OP, who gives a shit what a bunch of anonymous people think. Decide for yourself.

Anonymous wrote:If someone suggested that, it would let me know that we wouldn't be a good fit.

+1. It would be a useful filter at least.

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the people, how you know each other. Did you meet at CrossFit and he wants you to use his super fancy gym, then maybe the rooftop pool to hangout and get drinks & food? That could work.

We met on dating website, it wasn’t fitness related.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this good idea or bad idea? Would you be offended if someone picked this as a first date?

Why are you asking us if we'd be offended? Are you offended? He asked you...not us.

I thought it was offensive, but I was curious if maybe I overreacted.

To me, the point of a first date is to try and get to know the other person enough to decide whether you want to continue getting to know them. If you're working out, how will that happen? You'll both be grunting and sweating, not conversing. To me, a good first date is a ball game or an escape room...you can talk about anything you want but you also have something built in to talk about if you need it. Plus you see how each person responds to stress which I think is a good thing.

Gym is a bit weird, but I am a true believer that active first dates tend to go much better than a standard dinner date. More memorable. Better conversation -- or at least fewer awkward silences, because you're doing something other than staring at each other across a table. My favorite first dates involved bowling, a long walk around an art museum, and a Capital Bikeshare bike ride (these were three separate dates with different people).

^^and sometimes when people are physically active together, sparks start flying.

Depends on the people, how you know each other. Did you meet at CrossFit and he wants you to use his super fancy gym, then maybe the rooftop pool to hangout and get drinks & food? That could work.

I’m very athletic and either run or go to the gym every day so I’d enjoy it (woman here). I guess it might depend on context though. Like if we met at the gym, or if we had been talking on the phone and talk about our workouts and stuff a lot, and he suggested a workout together. I’d be down for that.

Anonymous wrote:Is this good idea or bad idea? Would you be offended if someone picked this as a first date?

Why are you asking us if we'd be offended? Are you offended? He asked you...not us.

I could see a hike or bike ride, but the gym seems very weird. I wouldn't be interested.

Anonymous wrote:What a sneaky way to size you up. This man literally doesn’t care about anything else but your real measurements and your face without make up.
And based on that, he’ll decide if you deserve a drink or more.

It’s the equivalent of those women who expect elaborate fancy dinners as a proof of a guy having money.

I don't think going to the gym is a good idea but why shouldn't a man be concerned about your real measurements and natural face? That's who you are and who he might eventually wake up to. Nobody wants to go on a date with a spanxed up, make up-clad woman only to see the "real" person later.

Anonymous wrote:What a sneaky way to size you up. This man literally doesn’t care about anything else but your real measurements and your face without make up.
And based on that, he’ll decide if you deserve a drink or more.

It’s the equivalent of those women who expect elaborate fancy dinners as a proof of a guy having money.

I never thought of it that way.

Anonymous wrote:Then you find out she can squat and deadlift more than you. Oh the embarrassment...

This is exactly why it wouldn’t work for me. I’m really competitive about this sort of thing and I don’t want to share it with anyone outside of my workout group.

Yeah, no. Never been that hard up for a date I need to literally "work" for attention. Pass.