Anonymous
09/07/2018 16:49
Subject: Re:Don't want to be the "poor" relative
Rich does not automatically equal happy,
Anonymous
09/07/2018 16:38
Subject: Re:Don't want to be the "poor" relative
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'll be middle-class with you! Yesterday at work I got excited because due to a training, we got free lunch. Then after work I met up with my SIL and a mutual friend. They talked about the luxury hotels they like to stay in when they go to Vegas (I've never been), the Michelin star restaurants they like (I've never gone to one), and how annoying it is when they lose $800 sunglasses for the third time in a year so they're considering getting Warby Parker ones (my sunglasses are from Walgreens and I keep them for years).
But I got to see my baby niece yesterday. I got to pet a friendly dog yesterday. I got home in time to watch the Real Housewives of NYC reunion. So yeah - I don't go on little weekend jaunts to expensive places, and I don't have fancy sunglasses. But I have things that make me happy.
There will ALWAYS be people who have more than you. And less than you.
If you time it correctly, anyone can stay in a luxury hotel in Vegas. I get emails from top of the line hotels out there all the time advertising rates under $100/night.
+1. Join their Players Club. I haven’t paid for a luxury hotel room in Vegas since 9/11. I stay at the Bellagio or Wynn every time.
Anonymous
09/07/2018 09:32
Subject: Don't want to be the "poor" relative
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So my best friend and my sister both incidentally married rich. I did not. Their lives have changed and I am still striving away in my middle class existence. I really don't want it to, but its giving me a complex. Being around them is too painful. Worst of all my friend is a braggart and my sister tiptoes around me because she feels bad.
Your best friend sounds like a jerk and your sister sounds like she's your emotional prisoner. Get right with the life you chose and stop striving, period.
This is it, OP. Neither path to wealth for either of these other ladies is secure. Or it is, but happiness isn't. I have a friend whose wealthy husband walked out on her in the middle of the night and announced it to her via text. They have three boys under age 7. She made out like a bandit in the divorce. She also feels like her like her life was ruined.
She will eventually find happiness, or not, and so will you, or not. But PP is correct; the only way is to get right with your life. There's so much more out there than whose ring is biggest. Promise.
+2. “Comparison is the thief of joy.” I was similar to you, OP. The last of everyone to stay single, working while other friends became SAHMs, some with help... it was hard sometimes not to feel resentful about why them and not me. Now it’s 20-something years later and one friend’s husband left her and they’re going through a bitter divorce, another lost her mom in her 20s, another had breast cancer, some feel like they missed out on more fun in their youth, and of course some people and still plugging along happily. Life can be very random and you never know what will happen to you or anyone else, so just focus on yourself and enjoying what you have. My only real regret so far (nearing 50) is how much time I wasted wishing for what I didn’t have instead of enjoying what I did. You are probably better off than 95% of the world as PPs have said.
Anonymous
09/06/2018 22:58
Subject: Re:Don't want to be the "poor" relative
Anonymous wrote:I'll be middle-class with you! Yesterday at work I got excited because due to a training, we got free lunch. Then after work I met up with my SIL and a mutual friend. They talked about the luxury hotels they like to stay in when they go to Vegas (I've never been), the Michelin star restaurants they like (I've never gone to one), and how annoying it is when they lose $800 sunglasses for the third time in a year so they're considering getting Warby Parker ones (my sunglasses are from Walgreens and I keep them for years).
But I got to see my baby niece yesterday. I got to pet a friendly dog yesterday. I got home in time to watch the Real Housewives of NYC reunion. So yeah - I don't go on little weekend jaunts to expensive places, and I don't have fancy sunglasses. But I have things that make me happy.
There will ALWAYS be people who have more than you. And less than you.
If you time it correctly, anyone can stay in a luxury hotel in Vegas. I get emails from top of the line hotels out there all the time advertising rates under $100/night.
Anonymous
09/06/2018 21:40
Subject: Re:Don't want to be the "poor" relative
Anonymous wrote:I'll be middle-class with you! Yesterday at work I got excited because due to a training, we got free lunch. Then after work I met up with my SIL and a mutual friend. They talked about the luxury hotels they like to stay in when they go to Vegas (I've never been), the Michelin star restaurants they like (I've never gone to one), and how annoying it is when they lose $800 sunglasses for the third time in a year so they're considering getting Warby Parker ones (my sunglasses are from Walgreens and I keep them for years).
But I got to see my baby niece yesterday. I got to pet a friendly dog yesterday. I got home in time to watch the Real Housewives of NYC reunion. So yeah - I don't go on little weekend jaunts to expensive places, and I don't have fancy sunglasses. But I have things that make me happy.
There will ALWAYS be people who have more than you. And less than you.
This post made me smile.
Anonymous
09/06/2018 21:32
Subject: Don't want to be the "poor" relative
Rich people have plenty of crappy things going on in their lives. All that glitters is not gold.
The best way to be content is appreciate what you have AND what you don't have to deal with.
The best way to be content is appreciate what you have AND what you don't have to deal with.
Anonymous
09/06/2018 14:07
Subject: Re:Don't want to be the "poor" relative
You shouldn't judge yourself against others. Your friend likelybisnt being braggy and your sister isn't avoiding the subject you sound sensitive.
Anonymous
09/06/2018 13:57
Subject: Don't want to be the "poor" relative
“I’m not a conspiracy theorist, but I'm starting to think these threads are started by Russian bots.”
I’m pretty sure most of the misogynistic “I’m a divorced mom — will I ever meet someone” . . . “No, women over 30 are worthless “ threads are started by the Russians to try to tear us apart even more.
I’m pretty sure most of the misogynistic “I’m a divorced mom — will I ever meet someone” . . . “No, women over 30 are worthless “ threads are started by the Russians to try to tear us apart even more.
Anonymous
09/06/2018 12:50
Subject: Re:Don't want to be the "poor" relative
I'll be middle-class with you! Yesterday at work I got excited because due to a training, we got free lunch. Then after work I met up with my SIL and a mutual friend. They talked about the luxury hotels they like to stay in when they go to Vegas (I've never been), the Michelin star restaurants they like (I've never gone to one), and how annoying it is when they lose $800 sunglasses for the third time in a year so they're considering getting Warby Parker ones (my sunglasses are from Walgreens and I keep them for years).
But I got to see my baby niece yesterday. I got to pet a friendly dog yesterday. I got home in time to watch the Real Housewives of NYC reunion. So yeah - I don't go on little weekend jaunts to expensive places, and I don't have fancy sunglasses. But I have things that make me happy.
There will ALWAYS be people who have more than you. And less than you.
But I got to see my baby niece yesterday. I got to pet a friendly dog yesterday. I got home in time to watch the Real Housewives of NYC reunion. So yeah - I don't go on little weekend jaunts to expensive places, and I don't have fancy sunglasses. But I have things that make me happy.
There will ALWAYS be people who have more than you. And less than you.
Anonymous
09/06/2018 12:42
Subject: Don't want to be the "poor" relative
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So my best friend and my sister both incidentally married rich. I did not. Their lives have changed and I am still striving away in my middle class existence. I really don't want it to, but its giving me a complex. Being around them is too painful. Worst of all my friend is a braggart and my sister tiptoes around me because she feels bad.
Your best friend sounds like a jerk and your sister sounds like she's your emotional prisoner. Get right with the life you chose and stop striving, period.
This is it, OP. Neither path to wealth for either of these other ladies is secure. Or it is, but happiness isn't. I have a friend whose wealthy husband walked out on her in the middle of the night and announced it to her via text. They have three boys under age 7. She made out like a bandit in the divorce. She also feels like her like her life was ruined.
She will eventually find happiness, or not, and so will you, or not. But PP is correct; the only way is to get right with your life. There's so much more out there than whose ring is biggest. Promise.
Anonymous
09/06/2018 12:12
Subject: Don't want to be the "poor" relative
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Haven't you been paying attention? There is no middle class.
Since when is the only path for a woman to wealth marriage. Stop wallowing and do something about it.
What exactly can I do to get into a well paid profession?
The truly rich have no professions.
Actually the truly rich do.
Bezos
Zuck
Buffett
Gates....
Anonymous
09/06/2018 10:25
Subject: Don't want to be the "poor" relative
This. Is a YOU problem. There will always be someone who has more money than you. Live your life.
Anonymous
09/06/2018 10:22
Subject: Don't want to be the "poor" relative
Anonymous wrote:So my best friend and my sister both incidentally married rich. I did not. Their lives have changed and I am still striving away in my middle class existence. I really don't want it to, but its giving me a complex. Being around them is too painful. Worst of all my friend is a braggart and my sister tiptoes around me because she feels bad.
Got any examples?
Anonymous
09/06/2018 10:22
Subject: Re:Don't want to be the "poor" relative
So what do you do? What does your husband do? What's your HHI? How many children to you have?
Anonymous
09/06/2018 10:19
Subject: Don't want to be the "poor" relative
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Haven't you been paying attention? There is no middle class.
Since when is the only path for a woman to wealth marriage. Stop wallowing and do something about it.
What exactly can I do to get into a well paid profession?
The truly rich have no professions.