That would have gone when we started to get serious. Seriously, how tacky. People know your name yet they see some other women's name, lol.

Sorry OP he sounds like a dummy all the way around. Take him to the tattoo place, there's one large enough or something that can be done.

Can you see the tattoo while having sex?

Anonymous wrote:Life is more complicated in a relationship after having children with someone else. It doesn't mean you should be back together with your former long term partner but you also shouldn't erase you're past. Trying to blot out or discredit major parts of your life and cover up tattoos or throw out photos of significant and deeply meaningful and large parts of your life is unhealthy. You have to face and coexist with the pain of what is basically an amputation of a peice of your heart. Pretending it doesn't hurt or isn't complicated is baby stuff and won't fly long term.

+1

Anonymous wrote:so all you hypocritical harpies saying "hell no", have each of you thrown away every single piece of memorabilia from a past relationship?

I mean we're talking about totally inanimate objects that you have stored away in the back of the closet. seems pretty easy and simple to rid yourself of those memories. pretty different from insisting that someone alter their actual body to please your insecurity.

The analogy doesn't work. This is not something hidden away. This is akin to having a big picture of his ex in every room in the house, including the BEDROOM...over the bed, and refusing to shove it in a drawer.

And btw I do have some ex's love letters somewhere packed away, and I can't find them. Because they're NOT IN MY FACE, EVERY DAY. For the record, I told my DH if I ever die and he finds these letters, they are saved only because I can't find them to throw them away.

^de facto wife if not legal wife (3 kids and all = more than just a GF, wouldn't you say?)

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Anonymous wrote:so all you hypocritical harpies saying "hell no", have each of you thrown away every single piece of memorabilia from a past relationship?

I mean we're talking about totally inanimate objects that you have stored away in the back of the closet. seems pretty easy and simple to rid yourself of those memories. pretty different from insisting that someone alter their actual body to please your insecurity.

It's not insecurity. It's self-respect. I wouldn't marry a man with another woman's name tattooed on his body. The tattoo alone would probably be a deal breaker for me. Who gets a girlfriend's name tattooed on their body? It shows a stunning lack of judgement. Not a quality I value in a partner.

BS. then the same women here should not be keeping any items of past relationships out of respect for their current spouses. btw, it's a tattoo of his former wife, not GF. the highly judgmental drivel posted in these threads represents a stunning lack of character, and hypocrisy, but of course, many of the women here will not care to acknowledge that and will rather try to target something else as a means to deflect from the real issue.

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Anonymous wrote:so all you hypocritical harpies saying "hell no", have each of you thrown away every single piece of memorabilia from a past relationship?

I mean we're talking about totally inanimate objects that you have stored away in the back of the closet. seems pretty easy and simple to rid yourself of those memories. pretty different from insisting that someone alter their actual body to please your insecurity.

It's not insecurity. It's self-respect. I wouldn't marry a man with another woman's name tattooed on his body. The tattoo alone would probably be a deal breaker for me. Who gets a girlfriend's name tattooed on their body? It shows a stunning lack of judgement. Not a quality I value in a partner.

NP +1000

Anonymous wrote:so all you hypocritical harpies saying "hell no", have each of you thrown away every single piece of memorabilia from a past relationship?

I mean we're talking about totally inanimate objects that you have stored away in the back of the closet. seems pretty easy and simple to rid yourself of those memories. pretty different from insisting that someone alter their actual body to please your insecurity.

It's not insecurity. It's self-respect. I wouldn't marry a man with another woman's name tattooed on his body. The tattoo alone would probably be a deal breaker for me. Who gets a girlfriend's name tattooed on their body? It shows a stunning lack of judgement. Not a quality I value in a partner.

so all you hypocritical harpies saying "hell no", have each of you thrown away every single piece of memorabilia from a past relationship?

I mean we're talking about totally inanimate objects that you have stored away in the back of the closet. seems pretty easy and simple to rid yourself of those memories. pretty different from insisting that someone alter their actual body to please your insecurity.

Anonymous wrote:One-up her - tell him you want your face on his bicep TOMORROW.

no, OP's name tattooed on his penis will be the best proof of love (no numbing cream).

Oh hell no would I be ok with that.

I get the feeling this is less about his feelings for his ex and more about him asserting control over his own body.

^^^^ Lol. ^^^^
I personally could never be w/a guy who had his ex’s name or image on him.

Not only would I be reminded of how fundamentally STUPID he was to do such a permanent thing, but I also wouldn’t want such a tangible reminder every day of a woman he once loved.

I always wondered how anyone could date Travis Barker w/his ex-wife’s tattooed image right on his upper neck.
Yes - He + Shanna Moakler have children together, but I don’t think that is a good enough reason for keeping his tattoo.

I would ask him to please remove it or at least change it if he can a ‘la Nick Cannon.
Remember his HUGE Mariah tattoo??!
And I totally understand why you would be bothered that after ten years he hasn’t made any effort to cover it up like he did w/the other two.

The obvious solution here is to change your name.

Anonymous wrote:So you were ok with this for 10 years and now you are not? What changed?

Yeah, that’s what I’m wondering. You’ve been with the guy 10 years; I imagine you would know him pretty well by now, including whether or not he’s still in love with his ex. Why are you concerning yourself with this now?