I actually wanted my now-husband to spend less on my ring - he wanted to get me something bigger and I wanted something modest. I rarely wear jewelry and don't care about the status symbol, so I felt like it was a waste of money. He did care and so we compromised - I have a three stone engagement ring with a 1.5 center, .25 sides. If left to his own devices, he would've gone 2+ for the center alone.

We both grew up in places where people won't hesitate to rob and kill you for your jewelry. For that reason, we went extremely modest with the rings.

Yes. Got 3 carats VVS1

Anonymous wrote:

Say it louder for the ones in the back.

Nobody cares. Isn't equality great?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a modern feminist man. I buy my own jewelry, and she buys her own jewelry.

Hope you have babies pop out of small orifices, get periods, wax your genitalia and stuff, too. I mean, equality and all.

My husband unexpectedly gave me a big ring. I had never really thought about rings much and was very surprised. I look down at it and still feel that it was so sweet of him to make such an effort for me.

+1000

Say it louder for the ones in the back.

Anonymous wrote:

Hope you have babies pop out of small orifices, get periods, wax your genetalia and stuff, too. I mean, equality and all.

My husband unexpectedly gave me a big ring. I had never really thought about rings much and was very surprised. I look down at it and still feel that it was so sweet of him to make such an effort for me.

My husband really surprised me when I discovered he placed a greater financial value on my vagina than I did! It opened my eyes that my goal of being a gold digging skank could really come true!

Big ring=big hoe.

I bought my wife a 2 ct CZ. Best decision I ever made.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a modern feminist man. I buy my own jewelry, and she buys her own jewelry.

Hope you have babies pop out of small orifices, get periods, wax your genetalia and stuff, too. I mean, equality and all.

I agree! That's why you go down on guys before they even consider you for exclusivity because if you can't do your birth order right, what's the point in marrying you?

Anonymous wrote:I have been married 21 years. My siblings almost as long. Parents and aunt and uncle made it 50+. The ring doesn’t matter! A big ring doesn’t predict a happy marriage. I have had many friends with fancy rings who ended up divorced. I know many many people who proudly wear their tiny engagement rings 20-30 years in, even though they can more than afford to upgrade. It’s not about the size of the ring but the quality of the person you choose to marry.

It does look better though when she sends me videos of her taking care of her self when I am traveling.

Anonymous wrote:I expected a small ring, got a biggish (1ct) one. Seems huge to me!!!

It's not

I hoped for one carat, and said 1.5 might be wonderful and 2 would seem too large. He and I discussed specific stones and purchased one that was 1.54 carats.

I am ashamed to say I wish it were a little bigger, and that I'd chosen a different setting. He will never know I feel this way - it's my own damn fault.

I make enough money now to buy whatever I want but the ring seems much less important almost a decade in to marriage than it did in the beginning. BUt I still wear it almost every day.

Lol 1c is not big

Anonymous wrote:I'm a modern feminist man. I buy my own jewelry, and she buys her own jewelry.

Hope you have babies pop out of small orifices, get periods, wax your genetalia and stuff, too. I mean, equality and all.

My husband unexpectedly gave me a big ring. I had never really thought about rings much and was very surprised. I look down at it and still feel that it was so sweet of him to make such an effort for me.

I never gave my boyfriend any guidelines and he bought a ring that I have never liked. It also came with a weird band (not a circular shape). I felt like I had to pretend to like it. We're still married 18 years later. I lost my diamond, probably because I never took the prongs in to be checked every few years.