Anonymous wrote:Mom, open your eyes. She is with a bad kid and you should thank the teacher.

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if he's a reputable teacher at the school, i would trust his opinion. he sees the kids in their own element

Have things changed regarding professional boundaries for teachers? I only finished high school 10 years ago, and teachers definitely talked with students about our personal lives and gave mentoring-type advice. I only saw good or neutral things result from it.

The most obvious explanation for the teacher’s comment is that the boy is bad news.

I think it was unprofessional, but doesn’t sound like he’s a pervert.

Inappropriate - teachers should not comment on the personal lives of students unless asked by the student. Even then it's best not to comment.

Teachers should teach not try to buddy up with teenagers.

It's professionally inappropriate for him to comment on her relationship, but it's not necessarily sexually inappropriate.

OTOH, that definitely does happen, and it's interesting that DCUM, where everyone on the relationships forum loves telling women that men are going to obviously and naturally chase the youngest woman they can potentially snag, is suddenly insinuating that you're a pervert for thinking that this man shouldn't be invested in your teenage daughter's love life. I was only 14 when a student teacher (mid-twenties) behaved incredibly sexually inappropriate towards me at school; this girl is 17 or 18 and I wouldn't be shocked if the teacher did have inappropriate feelings toward her. But that's too far of a leap to go straight to based on the limited info provided.

He is concerned, not jealous.

It is weird that you are a mother immediately jumped into pervert scenario about the teacher. The question is why? What happened to you OP? Clearly that boy is a known player, and your DD is too blind to see it.

I agree with other pps, boyfriend is a loser. Sounds like he is looking out for her. Probably saw his making out with another girl in school. Maybe your DD should ask him why?

Your daughter sounds like a sweet/smart girl and her teacher genuinely cares for her. My initial instict is that he thinks/knows her BF is a loser and can only be a negative influence on her. The crush thing is remotely possible but if you were to put %s on this, I'd say it's more like 80/20.

Anonymous wrote:My gut instinct is that he knows something about the boy that makes him a bad match for your daughter. Not that he's crushing on your daughter or anything nefarious.

This.

Could it have been a joke?

Anonymous wrote:My gut instinct is that he knows something about the boy that makes him a bad match for your daughter. Not that he's crushing on your daughter or anything nefarious.

That’s my gut too. I wonder if he’s seen the boy with another girl?

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Anonymous wrote:Is there any truth to it? If no, its not appropriate. I would email the teacher and ask about the comment and ask if there is anything about the relationship you should be concerned about.

Really? You would police the minutiae of a conversation you didn't hear?

Seriously. And you think the teacher will tell you anything personal about the boyfriend? Then he'll have two sets of parents after him. It was an offhand comment. Teachers are human. Stop reading into everything they do as though they're out to get you. If your daughter is still concerned she can ask the teacher what he meant by his comment, but I doubt the teacher even remembers making it.

Anonymous wrote:Is there any truth to it? If no, its not appropriate. I would email the teacher and ask about the comment and ask if there is anything about the relationship you should be concerned about.

Really? You would police the minutiae of a conversation you didn't hear?

My gut instinct is that he knows something about the boy that makes him a bad match for your daughter. Not that he's crushing on your daughter or anything nefarious.