Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how people today would have handled being conscripted and sent off to Vietnam or the Normandy Invasion. Or dealt with the famine and disease that was a mainstay of human existence up until 150 years ago. Or the far higher likelihood of death during childbirth. I don’t begrudge people for getting help, but it really does seem like so many women are in a perpetual state of being aggreived and broken and wounded.

Violent crime is way down from the 1990s. Unemployment is low. We are not being drafted to fight in wars (not that most DCUMers would have to worry about a draft). We have amazing technology. And yet women are more miserable and resentful than ever.

Because they’re trapping themselves in 1930s morality - everyone MUST be married by 25 and if you’re 33 and don’t have 2.5 kids you’re a failure as a woman while also trying to live within an idyllic 1950s bubble of perfect housewife with the white picket fence - knowing all the while inflation and COL vs wages haven’t been this bad since the 80s.

They’d be less stressed if they got their heads out of their asses.

There are few women who feel the way you describe.

It is the opposite. Women have been told they can have it all, career on their terms and babies on their timeline. Life doesn't work like that. That is tough for some women.

This is generational, not gendered. $5 says OP is dating women much younger than himself (fine, bro, do you) and younger people are much more likely to have diagnosed issues and to disclose them to dates.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is harder for women than for men. Work is harder because women are less respected. Women do more housework and child care. Women treat their partners on average better than men treat theirs. Women are more likely to be raped. Women have many more reasons to be depressed and anxious.

Then why do they live ten years longer?

Because they take care of themselves and make fewer impulsive, stupid decisions that lead to accidental or intentional injuries.

I think that the majority of people that are in the dating pool after say mid-30s have a mental issue. And as someone mentioned upthread, that was likely a reason for the divorce. It certainly was for me. Then you have the smaller group of codependent people (That includes me).
In sum, the dating pool is not good.

Because they’re all a little coo coo for cocoa puffs!

I read an interesting book that claims it’s because we don’t have the same quality and quantity of friendships that we need. We place a lot of value of independence, not being close with people, and not being too emotional, and it’s gotten worse with technology/social media. People have substituted meeting in real life with texting, Facebook, etc so they aren’t getting the in-person interactions they need. There was a study that found longevity and health were most closely correlated with 1. How many close friendships you have and 2. Your interactions with strangers you see in every day life (people walking on the street, cashiers, neighbors, etc). The more friendships and interactions people had, the longer and healthier their lives.

I think the other big problem with social media is comparison. I certainly feel bad about myself that I don’t have a killer body, hot boyfriend, and travel to exotic places across the globe like some of the people I follow online. The whole thing is designed to make you feel inadequate so you buy whatever product they are peddling in hopes you, too, can have that life.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is harder for women than for men. Work is harder because women are less respected. Women do more housework and child care. Women treat their partners on average better than men treat theirs. Women are more likely to be raped. Women have many more reasons to be depressed and anxious.

Women like you embarrass me as a woman. I’m not a victim. I don’t worry about any of these things. You WANT to be a victim, it seems. Pathetic.

That’s not what the pp was saying. Your comment to her post is rude.

Anonymous wrote:Life is harder for women than for men. Work is harder because women are less respected. Women do more housework and child care. Women treat their partners on average better than men treat theirs. Women are more likely to be raped. Women have many more reasons to be depressed and anxious.

Women like you embarrass me as a woman. I’m not a victim. I don’t worry about any of these things. You WANT to be a victim, it seems. Pathetic.

I’m female and I agree with OP. It sure does seem like a lot of women have issues.

Anonymous wrote:For some it's an issue. For most it's a fad.

Getting treatment for bipolar is not a fad. It means an MD, a psychiatrist, has decided that the person actually has this particular incurable condition.

I’ve met at least 3 such women online, and none of them could keep a lid on it. Which means they stayed in the dating pool.

Anonymous wrote:Women are smart enough to get help.

Men just hide it.

Women are medicated when really what they should be doing is making life changes. The meds eventually produce side effects. Many young women are additionally on heavy doses of birth control hormones which also alter your state of mind more than you realize. It’s vicious cycle.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.cnn.com/cnn/2015/03/03/opinion/holland-women-depression-drugs/index.html

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is harder for women than for men. Work is harder because women are less respected. Women do more housework and child care. Women treat their partners on average better than men treat theirs. Women are more likely to be raped. Women have many more reasons to be depressed and anxious.

Then why do they live ten years longer?

Because they are more likely to deal with it and get treatment.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is harder for women than for men. Work is harder because women are less respected. Women do more housework and child care. Women treat their partners on average better than men treat theirs. Women are more likely to be raped. Women have many more reasons to be depressed and anxious.

Then why do they live ten years longer?

Too busy to die.

The one constant in all this is the guy. Looks like he attracts the crazy.

There is another possibility. A mid 40's guy is dating women in 30's or 40's. Majority of the available women of that age are probably divorced.

The mental health issues and divorce might correlate. Heck there could be causation.