Anonymous wrote:Op here! I wanted to give an update that my milk is gone!!! Thanks for all the support. If anyone is going through something similar I would love to hear from you. My 7 year old is having a very very hard time as is my husband. Wishing I could take everyones pain away!

OP, I'm happy your milk is gone! I'm the PP whose baby died in 2013. I would be happy to talk with you, but I'm not sure how to give you my contact information privately. My DH and I saw a grief counselor, went to a support group, sought out religious counsel, and read every book on stillbirth/infant loss we could find. The single best help was Jeanine McGrath. She's a doula but runs a stillbirth/infant loss support group. She's in MD and my DH and I drove up from VA for it. At the time we attended, there were 3 other couples in it. It helped to be with other couples who were grieving the same thing we were at the same time, as unspeakably horrible as it is. I could contact her for you if you like. I honestly don't know how we survived, except to say that we had no choice.

I'm so sorry for all of you. I hope you have a lot of support. Maybe consulting with a child therapist short term can help too.

Op here! I wanted to give an update that my milk is gone!!! Thanks for all the support. If anyone is going through something similar I would love to hear from you. My 7 year old is having a very very hard time as is my husband. Wishing I could take everyones pain away!

OP, I’m so sorry. Wishing you peace and an easy recovery.

Many many hugs, OP. Your attitude is amazingly calm. Know that it's okay if you don't always feel that way. Glad your boobs are getting a smidge better.

I am so sorry.

In July, I lost my baby at 10 weeks. I was told it was too early to lactate, but I had pre-colostrum and colostrum for about two weeks. It was enough that I could express liquid from my breasts with only my hands. It broke my heart because I knew that was meant for my sweet angel.

I used Sudafed and the no more milk tea, and it worked. Granted, I didn't have "real" milk.

I am so, so sorry for your loss. It is truly a loss like no other.

be careful of leaving the cabbage on too long. That was my mistake and then I ended up with a severe rash which eventually calmed down but only with steroids.
At this point you probably don't need to add another Dr's appt to your life for a rash. So give the cabbage a rest every once and a while, even though it's helping.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. My OB says they haven't done the shots in years. She also mentioned since it was a shot of estrogen and I'm coming off off a lot of progesterone (to support the pregnancy) she said that would be a disaster waiting to happen. Today is a wee bit better. Still rock hard but I can generally lift my arms up. Slept on my stomach and still soaked my matress but no active leaking during the day. The cabbage also cools. Ugh, what a week!

"What a week" is probably the understatement of the year. You sound like a very tough cookie but still ... this type of grief and physical trauma would ask the most of any of us. Sending you lots of support and letting you know you're not alone from afar.

All of this. I'm so sorry OP. I'd be using much stronger language than "ugh".

OP, I'm so sorry. I have been there and don't have any advice that others haven't already shared, except for time. Hang in there, and take care of yourself in as many ways and for as long as you need to.

I am so sorry. Glad it is a little better today. ((hugs)) several of us have btdt. you can also make sage tea which is nasty but helped me.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My OB says they haven't done the shots in years. She also mentioned since it was a shot of estrogen and I'm coming off off a lot of progesterone (to support the pregnancy) she said that would be a disaster waiting to happen. Today is a wee bit better. Still rock hard but I can generally lift my arms up. Slept on my stomach and still soaked my matress but no active leaking during the day. The cabbage also cools. Ugh, what a week!

"What a week" is probably the understatement of the year. You sound like a very tough cookie but still ... this type of grief and physical trauma would ask the most of any of us. Sending you lots of support and letting you know you're not alone from afar.

Op here. My OB says they haven't done the shots in years. She also mentioned since it was a shot of estrogen and I'm coming off off a lot of progesterone (to support the pregnancy) she said that would be a disaster waiting to happen. Today is a wee bit better. Still rock hard but I can generally lift my arms up. Slept on my stomach and still soaked my matress but no active leaking during the day. The cabbage also cools. Ugh, what a week!

They wouldn't give me the shot in 2013--said it had been shown to cause strokes. Don't know if things have changed since then. I'm so sorry. This was one of the saddest things for me. My body didn't know my son had died, and was making milk for a baby it would never nourish.

I'm so sorry. Do they still do the shots -- they should in these types of situations.

Please call your OP right away. I’m so sorry for your loss...