Maybe he read too many think pieces about women who don’t like being approached.

Anonymous wrote:Have a crush on a woman for months. Refuse to make a move even when she’s made it clear the interest is mutual and then get all hurt and pouty when she moves on to someone else? I told him you snooze you lose. He said I don’t get which maybe I don’t because I haven’t dated in over a decade and I am not a guy.

Care to explain? Because I’m tired of hearing from my younger brother about this situation.

Because we like the hunt but when it comes to the cooking and cleaning, we'd rather someone else do it. When she's available and interested, you think of the reasons it could go wrong and come up with reasons not to move. When she moves on, there is regret and the nagging question: did I make a mistake? 9/10, you didn't but it doesn't stop the thought process.

Advice to women, if you are interested, look for the vulnerable opportunity and make the first move. It's likely he won't say no and that might be all the push he needs to get off the fence. If he says no to the kiss, you've misinterpreted being friend zoned or someone else is in the picture.

The title of the thread is oddly reversed. Waiting for the other party to make the first move is not a "mainly men" thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm embarrassed to admit that I've been afraid to ask women out for most of my life. I used to just go for it thinking the worst they could say was no. One day I asked someone out and she made a huge scene like something out of a movie and proceeded to give an itemized list of everything "wrong" with me in front of a few dozen people. Despite how long ago that was, and despite how many experiences I've had contrary to that one, I can't seem to shake the fear of rejection born out of that singular experience.

Sounds like someone on here concerned about possibly associating with lower-class “brutes” (her word) or the teeming unwashed living below a DCUM $150K poverty line in (shudder) Pimmit Hills.

You called her after that awful night. She was surprised. There was just something there. I think you proved she likes you after all. Time to move on. Just take a shower and shake her Pimmt Hills off.

Anonymous wrote:Depends what age. During twenties until very early thirties, men are at the mercy of women in the dating market. It changes around 33 when women who are not coupled off start to hear the ticking and get desperate.

Single men outnumber single women when they are in their 20s.