Some would say sign of endearment, but in return “I’m grown”

Georgia boy somebody’s been using that thing...
Well I knew a girl,,,

OP here. No guy has ever said I am beautiful. I am 33 but look like a kid.
This was said by my friends friend.

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Anonymous wrote:you’re a spinner

+1 This is what the guy was thinking, so he at least liked it.

+2

Who said it OP? A man judging your appearance can be demeaning at work, but maybe ok at a bar. If he came to you and said “you are beautiful” how would
You react? I am sure the guy meant it as a compliment. Nobody goes up to someone and tell them they are ugly.

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Anonymous wrote:Third time this week thatI’ve heard someone refer to an adult female as tiny. Does this obsession with being “tiny” have anything to do with Ariana Grande being in the news so much recently?

I think men like it because it makes them feel big and powerful, even if they’re not.

Agree. But I also think it's incredibly gross and creepy when men talk about women this way.

You’re morons. It’s a compliment of sorts on appearance. Inappropriate from a boss, appropriate on a date. Stop rolling out of bed in the morning looking to be offended.

Women are complimented because they're "small." Men are complimented because they're "big." Read into it what you want. We know the history of sexism and misogynistic behavior.

It's an old dumb expression that means your petite. No big deal except his overall attitudes may be dated.

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Anonymous wrote:Third time this week thatI’ve heard someone refer to an adult female as tiny. Does this obsession with being “tiny” have anything to do with Ariana Grande being in the news so much recently?

I think men like it because it makes them feel big and powerful, even if they’re not.

Agree. But I also think it's incredibly gross and creepy when men talk about women this way.

You’re morons. It’s a compliment of sorts on appearance. Inappropriate from a boss, appropriate on a date. Stop rolling out of bed in the morning looking to be offended.

Anonymous wrote:The feminist creed is such a bore.

I've heard men referred to as "sweet things" by women more times than I could count. But I guess that's different.

It’s not.

I trust the sweet things are getting bedded less than the pieces of meat.

The feminist creed is such a bore.

I've heard men referred to as "sweet things" by women more times than I could count. But I guess that's different.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't like it. I try to focus on being strong, fit, and capable, not disappearing to make men feel more powerful.

Making men feel more powerful is some woman’s interpreting what she thinks it means. As a man, I do not see a small woman and feel powerful. It’s just shows how women are clueless about men. OP it means he think you are tiny. Some men like really small women and other do not. You are most likely getting physical close to him and he is surprised by how small you are. As in oh wow she is tiny. I know kids who are bigger vs her. It can be a turn off for a lot of reasons.

He hopes it makes his wang look bigger.

It's an expression that's been around for a while. It's not about power or objectification, it's an observation. I wouldn't read too much into it but it's not in anyway intended to be negative.

Anonymous wrote:If you have to ask whether you like it or not, you don’t. My guess is that you’re not sure how to articulate why. It’s the word “thing.” You’ve been objectified. Basically he said you’re not a person, but a “thing.” That may not have been his intention, but that’s how it comes off.

I wonder what life is like, constantly reading into things and searching for ways to be affronted.

Anonymous wrote:If you have to ask whether you like it or not, you don’t. My guess is that you’re not sure how to articulate why. It’s the word “thing.” You’ve been objectified. Basically he said you’re not a person, but a “thing.” That may not have been his intention, but that’s how it comes off.

You need counseling ASAP