Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 21:35     Subject: Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:I’d go younger, OP. I have several friends that married a man 5 years younger and have great sex lives.


I married one 10 years younger and life is GRAND.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 20:43     Subject: Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:Single, older, fit, attractive woman with a high libido. I am currently partnered. Sex is important to me and I prioritize a good intimate relationship. I am an everyday kinda woman.


For those women who have married men that are great partners, but not great lovers, how have you resolved your sexual incompatibility? Did you open the marriage? Did you discuss this prior to marriage?

It has proven to be very difficult to find an older man with a comparable drive that wants to be partnered.


I am in the same boat as you except I am the husband. I have a much higher libido than my wife. Having young kids certainly has not helped but my interest and libido has stayed high while hers has waned dramatically.

I am not sure what to do either. Want to stay in marriage for children, but cannot imagine not having sex for the rest of my life either....

If you don't have kids - and sex is that important, my experience would suggest that you should move on.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 19:48     Subject: Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men don't have to be trained. They aren't dogs.


If a guy came on here talking about “training” a woman to perform sexually he’d be run out of here.

Sexism, racism, ageism, body shaming - it’s all only ok when it’s aimed at white guys.


Ha ha! Projecting? So the inapt lovers are usually White men? Ok, Little Thumbs. Got it.
Beckygotback
Post 08/01/2018 19:24     Subject: Re:Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Op, I feel for you. I am in a similar boat.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 18:48     Subject: Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
If you’re still fit,...go for a younger guy in his thirties. I’m sure there are some around if you post with here with an account
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 18:34     Subject: Re:Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP?


Old enough to know good sex when I experience it.


Oh I wasn't questioning that! Was just wondering for context of your question - my answer would be different if you were 58 than if you were 42


OP here. I am in my late 40s. Thank you for the advice.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 18:11     Subject: Re:Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP?


Old enough to know good sex when I experience it.


Oh I wasn't questioning that! Was just wondering for context of your question - my answer would be different if you were 58 than if you were 42
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 18:10     Subject: Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men don't have to be trained. They aren't dogs.


If a guy came on here talking about “training” a woman to perform sexually he’d be run out of here.

Sexism, racism, ageism, body shaming - it’s all only ok when it’s aimed at white guys.


Most men, and women for that matter, view sex through a male pleasure paradigm. Generally men will need to be "trained" to understand what their partner enjoys, simply because they've never really had to think about it from the female perspective and no one is really teaching guys this stuff.


That has to be the biggest load of crap I've read in quite some time here on DCUM and that's saying something.


Why do you say that? I actually think that's pretty accurate.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 17:53     Subject: Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men don't have to be trained. They aren't dogs.


If a guy came on here talking about “training” a woman to perform sexually he’d be run out of here.

Sexism, racism, ageism, body shaming - it’s all only ok when it’s aimed at white guys.


Most men, and women for that matter, view sex through a male pleasure paradigm. Generally men will need to be "trained" to understand what their partner enjoys, simply because they've never really had to think about it from the female perspective and no one is really teaching guys this stuff.
ha! When my husband divorced his first wife, he started reading a lot of books on how to pleasure a woman. He read a lot of lesbian centered sex books. As a result, he is a fantastic lover. He came to me this way and he was self taught.


Your husband is a smart man. If only all men would follow his lead.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 17:38     Subject: Re:Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP?


Old enough to know good sex when I experience it.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 17:25     Subject: Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men don't have to be trained. They aren't dogs.


If a guy came on here talking about “training” a woman to perform sexually he’d be run out of here.

Sexism, racism, ageism, body shaming - it’s all only ok when it’s aimed at white guys.


Most men, and women for that matter, view sex through a male pleasure paradigm. Generally men will need to be "trained" to understand what their partner enjoys, simply because they've never really had to think about it from the female perspective and no one is really teaching guys this stuff.
ha! When my husband divorced his first wife, he started reading a lot of books on how to pleasure a woman. He read a lot of lesbian centered sex books. As a result, he is a fantastic lover. He came to me this way and he was self taught.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 17:23     Subject: Re:Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
If the man is perfect in all other ways, I would resort to toys.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 16:23     Subject: Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
I’d go younger, OP. I have several friends that married a man 5 years younger and have great sex lives.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 16:21     Subject: Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men don't have to be trained. They aren't dogs.


If a guy came on here talking about “training” a woman to perform sexually he’d be run out of here.

Sexism, racism, ageism, body shaming - it’s all only ok when it’s aimed at white guys.


Most men, and women for that matter, view sex through a male pleasure paradigm. Generally men will need to be "trained" to understand what their partner enjoys, simply because they've never really had to think about it from the female perspective and no one is really teaching guys this stuff.


That has to be the biggest load of crap I've read in quite some time here on DCUM and that's saying something.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2018 16:15     Subject: Settling for Mr. OK but still wanting to have an intimate relationships
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men don't have to be trained. They aren't dogs.


If a guy came on here talking about “training” a woman to perform sexually he’d be run out of here.

Sexism, racism, ageism, body shaming - it’s all only ok when it’s aimed at white guys.


Most men, and women for that matter, view sex through a male pleasure paradigm. Generally men will need to be "trained" to understand what their partner enjoys, simply because they've never really had to think about it from the female perspective and no one is really teaching guys this stuff.