Anonymous wrote:Gee guys, such snarky responses on here.
Not the OP.

OP - I think you are just feeling good that you were hit on because it is always nice to feel that other people think you are desirable.

Maybe you do not feel this w/your husband.
Who knows??

Since both you + “Greg” are more than spoken for, it is best for you to forget this guy altogether.
He made a flirty comment to you.
Not cool. At all.

But it WAS a comment & that’s all.
Please do not make it more.

Op here. Thanks. I was not expecting the number of vicious comments. For the record, I'm not attention starved. My husband paws at me plenty and I've been hit on before but it's been more traditional (eating alone on work travel, on a plane or by a jerk I know through work. I love DH and other than the normal patterns people fall into, things are good. After time, you know what each other likes, so sex becomes a routine, almost rehearsed with the exception of that occasional wild hair that strikes.

What has this so much on my mind is the boldness of the setting and the suggestion and the nature of the suggestion. I think part of me is wondering if i discovered I'm a closet exhibitionist or voyeur in my mid 40s or am I finding this exciting because it's new as in an area I haven't explored? It's as much about the suggestion as it is anything. What puzzles me about it is it part of the reason I was initially offended is that saying that struck me as childish. How could he think that would possibly work? Instead, it's like he planted a seed.

Thanks to those that gave helpful advice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're CRAZY.

That's what I'm afraid of.

No you’re not.

Meant to say ‘ no you’re not crazy.’

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're CRAZY.

That's what I'm afraid of.

No you’re not.

Gee guys, such snarky responses on here.
Not the OP.

OP - I think you are just feeling good that you were hit on because it is always nice to feel that other people think you are desirable.

Maybe you do not feel this w/your husband.
Who knows??

Since both you + “Greg” are more than spoken for, it is best for you to forget this guy altogether.
He made a flirty comment to you.
Not cool. At all.

But it WAS a comment & that’s all.
Please do not make it more.

Anonymous wrote:That was long - what hell did you write?

Sure you probably are losing it - we are all losing it or we have already.

Good luck - tell me how it works out. But please just send the Cliff
Notes this time

I'll Show You Mine if You Show Me Yours

A Memoir, by OP

That was long - what hell did you write?

Sure you probably are losing it - we are all losing it or we have already.

Good luck - tell me how it works out. But please just send the Cliff
Notes this time

I agree with PPs but don’t think you’re crazy at all; you’re human. This will pass, just notice the feelings and move on.
It doesn’t sound like you’re planning to cheat.

Greg was flirting with you. He would likely have slept with you if you said yes.

Most married men are as faithful as their options. Surely you know this, right?

Enjoy the fantasy.

It seems like you may have been game if he propositioned you again.

OP: you are fine. Nothing wrong with some fantasy and inner life. Being married does not mean being dead.

Anonymous wrote:You are losing it. Some loser at a party made a pass at you and now you are writing a memoir?

Ok lol for real. This is like Tuscan Nights or Eat, Sip, Pose or whatever. Write a memoir and post it here.

You’re not crazy. You enjoyed the attention. Work on your marriage.

Trust your gut. You're not crazy.

You’re fine, just in need of attention.

OP, you must be very insecure about losing your attractiveness if this is still on your mind. Some drunk neighbor at a pool party gives you a look and you totally lose it.

In case you were wondering, of course he would sleep with you (assuming no consequences). He's a guy and you are a woman....however, that in no way makes you special. Was this the first party you've ever been to?