Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's definitely a trend. It's being promoted heavily by the powerful gay lobby, which lost its major fundraising hook when the Supreme Court approved gay marriage.

There is little scientific evidence to support the idea that humans can change genders but whatever....

I need to ask my lesbian DD what the gay lobby wants. She’ll probably claim she just wants to be treated with dignity and enjoy equal rights under the law, but all that money must be for something nefarious like Making America Fabulous Again.

BTW, most trans people aren’t gay or lesbian.

Depends on how you define trans.

There's a lot of murkiness surrounding the issue and that it's become a hot political subject all of a sudden has unfortunately made it difficult to get a firm handle on what it means or what it should be. While I do understand the thinking that tries to establish a parallel between the rise of transgenderism and the growth in acceptance and rights for homosexuals, I also think it's a mistake to think that one is the same as the other and should be evaluated in the same light.

For example, what's not popular to say these days is that there has historically been a very high overlap between self-identified transgenders and other psychological issues. Transgenderism also reopens the entire subject of whether there's a bona-fide "female brain" as opposed to a"male brain" (wholly separate from our male or female bodies), and this is a concept that has historically been used to argue the inferiority of the female to the male for most of human history and one that the feminist movement fought strongly to defeat. It also opens up the entire topic of whether women have the right to own their gender (with all the social and biological history that comes with it) or they must share it with transgender men (who do not).

I do find the topic fascinating, to tell the truth. Part of it is trying to understand the science of transgenderism (and unlike what some may want to think, it really is not a scientifically settled matter), and part of it is the politics of transgenderism, and the effect they have on each other.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

If the roommate is identifying as a male why is he in a female dorm?

Maybe because his parents insist he isn’t really male?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's definitely a trend. It's being promoted heavily by the powerful gay lobby, which lost its major fundraising hook when the Supreme Court approved gay marriage.

There is little scientific evidence to support the idea that humans can change genders but whatever....

I need to ask my lesbian DD what the gay lobby wants. She’ll probably claim she just wants to be treated with dignity and enjoy equal rights under the law, but all that money must be for something nefarious like Making America Fabulous Again.

BTW, most trans people aren’t gay or lesbian.

Thank you for this!

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

If the roommate is identifying as a male why is he in a female dorm?

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

If she requests a roommate change because she prefers a female roommate, then she is respecting the trans issue.

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

They do in other colleges. I have a friend whose trans daughter is in the LGBT dorm and has a female identified roommate.

How they self-identified.

When my child applied, they asked what the person's preference was. Not their biological gender.

Anonymous wrote:There is something that does not add up about that freshman with the transgender roommate.

If the roommate now identifies as a male, wouldn't they give him a male roommate? No school that I know of gives freshmen roommates of the opposite sex. That would not be respectful of either student.

Sounds fishy to me. What school are they claiming that happened at?

Pp here. The roommate is biologically female, and all paperwork still has a female name on it. However, he goes by a male name and lives as a male.

Anonymous wrote:Being transgender isn’t a trend.

Recognizing that trans people deserve the same respect afforded to others might be new to you, but it’s natural to most of us.

+1 If it makes you uncomfortable, that's your issue. There's no reason you can't simply MYOB.

There is something that does not add up about that freshman with the transgender roommate.

If the roommate now identifies as a male, wouldn't they give him a male roommate? No school that I know of gives freshmen roommates of the opposite sex. That would not be respectful of either student.

Sounds fishy to me. What school are they claiming that happened at?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“It is a privilege to not have to worry about which pronoun someone is going to use for you.” ... We need to put a stop to this dangerous nonsense NOW. How is it so many people are losing their minds and common sense?

THIS is your priority?

Not stopping police shootings of unarmed minorities? But the menace of preferred pronouns?

Did OP state that this is her priority? No. Why do you have to blow it up into something bigger for the OP than she has suggested it is? Because it makes your overreaction feel more appropriate.

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

Doesn't your dd have a right to feel comfortable? Why should she make her life choices based on fear of appearing discriminatory? She knows who she is, and what she is is uncomfortable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My dd is a freshman and her roommate is transgender (born female, now a male). While my dd has zero issue with someone being transgender, it has been an adjustment and not at all what she expected for a roommate situation. She won’t request a change for fear of seeming discriminatory, but she’s not fully comfortable living with a guy. I feel that colleges still have work to do in this area in making sure that everyone feels comfortable with their living situation.

I feel sorry for your daughter. She should not have been put in this situation. I understand she doesn’t want to appear discriminatory, but if it were me, I would request a change. Not because it is a “guy,” but because I would worry about the mental stability of this person. Seems to me that a person who cannot make up their mind what they “are” has issues.

Where’s it said that the roommate couldn’t make up his mind? Sounds like he was assigned female at birth without consulting him and is finally free to be himself.

Anonymous wrote:It's definitely a trend. It's being promoted heavily by the powerful gay lobby, which lost its major fundraising hook when the Supreme Court approved gay marriage.

There is little scientific evidence to support the idea that humans can change genders but whatever....

I need to ask my lesbian DD what the gay lobby wants. She’ll probably claim she just wants to be treated with dignity and enjoy equal rights under the law, but all that money must be for something nefarious like Making America Fabulous Again.

BTW, most trans people aren’t gay or lesbian.