sort of imagining that these kids go to some rich kid prep school and most of them look like they stepped out of a Polo ad, but his step-son looks like a normal teenage boy in jeans and a Caps t shirt.

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Anonymous wrote:So, if you aren't married to Dad and have custody, he's not your stepson and you are his guardian? In less he is going somewhere important as long as he is clean and matches let it go.

It’s probably a step father posting here...

A stepfather posting about fashion?

That is the first issue with this situation.