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Anonymous wrote:I'm glad I gave everyone the opportunity to pontificate and moralize about what I should be doing. You should thank me for giving you such great satisfaction!
Look. You need to get a grip. You sound hysterical. About a screener. That is months away. On the second week of summer.
It's really not very complicated. I was recently talking to a mom who has older kids, and she mentioned the IAAT. I didn't know what it was. That's why I asked. I asked now because I just found out about it now. If there's no need to take action now, great. But I wouldn't want to find out in December "oh you should have started prepping in September like everyone else". I prefer to have the proper information "too soon" rather than "too late" so I can make appropriate decisions. Don't you?
I live in the land of TJ crazy. Put two kids through AAP and a big TJ feeder. Have one at TJ now. And forget the fact a kid who can’t pass an aptitude test at a 91%, nationally normed, will never survive Math 4/5 at TJ. That kid is going to flounder in Algebra I honors in 7th in a strong middle school. Math teachers and parents who have BTDT aren’t telling you not to prep because there is some conspiracy to keep your kid out of Algebra. They are telling you because they have seen what happens again and again and again. Everyone thinks their kid is the special exception. They are not. And BTW—getting into TJ is not enough. They end up losing about 40-50 kids per class who can’t hack it or who or so miserable they leave. You do not want to send a kid there who can’t succeed. It will crush them and you.
I am not going to send DS to TJ. I already know that's not who he is. That's no reason, however, not to find out everything I can about the IAAT and how best to prepare for it.
Point is, you can’t change who your kid is. You can help them be the best version of themselves. But trying to fake aptitude doesn’t work.
I agree with you. But I also know that one test, on one day, does not necessarily measure aptitude. And also, it does no harm, even if you have the aptitude, to prepare for the test as best you can, such as by taking some practice tests. And it is my responsibility, as the parent, to find out everything I need to know about this test and how to prepare for it.
I am saying this because there was a suicide at TJ this year in the freshman class. And several suicidal kids dropped out. Mental health is a huge problem. You need to take a beat. Because you sound crazy. And that hurts your kid. You do not want your kid to be the suicidal kid on TJ Vents talking about how much he hates his parents for ruining his childhood.
You are reading way too much into a simple request for information. Can you even remember when you were putting your oldest kid through the school and you had no idea what any of the tests were? Did you appreciate people telling you to stop being crazy and hysterical when you asked what those tests were and how to prepare for them?