Anonymous wrote:dear God, I hope this post is so super fake. Using an app to track your college-age kid and her studying habits? And yet another parent who justifies their control freak ehavior by the amount of money they're spending on tuition.

do your daughter favor. Stop paying her tuition and let her live her life. She will have to figure stuff out on her own because the way you are micro managing and controlling her, she is going to be completely useless later in[/b]

[b]I can almost a hundred percent guarantee that her failure to adapt, while relatively normal, is a direct side effect of your previous control and micromanagement of her entire life and time and schedule.

All I can do is hope and pray that this post is fake

Agreed.

Most people "crack the books" on Sunday after lunch.

Noon’s probably realistic (+ or - 2 hours, depending on approaching deadlines and/or what happened Saturday). FWIW, this is how my non-partying STEM kid with a high GPA at a tough school works. So even the responsible ones aren’t all up at the crack of dawn (or even before lunch) hitting the books.

You can expect grades in exchange for tuition money. You can’t expect a certain schedule.

FWIW the people in the library on Sunday mornings were so stressed they often turned to hard core drugs to deal or had to take time off. If she is worried that is exactly the wrong place to be!

Anonymous wrote:These are gps apps used by tens of millions of families. It’s not stalking or tracking. It’s just an app. If I feel like checking where she’s at, I can. Big whoop. So can hundreds of her friends on Snapchat.

In this instance it’s allowing me to see she’s not being serious about getting more confident in her studies. If you feel overwhelmed (her words!) you have to outwork others around you. No Fri Sat studying and then sleeping in Sunday is being immature and lazy.

If she has any sense at all, she will figure it out. I actually would never expect my kid to spend their whole weekend studying. That seems likes a recipe for stress and total burnout to me. If they are managing their time well during the week they should be able to get a bit of a break on the weekends. If they are slacking during the week and not studying on the weekend they are going to learn the hard way they are not prepared for their classes. If they are studying during the week but still feeling unprepared they will need to step it up a notch and spend some time studying on the weekends.

If they are spending all week and all weekend studying and never having a break or any fun then they will have to decide if that is worth it to them. Again, that is not something that you can decide for someone else.

OP, you don't know. You wish you knew. You wish you had super powers. You don't. Instead you sound crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, sleeping in on the weekends is a given. I see no reason she should have to get up early on a Sunday to study, if she has the rest of the day/night free.

Well if you also know she did nothing academic Friday nights and all day on Saturdays it becomes very concerning.

She's in college. Why would any of you know whether your kid is doing anything "academic"??

Because we’re writing $30,000 checks twice a year. And she already expressed academic strain.

I still maintain that your level of surveillance on a college student is crazy. You're well within your right to set a line in the sand but she needs to face natural consequences or she will never learn.

I know times have changed, but my parents had no clue how I spent my time in college. They expected decent grades but they weren’t about to plan out my schedule for me.

These are gps apps used by tens of millions of families. It’s not stalking or tracking. It’s just an app. If I feel like checking where she’s at, I can. Big whoop. So can hundreds of her friends on Snapchat.

In this instance it’s allowing me to see she’s not being serious about getting more confident in her studies. If you feel overwhelmed (her words!) you have to outwork others around you. No Fri Sat studying and then sleeping in Sunday is being immature and lazy.

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Anonymous wrote:I never studied in the library at college. But occasionally I would do so class reading there because of the nice smoking lounge and a coffee machine.

We all use the find my family app, so it’s not like she’s just not in one of many libraries (or study spots), she’s barely studying.

O.k. this is creepy. I can't imagine tracking my college kid like that. Your assumptions based on this tracking may not even be accurate. I know that I studied in my dorm and sometimes even outside sitting on the grass. A picnic table on a pretty day was a great place to study.

It’s not creepy, it’s new normal. All of her friends know her every move on Snapchat GPS and family in find my family. And every app you have knows even more. Maybe you’re just a luddite. It allows us to piece together an accurate picture of her actions. She’s not studying enough.

Anyways, I was just trying to figure out when most kids crack the books on a Sunday. Thanks.

Most do not crack the books early on Sunday.

I do not track my kid. I wouldn't track my kid like that. I didn't send a fool to college, if my kid isn't studying enough that is something that he is going to need to work on. I can't do it for him.

dear God, I hope this post is so super fake. Using an app to track your college-age kid and her studying habits? And yet another parent who justifies their control freak ehavior by the amount of money they're spending on tuition.

do your daughter favor. Stop paying her tuition and let her live her life. She will have to figure stuff out on her own because the way you are micro managing and controlling her, she is going to be completely useless later in

I can almost a hundred percent guarantee that her failure to adapt, while relatively normal, is a direct side effect of your previous control and micromanagement of her entire life and time and schedule.

All I can do is hope and pray that this post is fake

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Anonymous wrote:I never studied in the library at college. But occasionally I would do so class reading there because of the nice smoking lounge and a coffee machine.

We all use the find my family app, so it’s not like she’s just not in one of many libraries (or study spots), she’s barely studying.

O.k. this is creepy. I can't imagine tracking my college kid like that. Your assumptions based on this tracking may not even be accurate. I know that I studied in my dorm and sometimes even outside sitting on the grass. A picnic table on a pretty day was a great place to study.

It’s not creepy, it’s new normal. All of her friends know her every move on Snapchat GPS and family in find my family. And every app you have knows even more. Maybe you’re just a luddite. It allows us to piece together an accurate picture of her actions. She’s not studying enough.

Anyways, I was just trying to figure out when most kids crack the books on a Sunday. Thanks.

Not the new normal for a college among the group of families I hang out with. You have to let some of these checks go when your child becomes a legal adult. Will you stop at 21? When she is married? Never?

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Anonymous wrote:Op, sleeping in on the weekends is a given. I see no reason she should have to get up early on a Sunday to study, if she has the rest of the day/night free.

Well if you also know she did nothing academic Friday nights and all day on Saturdays it becomes very concerning.

She's in college. Why would any of you know whether your kid is doing anything "academic"??

Because we’re writing $30,000 checks twice a year. And she already expressed academic strain.

I still maintain that your level of surveillance on a college student is crazy. You're well within your right to set a line in the sand but she needs to face natural consequences or she will never learn.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, sleeping in on the weekends is a given. I see no reason she should have to get up early on a Sunday to study, if she has the rest of the day/night free.

Well if you also know she did nothing academic Friday nights and all day on Saturdays it becomes very concerning.

She's in college. Why would any of you know whether your kid is doing anything "academic"??

Because we’re writing $30,000 checks twice a year. And she already expressed academic strain.

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I never studied in the library at college. But occasionally I would do so class reading there because of the nice smoking lounge and a coffee machine.

We all use the find my family app, so it’s not like she’s just not in one of many libraries (or study spots), she’s barely studying.

O.k. this is creepy. I can't imagine tracking my college kid like that. Your assumptions based on this tracking may not even be accurate. I know that I studied in my dorm and sometimes even outside sitting on the grass. A picnic table on a pretty day was a great place to study.

It’s not creepy, it’s new normal. All of her friends know her every move on Snapchat GPS and family in find my family. And every app you have knows even more. Maybe you’re just a luddite. It allows us to piece together an accurate picture of her actions. She’s not studying enough.

Anyways, I was just trying to figure out when most kids crack the books on a Sunday. Thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, sleeping in on the weekends is a given. I see no reason she should have to get up early on a Sunday to study, if she has the rest of the day/night free.

Well if you also know she did nothing academic Friday nights and all day on Saturdays it becomes very concerning.

She's in college. Why would any of you know whether your kid is doing anything "academic"??