Anonymous wrote:DD had a terrible time at orientation -- felt it was cliquey -- and didn't make any connections. One of the parents posted how her OOS kid felt the same way and about 20 other parents commented on her post about the same thing for OOS kids. I didn't post our experience, but I did find it comforting that others had the same experience and it was not just my DD. Good news is that parents with older kids posted that they had similar orientation experiences but love the school once they attended in the fall.

My kids would die 1000 deaths if I had this sort of conversation about them on FB with peer parents.

DD had a terrible time at orientation -- felt it was cliquey -- and didn't make any connections. One of the parents posted how her OOS kid felt the same way and about 20 other parents commented on her post about the same thing for OOS kids. I didn't post our experience, but I did find it comforting that others had the same experience and it was not just my DD. Good news is that parents with older kids posted that they had similar orientation experiences but love the school once they attended in the fall.

I joined one and it is incredible how much bragging the parents do . Everyone posting pics of elaborate graduation cakes and exotic vacations.

Anonymous wrote:That's great PP but most middle school boys aren't known for their ability to organize and get it all done and handed in on time. Your kids must go to public school if they get all As. My sons went to a challenging private school (after a very easy public ES who gave them all As for no reason) and needed to be taught how to organize themselves. By HS, they were all set.

It's not just college. When I applied for grad school 10 years ago and went to a couple of open houses for accepted to students to compare programs, I was the only one there without my parents. I couldn't believe it. But none of the admissions people seemed at all fazed. Is it normal for parents to visit MA programs with their 23-year-old children?

Anonymous wrote:That's great PP but most middle school boys aren't known for their ability to organize and get it all done and handed in on time. Your kids must go to public school if they get all As. My sons went to a challenging private school (after a very easy public ES who gave them all As for no reason) and needed to be taught how to organize themselves. By HS, they were all set.

No.

That's great PP but most middle school boys aren't known for their ability to organize and get it all done and handed in on time. Your kids must go to public school if they get all As. My sons went to a challenging private school (after a very easy public ES who gave them all As for no reason) and needed to be taught how to organize themselves. By HS, they were all set.

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Anonymous wrote:gosh I am screwed, I do not use fb...what will I do when my son goes to college?? I am not kidding-I did not know this was a thing! What is the point?

It's not a thing for sane parents. College kids are (or should be) adults. Most parents cut the umbilical cord. We have four in or through college. This is definitely not a thing.

good to hear!! I cannot imagine micro managing on that level. I think my boys would be mortified.

I’m already different that I don’t micromanage my late elementary or middle school boys. I didn’t once know what their assignments were (unless they needed a specific supply) or homework, test schedule. They have been independent and pro-active from 4th grade on. They bring home all As. I never met a single MS teacher. I have friends that email and are up at the MS constantly.

As a kid, my parents were not hovering over me in MS/HS. It’s why we all managed to make an easy transition to college.

Tell them to land the helicopters STAT and allow their kids to be who they want to be.

The time for mommy & daddy coming to the rescue & single handedly controlling their child's happiness should be LONG over by the time they're in college.

I would suggest either ignoring the posts you find inane or try to be a constructive presence in the group by offering responses that encourage them to let go a bit. On wardrobes - "I think I'd let me child go to school in the clothes that make him feel comfortable and confident. If he's good with what he already owns, let him go in that and perhaps hold the clothing money aside in case he wants to buy some new things after getting to campus and seeing what people are wearing." On roommates - "How does your daughter feel about it? I remember my freshman year, I was paired with someone totally different from myself. It was a little hard to make a connection at first, but we figured it out and she ended up being the person who introduced me to live music, which I now love."

DD goes to college a plane ride away and we pay $70k. I definitely appreciate all the tips for hotels, restaurants, good furniture sources (not IKEA), moving companies, pod rentals, reliable car repair, etc.

Anonymous wrote:I’d be curious to know which colleges have ridiculous parents and which have parents sharing mostly useful and helpful info.
And there seems to be quite a difference when the group is established by the school or by parents.

One of the Ivy leave. Discussions is ridiculous. Tons of helicopters. Bargains about ikea used furniture- really? These are the people who are paying $75k per year for school. I was in total shock when I joined, but nothing can surprise me now.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be curious to know which colleges have ridiculous parents and which have parents sharing mostly useful and helpful info.

Emotional

All of them, and all of them.

Emotional?

Anonymous wrote:I’d be curious to know which colleges have ridiculous parents and which have parents sharing mostly useful and helpful info.

Emotional

All of them, and all of them.

I’d be curious to know which colleges have ridiculous parents and which have parents sharing mostly useful and helpful info.
And there seems to be quite a difference when the group is established by the school or by parents.