Hugs to you! Been reading through both threads. I have a child roughly same age. Not on the spectrum, but has yet to be defined issues with impulses and anger. He experienced an extreme case of bullying in K at a HRCS here, enough that we switched schools mid Year. Took us through now (2+ years) to fully establish trust.

Educators and principals often don’t have the understanding of the impact of their actions on children’s development and well being.

(Thankfully at the old school the teacher was dismissed and they no longer do holds or confinement that trigger DC, similar to yours.)

My AP refers to podcasts constantly as one way she keeps abreast of how to be inclusive and reach all children.

OP here- I cannot thank you all enough for your support!!

My DH has been out of town for work since this all went down and my DS has been literally attached to my hip since he has been at home since the event. So I could not discuss the events with anyone without him hearing the conversation and getting upset himself.

So i really, really don’t know what I would have done without you all. Thank you again for all of your thoughtful responses.

Good luck tomorrow—please report back!

OP here- I agree there is a huge need for formal training. I have another child with dyslexia so I am involved in other organized efforts to improve that already. Our school does have several OG- certified teachers/ reading specialists. That is rare in the county so I don’t want to push there as the anxiety/ adhd components that are often present with dyslexia are more likely to cause the behavioral issues.

Regarding the state complaint- that is definitely still on the table. Our plan is to have the emergency IEP meeting Monday to get the new plan in place. Next we need to meet with/ orient the crisis response team to be sure we are all on the same page. This is where I will push to confirm that everyone has had the appropriate trainings/ refreshers and review the info specific to my child.

And finally we will need to address the immaculate narrative that is in the disciplinary and also state report forms. I have asked for it to be updated based on our debrief session but have not received a new version yet.

Best case would be that the disciplinary referral is dropped entirely since the principal has discretion there. If not, then we will engage there. I need to find someone with experience related to that process.

PP again. My suggestion for OP is to file a state complaint about the incident. Since you like the school and want to stay, this Will result in school personnel getting more training.

You do not need a lawyer to do this. I filed a complaint when DS was in 2nd grade and having issues with a brand new, green Sp Ed teacher.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly op the school staff needs formal training. Talk to an expert where you live and connect them to formal training. Ask for proof that they attend. Many kinds of classes require regular re-certification.

+1. The fact that an assistant principal at public school asked a parent with a child with disabilities about resources and to recommend books is lame even if well meaning. It shows that the AP and school has no/little support by their school system on following IDEA and are not capable of supporting kids with IEPs.

No idea about IDEA.

The custodian physically restraining kids at the request of staff is just the cherry on top.

Agree. The school has no idea what they are doing. Even if you have a great and perfect IEP, I seriously doubt this school will be able to follow it and support your DC appropriately.

You need to read OP's other thread before commenting on this thread. The assistant principal was new and the the principal, the special ed teacher and any other knowledgable staff were out, so the untrained AP made a bad choice. Just the AP needs to get up to speed.

I did read the other thread and have a child with ASD/ADHD albeit older with an IEP since pre-K now in middle school. Their school filed the disciplinary form making OP’s child at fault. The school not just the newly hired inexperienced AP sounds absolutely incompetent.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly op the school staff needs formal training. Talk to an expert where you live and connect them to formal training. Ask for proof that they attend. Many kinds of classes require regular re-certification.

+1. The fact that an assistant principal at public school asked a parent with a child with disabilities about resources and to recommend books is lame even if well meaning. It shows that the AP and school has no/little support by their school system on following IDEA and are not capable of supporting kids with IEPs.

No idea about IDEA.

The custodian physically restraining kids at the request of staff is just the cherry on top.

Agree. The school has no idea what they are doing. Even if you have a great and perfect IEP, I seriously doubt this school will be able to follow it and support your DC appropriately.

You need to read OP's other thread before commenting on this thread. The assistant principal was new and the the principal, the special ed teacher and any other knowledgable staff were out, so the untrained AP made a bad choice. Just the AP needs to get up to speed.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly op the school staff needs formal training. Talk to an expert where you live and connect them to formal training. Ask for proof that they attend. Many kinds of classes require regular re-certification.

+1. The fact that an assistant principal at public school asked a parent with a child with disabilities about resources and to recommend books is lame even if well meaning. It shows that the AP and school has no/little support by their school system on following IDEA and are not capable of supporting kids with IEPs.

No idea about IDEA.

The custodian physically restraining kids at the request of staff is just the cherry on top.

Agree. The school has no idea what they are doing. Even if you have a great and perfect IEP, I seriously doubt this school will be able to follow it and support your DC appropriately.

^IDEA stands for Individuals with Disabilities Education Act, the federal law that requires public schools to provide an appropriate education for children with disabilities.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly op the school staff needs formal training. Talk to an expert where you live and connect them to formal training. Ask for proof that they attend. Many kinds of classes require regular re-certification.

+1. The fact that an assistant principal at public school asked a parent with a child with disabilities about resources and to recommend books is lame even if well meaning. It shows that the AP and school has no/little support by their school system on following IDEA and are not capable of supporting kids with IEPs.

No idea about IDEA.

The custodian physically restraining kids at the request of staff is just the cherry on top.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly op the school staff needs formal training. Talk to an expert where you live and connect them to formal training. Ask for proof that they attend. Many kinds of classes require regular re-certification.

+1. The fact that an assistant principal at public school asked a parent with a child with disabilities about resources and to recommend books is lame even if well meaning. It shows that the AP and school has no/little support by their school system on following IDEA and are not capable of supporting kids with IEPs.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly op the school staff needs formal training. Talk to an expert where you live and connect them to formal training. Ask for proof that they attend. Many kinds of classes require regular re-certification.

This, I would want him to know there are more disorders than just ASD, ADHD, and Anxiety - particularly dyxlexia, language disorders, etc. Those are the most common that people generally do understand but they have far less understanding on the other ones.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly op the school staff needs formal training. Talk to an expert where you live and connect them to formal training. Ask for proof that they attend. Many kinds of classes require regular re-certification.

Agree. It's wonderful that they asked for books but it is really, really difficult to implement stuff you read in books. Is there a way for them to get training? In person is best, but many Autism Society chapters have access to webinars and such.

Honestly op the school staff needs formal training. Talk to an expert where you live and connect them to formal training. Ask for proof that they attend. Many kinds of classes require regular re-certification.

Anonymous wrote:That is a great idea! I am not much of a podcast person as I learn better/ faster through reading. I know there was a DVD in the Kandinsky book too.

Does anyone else have podcast recommendations?

Tilt Parenting has a great episode with Seth Perler.