Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Will not allow separate beds”? W.T.F.

Amen. I have my own room at our house and we would not have gotten married had he thought he could tell me what to do. NOPE.

I feel like telling someone that they aren't allowed to sleep... ever... (not to mention when the reason they can't sleep is you) is way worse than simply "telling someone what to do".

Is your DH abusive in other ways, OP?

Do those of you who use earplugs have young kids? My husband snores terribly but I worry I won’t hear the kids if I wear earplugs and he doesn’t wake up for anything. At this point we’ve resorted to different beds.

Anonymous wrote:“Will not allow separate beds”? W.T.F.

Amen. I have my own room at our house and we would not have gotten married had he thought he could tell me what to do. NOPE.

“Will not allow separate beds”? W.T.F.

My BMI says overweight. I'm 5'-9" and about 185 pounds. But I have a thin waist and low body fat. I'm fit but muscular, having played football in college. I struggle to breathe through my nose, and have for years. Lingering issues from a broken nose. I was also diagnosed with sleep apnea. A CPAP has changed my life, and my wife's also.

Bigger problem here is your husband "not allowing" you to sleep at night. Get rid of this guy if you don't have kids.

I nudge him. Or wake him up so I can go back to sleep. Sure, then he's awake for hours. But that's his own fault for picking up the iPad and getting screen time in.

NP. I have yet to find ear plugs that will go in and stay in my ears. Its like they start slowing creeping out, annoying me. And I must not have them in properly when they are in, because I can hear too much. Can anybody recommend good quality, functional earplugs?

Anonymous wrote:Firmly place a pillow over his face for five minutes. He may thrash from side to side but that should subside after a couple minutes.

Sweet dreams!

This made me laugh out loud. I ended up on the couch last night so I could get a few hours of sleep because I could not get my husband to stop snoring, and ear plugs, fan noise, etc. weren't doing it. (We're currently living in temporary housing so sadly we no longer have a guest room).

Tonight I'm just going to go with your suggestion.

I have found that my DH does not snore if he sleeps on his right side. On his back (duh) or even on his left side, he snores a lot. So, if he snores in the middle of the night, I nudge him gently at first and then increasingly roughly until he gets the message and rolls over to his right side. Of course, getting to this point means I have been woken up first by the snoring and then have to go back to sleep, and he doesn't like getting kicked in the middle of the night, but this is our current detente.

It also seems to help if he sleeps on a slight incline, so a couple of firm pillows under his head.

Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend snores loudly all night. She has been checked for sleep apnea. I don't really mind the snoring much, I can always get back to sleep.

How did did humans sleep when 20 people were all crammed in one tiny hut or cave?

they didn’t. That’s why we’re no longer crammed in a tiny hut or cave.

He will not allow what or what??? OMG. My DH would need to be allowing me a divorce against his wishes if he seriously suggested even just once that I’m “not allowed” to sleep. Let alone that I’m not allowed to sleep because he’s fat and unhealthy.

Healthy people don’t snore.

Holy moly...

The White Noise app. And go to bed before him.

Ear plugs, DOHM sound machine, and I put a pillow between our heads to further block the noise. Also, he is on overnight kid duty, period. My DH is the fittest person I know, has had a sleep study and a septoplasty, and still snores. It's worse when he has any alcohol, is stressed, or sick. He rarely drinks and is militant about sleep hygiene. Some people just snore, and it sucks.

Ear plugs, the silicone ones