What happened to the nieces mom? Considering the fact that she only acts like this towards OP and her daughter, it sounds like the niece is jealous that OPs daughter still has her mom 24/7. Unlike the niece who is either splitting time between mom and new stepmom, or doesn't have a mom And she doesn't know how to express it and likely doesn't even understand what her feelings are.

OP, you sound like a bitch and a nightmare. Have some compassion for the kid for crying out loud

Anonymous wrote:You called a 3 year old who is having her whole family structure change and being forced to accept a whole new "family" into her life "SO hateful" and we're supposed to think the KID is the problem?

And supposedly 3 year old has a specific problem with OP and her DD? I'm beginning to think she rejects you because you are mean to her OP.

OP is this you? http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/729842.page

Story doesn't quite line up but you being a crazy person who is irrationally mad at a little girl sharing the spotlight DOES add up.

So in the course of this 3 year olds life her parents either got divorced or her mom died. Dad met someone new and is now getting married. 3 year old now has a whole new family to meet and get used to. That's a lot for a 3 year old. It's not unexpected they may act out or not act like perfect angels. I think you are handling this poorly OP

You called a 3 year old who is having her whole family structure change and being forced to accept a whole new "family" into her life "SO hateful" and we're supposed to think the KID is the problem?

A lady said "hello" to my almost 3 year old while we were waiting on line to check out. My son pointed at the elderly lady and said "You Stop!". I was mortified.

We've worked with him on saying nice words (hello) and not scowling at others. In just 2 weeks there's been a marked improvement.

I say this to say that 3 year old are difficult. 2 year olds will have tantrums but 3 year olds will have melt down and hurt your feelings. LOL.

What may work is ignorning her but introducing an object that you know she'd like and play with it in front of her. She may be so drawn in that she'll forget to be rude.

They can be a handful but they are still small children and reverse psychology works well.

She's three. She'll grow up. You need to.

Personally, I'd ask my sister--"Larla doesn't seem to like me very much. She says X and does Y. Any idea what's going on?" Then just listen.

Tell her that’s rude and not how we talk to people. Then you distract her and go back to what you were doing. If she tells you not tot all to your sister, you tell her you’re having a grown up conversation and she needs to find something else to do because children don’t tell grownups what to do.

You address it in the moment and stay consistent. You try and make her time with you otherwise fun, while making it clear adults don’t take orders from three year olds.

That 3 year old needs some extra love and compassion, OP. Since you are by age an adult, you need to step up your game and act like an adult. That means more smiles and kind words and warmth for this little child going through a lot of upheaval in her life.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, ease off... she's 3 and sounds like going through major upheaval. You are presumably an adult who can ignore a 3 yr olds rude instructions.

This.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, when I read that she was three my mouth dropped open. OP, are you for real? Where’s your adult perspective and understanding?

Yes. You’re describing a 3 yr old as hateful, OP. You need to chill.

Yeah, when I read that she was three my mouth dropped open. OP, are you for real? Where’s your adult perspective and understanding?

You know your sister is not her mom right?

Let me guess, OP.

The girls are the same age?

And your daughter is your first born?

Stop making this about you.