Maybe you just suck at being parents? That would explain most of the NA Redshirts. I notice it most frequently when Nannies and Au Pairs raise the kids because the baby Momma and Daddy think they are too important to raise the kids.

I would say this has nothing to do with it.

And, about the size of the kids: DD was the tallest in class until second grade. She went on time. She is an adult now and is @5 foot 4.

Somehow, I suspect that the teachers recommended that OP redshirt her child. She's upset that others listened to the teacher.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you just sort of figure this out as the school year starts and your child is invited to various bday parties, or your child is in soccer/other activities and you realize that one or two kids are notably older/taller than the others (or the kid mentions how old s/he is). You realize how many are older -- but it's usually not that many. Statistically, only 25% are going to be summer bdays, right? And only a portion of those are going to hold their kids back.

If a kid (or his or her parent) mentions how old he or she is, that is one thing. But don’t just assume that a kid who looks older/is taller was redshirted (or that a smaller kid is young for his or her grade for that matter). I know several kids who are both among both the tallest & the youngest in their respective classes (FWIW, the reverse is true, as well).

+1

My DD is one of the tallest and youngest. Her BFF is one of the oldest and shortest.

Anonymous wrote:Who CARES!?!?!?!?! I am in N. Arlington and had to 'redshirt' my son. I hated having to do it and explain myself to all the people who felt the need to ask me a ton of questions. Of course we didn't want to spend all the extra money keeping him out of APS for a year but he would have been a total disaster in K for the teacher and his classmates. I have only ever met one parent who seemed to hold back her late summer bday son just because and they don't go to APS. It isn't an easy decision at all and really it isn't OP business. What a busy body to even want to look into it.

Maybe you just suck at being parents? That would explain most of the NA Redshirts. I notice it most frequently when Nannies and Au Pairs raise the kids because the baby Momma and Daddy think they are too important to raise the kids.

Who CARES!?!?!?!?! I am in N. Arlington and had to 'redshirt' my son. I hated having to do it and explain myself to all the people who felt the need to ask me a ton of questions. Of course we didn't want to spend all the extra money keeping him out of APS for a year but he would have been a total disaster in K for the teacher and his classmates. I have only ever met one parent who seemed to hold back her late summer bday son just because and they don't go to APS. It isn't an easy decision at all and really it isn't OP business. What a busy body to even want to look into it.

Anonymous wrote:I think you just sort of figure this out as the school year starts and your child is invited to various bday parties, or your child is in soccer/other activities and you realize that one or two kids are notably older/taller than the others (or the kid mentions how old s/he is). You realize how many are older -- but it's usually not that many. Statistically, only 25% are going to be summer bdays, right? And only a portion of those are going to hold their kids back.

If a kid (or his or her parent) mentions how old he or she is, that is one thing. But don’t just assume that a kid who looks older/is taller was redshirted (or that a smaller kid is young for his or her grade for that matter). I know several kids who are both among both the tallest & the youngest in their respective classes (FWIW, the reverse is true, as well).

Anonymous wrote:Is OP the poster who acknowledged she is obsessively fixated on redshirting and is planning to talk to her therapist about it?

Nope. I wouldn’t need to ask this JK. I highly doubt the public school districts keep track of this information which is why I made my own mental notes. If they kept track and this was publicly available, I would have liked to view it!

And not that I need to explain myself to anyone but I do use my encyclopedic knowledge for good for others. I know everyone easily. You tell me your kid doesn’t know anyone in their class, but I’ve just easily absorbed all of that information already from other people telling me and can tell you who is in the class and introduce you as well.

Spoiler alert - my therapist is generally only concerned with things that make me feel bad / bother me or interfere with my daily life. Posts like this are not going to make me feel bad about it. I know you don’t understand and that’s an inherent issue in anonymous message boards.

I would like to know OP's definition of "redshirting." Does she mean all kids who wait a year--or just those who are not on the cusp.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, what good does it do to know this info in advance?

+1 The timing is suspect. There is another thread on the Private Schools forum with this same question. OP seems to be obsessed with this question, as was pointed out by many posters on the other thread.

Sure, because this is a question that never comes up around this time of year...

Is OP the poster who acknowledged she is obsessively fixated on redshirting and is planning to talk to her therapist about it?

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, what good does it do to know this info in advance?

+1 The timing is suspect. There is another thread on the Private Schools forum with this same question. OP seems to be obsessed with this question, as was pointed out by many posters on the other thread.

Anonymous wrote:OP is probably looking for ammunition in her ongoing battle against NORTH Arlington.

Then she’s going to be disappointed that it isn’t nearly as prevalent as people assume. It is far from automatic.

IME, n a "prestigious" area, most of the boys are NOT redshirted.

^^ smaller school, can’t speak to larger ones

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you just sort of figure this out as the school year starts and your child is invited to various bday parties, or your child is in soccer/other activities and you realize that one or two kids are notably older/taller than the others (or the kid mentions how old s/he is). You realize how many are older -- but it's usually not that many. Statistically, only 25% are going to be summer bdays, right? And only a portion of those are going to hold their kids back.

Statistically, late summer/fall birthdays are more than 25%. Those are the most common birth months. And at my DC's school, all of them were held back, except for my DC. Whoops.

https://www.livescience.com/32728-baby-month-is-almost-here-.html

Really? You learned everyone’s birthdays? That seems...excessive.

NP. It’s me from the big redshirting thread. Looks like I’m not the only one...
It’s just not hard to learn everyone’s bdays lol. We try to go parties when we are invited.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you just sort of figure this out as the school year starts and your child is invited to various bday parties, or your child is in soccer/other activities and you realize that one or two kids are notably older/taller than the others (or the kid mentions how old s/he is). You realize how many are older -- but it's usually not that many. Statistically, only 25% are going to be summer bdays, right? And only a portion of those are going to hold their kids back.

Statistically, late summer/fall birthdays are more than 25%. Those are the most common birth months. And at my DC's school, all of them were held back, except for my DC. Whoops.

https://www.livescience.com/32728-baby-month-is-almost-here-.html

Really? You learned everyone’s birthdays? That seems...excessive.

And impossible. Nice troll attempt, however.