Anonymous
Post 08/22/2018 10:22     Subject: My dad has a crush on a woman...how to navigate?
Anonymous wrote:OP here -- Thanks for the tough love, DCUM. I tend to walk on eggshells too much around her. I try to keep boundaries but she makes it difficult. I just want a decent relationship with everyone.

FWIW the divorce was her fault, not his.
Just keep reminding yourself - it's not your responsibility to make her happy. That is within her control, not yours.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2018 10:21     Subject: My dad has a crush on a woman...how to navigate?
Anonymous wrote:Boundaries. If/when your mother finds out, do not listen to your mother's tirade. Remind her that this is YOUR father and she picked him. Tell her to find a friend/therapist to discuss her issues.
Plus your relationship with your father is just that - your relationship. Tell her that it is none of her business how you relate to your father.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2018 10:21     Subject: My dad has a crush on a woman...how to navigate?
It is not your job to manage your mother's feelings about her divorce. You are her child, not her therapist. You are not responsible for maintaining her emotional well-being via making sure your father stays single.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2018 10:19     Subject: Re:My dad has a crush on a woman...how to navigate?
Anonymous wrote:I think it's lovely that your dad has an interest and possibly a companion. Your mom should be told that you will not discuss this with her and that she should leave your father alone.


Thank you, I think so too. He deserves to find happiness.

I will be spending the holidays with her as usual and will definitely NOT be bringing it up, ever!
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2018 10:14     Subject: Re:My dad has a crush on a woman...how to navigate?
I would not rub it in your mom’s face. But is she gets upset a put it, that is on her, not you. Just refuse to engage.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2018 09:27     Subject: Re:My dad has a crush on a woman...how to navigate?
I think it's lovely that your dad has an interest and possibly a companion. Your mom should be told that you will not discuss this with her and that she should leave your father alone.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2018 09:22     Subject: My dad has a crush on a woman...how to navigate?
My only advice would be not to spend the holidays with the new woman for at least another year or so.

Just not worth the shit show from your mom.

Anonymous
Post 08/22/2018 09:20     Subject: My dad has a crush on a woman...how to navigate?
Anonymous wrote:I don't support divorce of any kind. I would never support a new relationship. I would become that woman's worst nightmare.


You may find yourself very lonely one day.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2018 08:36     Subject: My dad has a crush on a woman...how to navigate?
OP here -- Thanks for the tough love, DCUM. I tend to walk on eggshells too much around her. I try to keep boundaries but she makes it difficult. I just want a decent relationship with everyone.

FWIW the divorce was her fault, not his.