Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We adopted DD at 30 days and never did this. She is now 6 and we are all very close as as a family. I held her every time I fed her with a bottle and although we did skin to skin I really dont think it makes any difference.
Dont overthink things OP. You want your new baby and your life to be as low maintenance and stress free as possible. Dont add things to make parenting harder.

That's really great that you found something that work for you.

OP wants some advice to help her try something she wants to try.

Whether it "makes parenting harder" and is worth it or not is up to HER, not you, and is not the point of this thread.

Keep. Up.

-np

Calm yourself, pp. OP asked for any advice from other adoptive parents. She has gotten advice about breastfeeding. It is also appropriate and kind to let her know that bonding will occur whether she chooses this route or not. She can then use all of this information to inform her decisions going forward.

Try this

https://www.lact-aid.com

Also, you don't need hormones to make milk. Breastfed my adopted kids w/o drugs

https://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/relactation/

Anonymous wrote:We adopted DD at 30 days and never did this. She is now 6 and we are all very close as as a family. I held her every time I fed her with a bottle and although we did skin to skin I really dont think it makes any difference.
Dont overthink things OP. You want your new baby and your life to be as low maintenance and stress free as possible. Dont add things to make parenting harder.

That's really great that you found something that work for you.

OP wants some advice to help her try something she wants to try.

Whether it "makes parenting harder" and is worth it or not is up to HER, not you, and is not the point of this thread.

Keep. Up.

-np

I agree with the PP. How will you feel if this isn't successful? If you're the "Oh well. No biggie" type person, maybe it's worth a try. I am assuming you don't have other children so maybe you don't know this yet. So many mothers beat themselves up if they are not successful at breastfeeding. Honestly, it seems like such a waste of effort feeling like a failure because your bodily functions aren't working a certain way. If you will be the latter person, don't go down that road. Enjoy the baby. Nobody cares if you breastfeed or not (except random strangers on DCUMs). I remember when not one person including the pediatricians batted an eye when I told them I wasn't breastfeeding. Nobody cares.

We adopted DD at 30 days and never did this. She is now 6 and we are all very close as as a family. I held her every time I fed her with a bottle and although we did skin to skin I really dont think it makes any difference.
Dont overthink things OP. You want your new baby and your life to be as low maintenance and stress free as possible. Dont add things to make parenting harder.

I induced lactation. It was a lot of work, but it was worth it for me. Good luck, OP!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tried comfort nursing with no hormones and it didn’t work at all...baby was upset that no milk came out and it was uncomfortable for me, so I stopped trying after a few days. And with a true newborn, you don’t want them to waste energy trying to get milk out when it’s not there. So I’m glad I tried to satisfy my own curiosity but I wouldn’t do it again! And as a practical matter, baby and I bonded over me providing him with bottles at all hours of the night

Which is why posters have been suggesting that OP visit a LC and look into an SNS or similar system. This would allow the baby to nurse, and still receive milk via pumped milk, donated milk, or formula.

Why go through the trouble? Dads can bond just as well with bottles.

Because she WANTS TO. WHY is this so hard on get?

Don’t worry your precious little heart over the fact that OP is doing something other than what you did. No one is saying you (or she) can’t / won’t / shan’t bond with baby without nursing. We are simply supplying OP with information on how to make comfort nursing work for her, which is what her question is about.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tried comfort nursing with no hormones and it didn’t work at all...baby was upset that no milk came out and it was uncomfortable for me, so I stopped trying after a few days. And with a true newborn, you don’t want them to waste energy trying to get milk out when it’s not there. So I’m glad I tried to satisfy my own curiosity but I wouldn’t do it again! And as a practical matter, baby and I bonded over me providing him with bottles at all hours of the night

Which is why posters have been suggesting that OP visit a LC and look into an SNS or similar system. This would allow the baby to nurse, and still receive milk via pumped milk, donated milk, or formula.

Why go through the trouble? Dads can bond just as well with bottles.

Anonymous wrote:I tried comfort nursing with no hormones and it didn’t work at all...baby was upset that no milk came out and it was uncomfortable for me, so I stopped trying after a few days. And with a true newborn, you don’t want them to waste energy trying to get milk out when it’s not there. So I’m glad I tried to satisfy my own curiosity but I wouldn’t do it again! And as a practical matter, baby and I bonded over me providing him with bottles at all hours of the night

Which is why posters have been suggesting that OP visit a LC and look into an SNS or similar system. This would allow the baby to nurse, and still receive milk via pumped milk, donated milk, or formula.