Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 22:49     Subject: Re:December 3, 1983

OP, I’m so sorry. The last couple weeks have opened up some very old very deep wounds for me, too. Thank you for saving that young girl. Wishing you peace.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 22:20     Subject: December 3, 1983

You are a survivor and you are a hero. Thank you for sharing your story, OP. I’m so glad you are happy now.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 22:12     Subject: December 3, 1983

OP here. Let me clarify one or two points:

1) I have been through therapy; this was part of the therapy.
2) I did not tell the police about the sodomy. At the time, I was embarrassed. I did not want people to think I was gay. (It was a different time; today I would not care).
3) I won. My life is good. I have a good job that I really enjoy and a great family. This evening, I spent it watching a great halftime show and a surprisingly good HS football game.

This week, though, has been like a gut punch opening up old wounds with all the reminders of early 80's preppy culture.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 21:28     Subject: December 3, 1983

Wow.....

What a story!!
My eyes are welled up w/tears.

What happened to you is an atrocity & I have no words for it.

You live your life knowing that what you did was so brave and so RIGHT.

Those five monsters have hopefully experienced a ton of karma in their lives.

Good for you -
You were/are a hero to that young girl as well as to anyone who knows your story....

On second thought, no....
Even to those who don’t or won’t hear your story,

You are still a hero.
Period.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 21:16     Subject: Re:December 3, 1983

I believe you.

I am so sorry. You did the right thing. Those assholes did not. You did not deserve that.

As a woman who has been too drunk to consent and had men use that to their advantage, I thank you.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 20:38     Subject: December 3, 1983

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I do not remember the names. Faces yes. It was in a state not near here. I am doing ok now and this would be disruptive to my life and my families life.


I am so so angry for you OP! Many hugs to you. You are a hero!!!!
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 20:02     Subject: December 3, 1983

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I do not remember the names. Faces yes. It was in a state not near here. I am doing ok now and this would be disruptive to my life and my families life.


You don't have to report it.
Talk about taking one for the team.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 19:06     Subject: December 3, 1983

Thank you OP. I know too many girls who weren't offered that phone call home. You are a good guy and I hope you have someone to talk to to work through the sexual assault you suffered. Bastards.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 18:36     Subject: December 3, 1983

I'm so sorry this happened to you OP. You are a true hero, please know that. You saved that girl.

It's never too late to get help and support.

Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 18:30     Subject: December 3, 1983

You may want to talk to a therapist.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 18:27     Subject: December 3, 1983

Op here. I do not remember the names. Faces yes. It was in a state not near here. I am doing ok now and this would be disruptive to my life and my families life.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 18:18     Subject: December 3, 1983

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am so sorry.

Please go to the police now. Even if there can't be a prosecution, (and maybe there can), let there be a record of this. Let the college you went to explain why nothing was done.

Consider a civil suit against the college as well.


I agree. Please go to the police OP. Which college is this btw?
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 18:14     Subject: December 3, 1983

OP, I am so sorry.

Please go to the police now. Even if there can't be a prosecution, (and maybe there can), let there be a record of this. Let the college you went to explain why nothing was done.

Consider a civil suit against the college as well.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 18:08     Subject: Re:December 3, 1983

OP,

You are a hero.

If you know who any of those 5 were, even if you don't, if this event happened in Virginia, there is no statue of limitation on any felony in Virginia. If you reported it to the police, this may be handled differently now.


Anonymous
Post 10/05/2018 18:08     Subject: December 3, 1983


Big hugs to you, dear OP. You are a hero.

We're living such a sad, sad, day, and yet we need to pick ourselves up and go on to the next challenge.