Anonymous
10/11/2018 10:50
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
"Your mother" and "your father"
Anonymous
10/11/2018 10:42
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s always infuriated me / made my skin crawl when people drop the “my” when telling a story or talking about their own family. Your dad is not my dad, my dad is not your dad. Dad isn’t sufficient and sounds weird. “Dad and I went to a nats game” implies you and I share a father.
I’ve noticed it’s mostly with super cliquey awkwardly close, southern baptist type families.
Fascinating. These things bug me, too.
When my alcoholic dad would start saying, “your mother,” I knew the shit was about to hit the fan.
Somehow hearing someone else’s female parent as Mother seems creepy. “Mother always liked to keep a clean kitchen.”
I also find it odd when my MIL refers to my mother as “Lois” to me, in conversation. “Lois says you’ll be there for Thanksgiving.”
Stranger, MIL only ever calls my only sibling my “sister” and never by her name. I always hear, “is your sister here?” And yes, MIL knows my sister’s name and I’m not a newlywed.
I only refer to my brother as my brother in conversation. I don’t know why, just do.
Anonymous
10/11/2018 10:27
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Mostly just Dad.
Anonymous
10/11/2018 10:22
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Anonymous wrote:Your dad. Not divorced. My parents referred to the parent by first name. Go ask Debbie etc..
Referring to the other parent by their first name is strange to me. It feels unnatural and formal.
Anonymous
10/11/2018 10:17
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Anonymous wrote:It’s always infuriated me / made my skin crawl when people drop the “my” when telling a story or talking about their own family. Your dad is not my dad, my dad is not your dad. Dad isn’t sufficient and sounds weird. “Dad and I went to a nats game” implies you and I share a father.
I’ve noticed it’s mostly with super cliquey awkwardly close, southern baptist type families.
Fascinating. These things bug me, too.
When my alcoholic dad would start saying, “your mother,” I knew the shit was about to hit the fan.
Somehow hearing someone else’s female parent as Mother seems creepy. “Mother always liked to keep a clean kitchen.”
I also find it odd when my MIL refers to my mother as “Lois” to me, in conversation. “Lois says you’ll be there for Thanksgiving.”
Stranger, MIL only ever calls my only sibling my “sister” and never by her name. I always hear, “is your sister here?” And yes, MIL knows my sister’s name and I’m not a newlywed.
Anonymous
10/11/2018 10:13
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Your dad. Not divorced. My parents referred to the parent by first name. Go ask Debbie etc..
Anonymous
10/11/2018 10:03
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Anonymous wrote:I usually say Dad because as far as my kids are concerned that’s his name. DH occasionally refers to me as “your mom” but only when he’s emphasizing the relationship — like, “you do NOT hit your mother!” ahem two year old.
I live for the day my oldest will get why it’s funny when I make a “yo mama” joke.
Same here. When talking to my kids, I use "Dad" like I'd use a first name. "Please give this book to Dad" is the equivalent of "Please give this book to Mary." If i'm talking about my own father to another person, I say "my dad."
Anonymous
10/11/2018 09:42
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Anonymous wrote:It’s always infuriated me / made my skin crawl when people drop the “my” when telling a story or talking about their own family. Your dad is not my dad, my dad is not your dad. Dad isn’t sufficient and sounds weird. “Dad and I went to a nats game” implies you and I share a father.
I’ve noticed it’s mostly with super cliquey awkwardly close, southern baptist type families.
Ha! Yes, that's my pet peeve too. My family is Southern Baptist and they all do this! "Take this plate to dad, please" "Sure. Yours or mine?" "Yours and see if mine needs anything else."
Anonymous
10/11/2018 09:30
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
I usually say Dad because as far as my kids are concerned that’s his name. DH occasionally refers to me as “your mom” but only when he’s emphasizing the relationship — like, “you do NOT hit your mother!” ahem two year old.
I live for the day my oldest will get why it’s funny when I make a “yo mama” joke.
I live for the day my oldest will get why it’s funny when I make a “yo mama” joke.
Anonymous
10/11/2018 09:26
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s always infuriated me / made my skin crawl when people drop the “my” when telling a story or talking about their own family. Your dad is not my dad, my dad is not your dad. Dad isn’t sufficient and sounds weird. “Dad and I went to a nats game” implies you and I share a father.
I’ve noticed it’s mostly with super cliquey awkwardly close, southern baptist type families.
Yes to this. The only person who should drop the "My" when referring to mom or dad are my siblings. Even with my SIL I'll say "my mom" or "your mom".
In Spanish I say "My Mom" even when talking to my own siblings. I don't know if it's a language thing, I welcome other native speakers to chime in and I wonder if it varies by country. We are from southern Mexico.
Anonymous
10/11/2018 09:10
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Anonymous wrote:Both. When speaking to my kids “your” isn’t required. There is only one Dad in our house, and obviously he’s their dad.
In that case it becomes a proper noun, like a first name. I wouldn’t say go ask Brother, because brother is not a proper noun.
I wouldn't use it that way, but people do use it that way, or used to. I had a relative-in-law whose family referred to her as Sister or Sis (she was the oldest girl), and her brother (the oldest boy) was Brother or Buddy.
Anonymous
10/11/2018 09:09
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Anonymous wrote:It’s always infuriated me / made my skin crawl when people drop the “my” when telling a story or talking about their own family. Your dad is not my dad, my dad is not your dad. Dad isn’t sufficient and sounds weird. “Dad and I went to a nats game” implies you and I share a father.
I’ve noticed it’s mostly with super cliquey awkwardly close, southern baptist type families.
Yes to this. The only person who should drop the "My" when referring to mom or dad are my siblings. Even with my SIL I'll say "my mom" or "your mom".
Anonymous
10/11/2018 09:07
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Either "Ask Dad" or "Ask your father". But not "Ask your dad."
Anonymous
10/11/2018 08:58
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
Both. When speaking to my kids “your” isn’t required. There is only one Dad in our house, and obviously he’s their dad.
In that case it becomes a proper noun, like a first name. I wouldn’t say go ask Brother, because brother is not a proper noun.
In that case it becomes a proper noun, like a first name. I wouldn’t say go ask Brother, because brother is not a proper noun.
Anonymous
10/11/2018 08:56
Subject: Do you say “dad” or “your dad”?
We say Dada, but yeah just Dada and not your Dada. (I have toddlers and we love how they say dada so we stuck with that)