https://www.ikfmd.org/monthly-cost-comparison-calculator.html

Ingleside At King Farm is a nursing home facility located in Rockville that accepts Medicaid and Medicare patients. It has a rating of 5 compared to the state average of 3.34/5. This facility has "Non profit" ownership and currently serves 37 residents in 45 beds approved for Medicaid & Medicare.
https://www.familyassets.com/nursing-homes/maryland/ingleside-at-king-farm

Thank you everyone for the advice and expression of empathy. you have given me options I hadn’t considered.

Try District Home in Manassas

Nothing except private long term care insurance covers assisted living and nursing home stays. Medicare will pay for about 100 days of skilled nursing/rehab care during your lifetime (not per year) but I think the reimbursement drops as more days are used. Have to demonstrate improvement to use this. If his assets get low enough, may qualify for Medicaid - this may cover nursing home care, but it’s not going to be nice places. Should contact some elder care people in his area, county may have a division fo aging to suggestions/help. If he’s actively drinking, unlikely any of them will accept him in a non emergent situation.

Anonymous wrote:If I remember correctly, I think Seabury (https://www.seaburyresources.org/) in NW DC is under $1800 a month for a studio. I don't fully understand their model, but they appear to be a charity: https://www.cfp-dc.org/nonprofits/1351/Seabury-Resources-for-Aging/

New poster. Seabury has a good reputation and yes, it's a non-profit. They have income limits and subsidize the costs. I think it's an Episcopal Diocese thing. Definitely check it out, OP.

If I remember correctly, I think Seabury (https://www.seaburyresources.org/) in NW DC is under $1800 a month for a studio. I don't fully understand their model, but they appear to be a charity: https://www.cfp-dc.org/nonprofits/1351/Seabury-Resources-for-Aging/

I have no advice, OP, but I just wanted to say that my heart goes out to you. It's so difficult to figure out how to support an alcoholic relative and yet preserve something of your own life. Went through this with my brother who passed away a couple of years ago. It sucks.

OP here: Thanks very much everyone for the suggestions. I will look at all these options and resources. He does get Medicare, but my understanding is that Medicare doesn't cover Assisted Living.

Look at some of the places out in Front Royal / Shenandoah Valley. It would be harder to go see him but they are much more affordable.

Is he covered under Medicare yet? Have you consulted with your local office for the aging?

OP, if your father has early stages of dementia, you probably want to be thinking about a place that has more advanced care. My father had Alzheimers and the progression can be very abrupt, especially when they're in an unfamiliar environment. AL may only last a short time and then you'll be in this hunt all over again (or forced to hire a lot of pricey aide time.) Memory care often spans a range of capabilities, including people who are still capable of basic self-care.

If I were you, I'd find an elder care attorney or consultant who can advise on options. Start with the Council or Department for the Aging in your county or state - they can be really helpful. Investigate what government assistance he may be eligible for. Good luck; my dad had all the resources he needed but figuring this out was still more confusing that it seems it ought to be.

There are some low income residences and there's a place by Montgomery Mall for seniors that has a waiting list that is some kind of low income center. I would call the Dept of Aging fo r the county. I had to do this recently for my parents elsewhere and the lists they had sure beat searching on line endlessly.