Anonymous wrote:OP here. Nobody is wanting anyone to make a big deal out of this. It's not like dd wants her name or photo flashed in the local paper or anything. She wants to put it in her college app but feels uncomfortable doing it without some official confirmation that she can do it. She doesn't have a whole lot of stuff to put down for honors/awards section in her application except honor soc and other sort of lame stuff.
I was a commended student forever and an age ago so this could be out of date. Last year I helped my mom move out of her house; she had all these old mementos of my childhood, including a letter from the PSAT/NMSQAT ppl informing me of my commended status. If your kid is unsure of her status maybe she should check with them bc they likely would have sent something.