It's not that deep. Nobody really cares that much. It's something to say, in passing, to a kid. Nobody is really that interested in you or your child. It's small talk. Move on.

If this is the worst thing your child is facing, he is blessed.

Offensive are people who remind men they are bald under the guise of making a joke.

PP- Except being tall for a boy/man is a compliment.

Anonymous wrote:My 13 yr old DS in the 5th percentile for height wouldn't mind this "problem" one bit.

Mine is in the 3rd and hasn't grown in a year... and he wouldn't mind this problem either.

Better yet though, how about we don't comment at all. Just as my son does not need to be told he is tiny (duh! we know! no shit sherlock...), the tall kid can feel the same.

why the need to comment at all? leave it alone, folks

DD gets comments all of the time about how tall she is. She’s one of the tallest in her grade. She smiles and loves it, but she has a lot of self confidence. I always laugh and joke that she should enjoy it while it lasts. I’m 5’ 3” but was one of the tallest when I was young. I hit my adult height very early. DH is not a tall man.

Anonymous wrote:Deal. If you won't mention my kids' red hair, I won't mention your kids' height

Please mention my tween age DD’s red hair. She LOVES it. (And she should. It is gorgeous).

Actual exchange when DD was about six:

Adult. It’s nice to meet you. You have such beautiful hair.

DD: Yes. I know.

Teach your kids to love the things that make them unique. (Also, teach your six year old not to agree with complements of herself out loud).

Anonymous wrote:So 4" taller than the average man is about 6'1".

That is not extraordinarily freakish tall. It is just taller than average.

I love it when men are 6-6'2.

I stopped saying it to my friend’s son after she pointed out that AA boys are often perceived as much older than they really are, which is a safety concern for them. I don’t have sons, but I know my DDs have dealt with inappropriate comments from grown men who claimed to think they were older.

So 4" taller than the average man is about 6'1".

That is not extraordinarily freakish tall. It is just taller than average.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sympathetic to OP. Teens and tweens are often sensitive about anything that makes them different and body changes are really sensitive. Most adult women love to have a nice rack but most 13 year old girls are pretty uncomfortable with it! Just don’t comment on kids’ looks unless you know them super well.

Boys like to be called tall.

If OPs child was a daughter then i could see her getting upset about being tall, but unless OPs son is well over 6 feet then I cannot fathom it upsetting him.

I think OP is projecting how she felt as a tall girl.

Now if OPs kid was short, I could definitely see him getting upset by comments. But a tall teen? Nah.

My 13 yr old DS in the 5th percentile for height wouldn't mind this "problem" one bit.

This is like complaining about being too good looking. Tall men have advantages.

I’m sympathetic to OP. Teens and tweens are often sensitive about anything that makes them different and body changes are really sensitive. Most adult women love to have a nice rack but most 13 year old girls are pretty uncomfortable with it! Just don’t comment on kids’ looks unless you know them super well.

Yeah, this was your issue and you’ve made it his.

-Signed a 4’10” adult who gets many comments about my height (or lack there if). It’s not a big deal.