Anonymous wrote:I TOTALLY disagree that this is your daughters fault. I have been on the faculty of a University for more than 20 years. For kids who are graduating, they ask for our grades WAY in advance to ensure that kids only walk if they have met the degree requirements.

PLEASE state the name of your school. Really, one of the main reasons for this website is to warn others about bad consumer experiences.

With regard to next steps...I suggest that your daughter write a calm note to her employer (don't delay). Be apologetic and honest, but explain the situation. Anyone in her boat (since no kid has gone through college graduation before) might have the same story WITH A SCHOOL OF THAT ILK! If you delay, she could be accused of misrepresenting her credentials. If you tell them very soon after you found out, they are much more likely to believe you.

Hopefully, IF your daughter is viewed positively, they will let her stay while she works this out. OR they will change her status (like from full time to intern or something) until the actually meets the position requirements.

I would be just as mad as you. Sorry this happened. But again, please let us know the school. This is not a national website, and it could help another family. Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:Wow - this is all on your daughter.

Advice? Sweet talk someone into approving an online course or a course at another university to complete the degree requirements. Other than that, sounds like she's going back to college.

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe that your daughter was called an "idiot" (see pp above) for getting a "D."

How would you like to be his/her daughter?

And society wonders why kids use performance enhancing drugs/cheat/commit suicide.

Anonymous wrote:I also don't understand how she had no idea she got a D in the class.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, your daughter is stretching the truth with you. Clearly, though you don't want to see it.

1) There is no school, much less a top-25 school (including huge ones like Berkeley) that don't inform graduates that "walking" is not the same thing as "graduating," and that they will receive their diplomas after all of their grades are in and it is determined that they meet the criteria.

2) Your daughter is idiot enough to get a "D" in a class, but you think it's the university's fault she hasn't checked her transcript? Uh-huh. There is no way in hell she didn't know about the "D." In fact, I'd assume she thought it might be an "F," and was so relieved that it wasn't, she never bothered to check her transcript.

3) She had a departmental advisor at some point. She knew the rules, and was filling out a graduation checklist from the day she declared the major. It defies belief that she didn't know that you have to make a "C" in all classes required for your major.

4) Didn't the internship require a transcript?

5) Do you really, truly believe your daughter is the rare person who never checks her grades, or goes to find out about her diploma, or has any idea what the graduation requirements are? You, my friend, are being bamboozled by a young woman who knows your every button, and is playing you like a virtuoso on the accordion.

Maybe there's no manipulation and the daughter just really is that dense. Maybe the mom lined up the internship for her too - it sounds like a possibility.

Anonymous wrote:I TOTALLY disagree that this is your daughters fault. I have been on the faculty of a University for more than 20 years. For kids who are graduating, they ask for our grades WAY in advance to ensure that kids only walk if they have met the degree requirements.

PLEASE state the name of your school. Really, one of the main reasons for this website is to warn others about bad consumer experiences.

With regard to next steps...I suggest that your daughter write a calm note to her employer (don't delay). Be apologetic and honest, but explain the situation. Anyone in her boat (since no kid has gone through college graduation before) might have the same story WITH A SCHOOL OF THAT ILK! If you delay, she could be accused of misrepresenting her credentials. If you tell them very soon after you found out, they are much more likely to believe you.

Hopefully, IF your daughter is viewed positively, they will let her stay while she works this out. OR they will change her status (like from full time to intern or something) until the actually meets the position requirements.

I would be just as mad as you. Sorry this happened. But again, please let us know the school. This is not a national website, and it could help another family. Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:So, your daughter is stretching the truth with you. Clearly, though you don't want to see it.

1) There is no school, much less a top-25 school (including huge ones like Berkeley) that don't inform graduates that "walking" is not the same thing as "graduating," and that they will receive their diplomas after all of their grades are in and it is determined that they meet the criteria.

2) Your daughter is idiot enough to get a "D" in a class, but you think it's the university's fault she hasn't checked her transcript? Uh-huh. There is no way in hell she didn't know about the "D." In fact, I'd assume she thought it might be an "F," and was so relieved that it wasn't, she never bothered to check her transcript.

3) She had a departmental advisor at some point. She knew the rules, and was filling out a graduation checklist from the day she declared the major. It defies belief that she didn't know that you have to make a "C" in all classes required for your major.

4) Didn't the internship require a transcript?

5) Do you really, truly believe your daughter is the rare person who never checks her grades, or goes to find out about her diploma, or has any idea what the graduation requirements are? You, my friend, are being bamboozled by a young woman who knows your every button, and is playing you like a virtuoso on the accordion.

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter really doesn't have any excuse for 1) not knowing her own grades, and 2) not knowing her degree requirements. You're really trying to blame the school but they didn't fail the class, she did.