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Anonymous wrote:All happened over the summer. Nobody ever knows what’s going on in someone else’s marriage, but she’s posting this stuff all over Facebook. Where her two kids can see everything. Is there any tactful way for me to approach her about not sucking her kids into this drama just yet? It’s bad enough for them that she up and moved out, leaving them with their father. It’s as if she completely lost her mind...

Y'all trip me out with this obsession with tactfulness.
If you see a baby left in a hot car do you find a way to "tactfully" tell the parents to get little Johnny out?
Geezus if you're so concerned about the kids then F**K being tactful - say what needs to be said for the sake of the kids.

How is this situation (in which an internet "friend" thinks that the children are going to see pictures of their mom and her boyfriend and be harmed by that) the same as a child being left in a hot car?

It does not need to be said "for the sake of the kids." It just doesn't. Tactfulness in this case would be to mind her own business.

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Anonymous wrote:All happened over the summer. Nobody ever knows what’s going on in someone else’s marriage, but she’s posting this stuff all over Facebook. Where her two kids can see everything. Is there any tactful way for me to approach her about not sucking her kids into this drama just yet? It’s bad enough for them that she up and moved out, leaving them with their father. It’s as if she completely lost her mind...

Y'all trip me out with this obsession with tactfulness.
If you see a baby left in a hot car do you find a way to "tactfully" tell the parents to get little Johnny out?
Geezus if you're so concerned about the kids then F**K being tactful - say what needs to be said for the sake of the kids.

The problem is that if what you really care about is the kids, then it's to their benefit to say what needs to be said in a way that makes it more likely to be heard and acted upon. Blowing up on the mother is not likely to produce the desired results.

Anonymous wrote:you should support your friend. you don't know what abuse she suffered in the marriage. She most likely now feels empowered and is using social media posts to help promote that as an example to other women in her community. As for the kids, if she has a daughter she is showing her daughter how a strong woman takes control of her light. If she has sons then she is illustrating to her sons that they should take better care of their wives.

I don't feel a cheater is a "good example" to promote to the community.

Anonymous wrote:All happened over the summer. Nobody ever knows what’s going on in someone else’s marriage, but she’s posting this stuff all over Facebook. Where her two kids can see everything. Is there any tactful way for me to approach her about not sucking her kids into this drama just yet? It’s bad enough for them that she up and moved out, leaving them with their father. It’s as if she completely lost her mind...

Y'all trip me out with this obsession with tactfulness.
If you see a baby left in a hot car do you find a way to "tactfully" tell the parents to get little Johnny out?
Geezus if you're so concerned about the kids then F**K being tactful - say what needs to be said for the sake of the kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you should support your friend. you don't know what abuse she suffered in the marriage. She most likely now feels empowered and is using social media posts to help promote that as an example to other women in her community. As for the kids, if she has a daughter she is showing her daughter how a strong woman takes control of her light. If she has sons then she is illustrating to her sons that they should take better care of their wives.

if this isn't a troll post, then it's just another example of our society going down the drain

women! feel empowered to abandon your family! show a positive example as a STRONG WOMAN!

your antiquated thinking is what holds us back. you a grounded in the more of a WM dominated society.

I would stay out of it.

Anonymous wrote:You could be talking about me...except for the FB part. What you DON’T know is that we’ve been separated for a year and had serious problems for about 4 years prior to that. MYOB, you don’t know the whole story.

This!!!

Anonymous wrote:you should support your friend. you don't know what abuse she suffered in the marriage. She most likely now feels empowered and is using social media posts to help promote that as an example to other women in her community. As for the kids, if she has a daughter she is showing her daughter how a strong woman takes control of her light. If she has sons then she is illustrating to her sons that they should take better care of their wives.

if this isn't a troll post, then it's just another example of our society going down the drain

women! feel empowered to abandon your family! show a positive example as a STRONG WOMAN!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:maybe she is now happy and that is ok.

Typical... a woman can abandon her family and cheat on her husband as long as it makes her happy....

I’m a woman and I definitely disagree with pp.

Right.. Not typical of women. But typical of the militant feminists that like to make posts like that online

you should support your friend. you don't know what abuse she suffered in the marriage. She most likely now feels empowered and is using social media posts to help promote that as an example to other women in her community. As for the kids, if she has a daughter she is showing her daughter how a strong woman takes control of her light. If she has sons then she is illustrating to her sons that they should take better care of their wives.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:maybe she is now happy and that is ok.

Typical... a woman can abandon her family and cheat on her husband as long as it makes her happy....

I’m a woman and I definitely disagree with pp.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:maybe she is now happy and that is ok.

And all the psychological wreckage she leaves behind her be damned. Sorry, husband and kids, but the importance of her happiness totally supersedes yours!

You know nothing of her marriage or relationship.

NP. No, if there are kids involved, bragging about this stuff on FB is not ok and never will be. I’m not even going to criticize the affair (I don’t respect it but, as you say, we don’t know anything about their marriage). People who put their private stuff out on FB are losers, definitely, and also potentially harming other innocent people. My mom’s in home hospice but you wouldn’t know it from my FB page. Get your social media sh!t together.

Sounds like one of those women who only had kids because that's the "logical" step that comes after marriage.

I'm seeing more and more mothers leave their kids with their ex-husbands than I ever remember growing up.

Anonymous wrote:maybe she is now happy and that is ok.

Typical... a woman can abandon her family and cheat on her husband as long as it makes her happy....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:maybe she is now happy and that is ok.

And all the psychological wreckage she leaves behind her be damned. Sorry, husband and kids, but the importance of her happiness totally supersedes yours!

You know nothing of her marriage or relationship.